Aromantic?

I've been thinking about this for a while, since i first heard about aromanticism. i wonder if i am aromantic or my past CSA just messed up with me.

Anyone here is aromantic? or knows someone who is? or knows something about it?

i would like to hear your experiences, thoughts or i'd just appreciate any input really.

Thanks.

ps. i just did some further research and have found more about asexuality and sexual aversion as well. i am confused by all these informations. i guess i just need someone to talk with about all this.
i'd like to have a normal life (bf, husband, kids and enjoy them) but my thoughts and feelings dont go in the same direction. i am not happy as i am and dont know what to do about it or if i should just give up.

Hello, sinking. Is professional help and option?

I have read this post and had to look it up to see what it is. I have no answers for you, just wanted to say I hope you find an answer your looking for.

I am aromantic. You do not need professional help as it is not an aversion reaction, it simply is. As sexuality is fluid, so is romantic attraction. I am romantically attracted to no one, never have, never will be. And that's okay. That being said, that doesn't mean you can't have the things you listed.

I was in a partnership (basically married) with another aromantic person for several years. I know three aromantic couples who are married, and one has a child, and they are happy as they are.

Aromantic does not me "I do not feel love" it just means "I feel love differently" and there is nothing wrong with that.

Thank you for your answers.

Maybe professional help could help me better understand my real feelings because i have a lot of confusion about this whole thing, but i have already been in therapy for 6 years (for other reasons) and do not want to go back - even if for different reasons or with someone else.

Grey Matter, i hope you're right and i can find someone that will be a good match with me. you gave me some hope. thank you.

I would go with past CSA messing with me and work on that. I would want to feel whatever there is available to be felt, being human, and having been attracted/fallen in love with my husband through our romantic feelings back 30 years ago, would not have wanted to miss that experience for anything. Of course, if I felt aromantic, I would not know what I was "missing" but, looking around, there are experiences I can see other's having that I aspire to?

Romantic love isn't the only love of value. Love can be found in the most obscure ways you can think of, and sometimes it just comes in a form that is "I love you quite a lot platonically. I would like to spend the rest of my life with you.".

The issue with getting professional help when it comes to romantic attraction not being felt, psychologist, therapist, the like, are largely under-educated on these topics. The last time I told a doctor I was asexual, for example, they ran a load of blood work and scans only to find nothing was wrong with my hormones and I simply don't fancy sleeping with anyone. I can see the same thing happening when bringing up levels of romantic attraction.

They don't see it as a thing that happens, but rather something that needs to be fixed or corrected. Your best bet is speaking to people who are aromantic and self education, I think.

Thank you for answering.

i guess i am confused because i have zero sexual experience and lots of confusing and contrasting non-sexual (but maybe romantical?) experiences with people at the emotional, physical and mental level.

maybe chosing a label for myself and my sexual identity is not so crucial since in the end it is what it is, and with everyone its different, but it is the confusion and the not knowing and wondering and lacking of datum ponits that hurts me.

also maybe because i have the hope that if i knew what i like and dislike once for all i could take a step in the right direction while at the moment i feel totally lost and without hope. because it seems like i want what i dont want but i dont want what i have either.

thank you for your support and letting me talk about this.

I'm heteroromantic (or as I prefer to say Hetero-Asexual) so I can understand what you are going through, I know how it can be to have a confusing romantic/sexual lifestyle.