[Terraminator]

Sooo...I don't know exactly what to call this. Basically, I can ONLY be attracted (physically/sexually, I find it difficult to love) to sociopathic, sadistic individuals. Obviously, you can see why this would cause problems for me. As an example of the sort of people I'd be attracted to are: Hannibal Lecter, Dexter Morgan, The Governor. I know it seems kinda stupid listing off fictional characters but that might be some help.

Also, I can't even find people like this. I have once or twice and it was great as far as like sexual stuff went, but emotionally, it was really really bad. I have this image of what my relationships would be like but it's so far off that I can't even maintain any real relationships at all, and it sucks. Can anyone tell me what this thing is called, or others that have the same thing? I'd really love to relate to someone. I feel so alone on this.

[LiteraryLark]

Okay. There's a SERIOUS difference between being attracted to those type of people and actually wanting to be in a relationship with those people, because those type of people will rape, beat, and murder you.

I have an attraction to Nazis and Hitler and sometimes I like dressing up in a Nazi uniform, but that doesn't mean I'd want to actually date a Nazi in real life, because they are hateful and violent.

Do not ever put yourself into that type of situation where you're actually in a relationship with those type of people. They will only hurt you and likely try to kill you. If you're seriously interested in dating those type of people see a therapist immediately because that's not even relatively safe.

[Terraminator]

Yeah, I mean, I consider myself aromantic. I have never truly LOVED someone. I've only been attracted to someone sexually, or platonically, like a sibling or something. I have no interest in being in a romantic relationship with anyone. But it sucks only being able to be attracted to dangerous individuals. They aren't very out there about themselves...so it's not like I can easily find them anyway. So I can't even be sexually involved with anyone normal...

[Anaconda]

It's called Stockholm syndrome, Terraminator.
And, as far as you're only sexually attracted to what you call sadistic sociopaths, and don't submit generally, I don't think it's alarming. (;

[Haunted1]

I'm with you on this. I find psychopaths, and the like extremely attractive including, but not limited too.
Hannibal Lecter
The Govenor from Walking Dead.
Daryl from the Walking Dead.
Reese from Person of Interest.
Jason for Friday the 13th.
The Joker from The Dark knight rises.
Huck from Scandal.
The Hitcher from The Hitcher.
Hoffman from SAW
and my favorite is Otis from House of 1,000 corpses.
Just a heads up Otis is a rapist, murderer and a necropheliac. I always think he's extremely attractive that doesn't mean I'd marry them I just want to sleep with them. It doesn't make you weird or mean there's something wrong with you, some bad guys just look really good.

[diningondisability]

I am with one now. She is my ex partner I am her rm. I am an unwilling paying prisoner. If anyone thinks that lesbians or women can not be as cruel as men.. be advised and beware. Hannibal and Dexter are nothing next to the 8 years I have spent unknowingly someone whose sole motivation for everything is to harm and humiliate me to feed her sadistic evil. Get help before its too late. Dexter is great. Nothing to do with this. PLEASE. Dont fall into this. Yes I did like narcissists. A personality type. I dont know why yet but righ now I am trying to escape with what is left of my life. Glad I found your post. God bless us all. This is topic MUST be covered in detail in the future!! Speak out!

[Notoriousglo]

"Normal " people can be attracted to these types, too. It doesn't necessarily mean anything.

[SnakeCharmer]

DiningonDisability, it's not too late for you to get out of there. You don't have to stay with someone who enjoys hurting and humiliating you. If you're on disability, you can get low-cost to no-cost (to you) therapy that can help you break free.

Now ... ahem ... I find myself embarrassed. Terraminator and others who find yourselves attracted to dangerous types, maybe sadistic, narcissistic, sociopathic types who could do you lasting damage .... this is not something I would recommend for others to try, but maybe it would be a good thing for you to look into the bondage and discipline or master/slave communities.

Not just hooking up with random individuals who might be way more than you bargained for, but hooking into actual community groups that offer social activities and dating possibilities with like-minded people who are willing to learn about and practice respect within sexual practices revolving around bondage and ... well, I'm not a member of this community myself, but I have friends who are. I don't know exactly what's practiced in master and slave relationships, but so far no one I know has had anything Terrible (with a capitol T) happen, although according to my values some of it sounds fairly terrible (with a little t.)

I mean, it's stuff I would personally find humiliating and degrading and I wouldn't do it. But isn't that sort of the point of what you're looking for? Without the danger of ending up beaten to a pulp and dumped in an alley. Well, one woman I know wanted to be dumped in an alley with her clothes ripped and her hands bound with winos coming to look her over. It happened, but nothing Terrible happened because part of the agreement was for her Master to keep watch to make sure she didn't get raped or murdered, just pawed a little bit.

There are other posters here at PsychCentral who have written things that indicate they know how these communities operate. Maybe they will post and correct anything I've gotten wrong.

From what people have told me, it seems possible to engage in these unconventional sexual practices without the emotional side feeling terrible and soul-destroying and wretched. Within every community there will be people who go from mild to wild. It could afford some choice, more choice than hoping to find some masochistic psychopath roaming the streets who'll decide to stop before he utterly destroys you.