Blow job virgin

How do guys feel about oral sex? I gave my crush oral sex for the first time Sunday night.I wasn't pushed or forced into doing it.it just felt like the right think to do and I enjoyed it very much. But it was my first time ever giving oral sex at all and I was worried about my performance and if he enjoyed it as much as I did.does this matter to guys if a girl is new to giving oral sex? Honest opinions,please.

Hmm depends on the guy and if he likes you. How old are you?

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From my experience as long as you keep your teeth well away from his pride and joy your good. Like all things every guy has different likes but unlike us girls they seem to be more comfortable asking for and telling you want they enjoy

As for the act of giving oral sex you might find practising on a popsicle fun and you can get him show you his technique Sex doesn't have to be as serious and intense as Hollywood portrays, some of the best sex I've had I giggled the whole time.

Giggle and fun sex is fun, I agree. This normally happens when trying something new.

First please keep in mind that there is tons of people out there that think oral sex is safe sex. Its not. Please be careful.

Ok that parent in my is gone...... I do not enjoy giving oral sex to hubby, but he loves it. So I do it for him. Im glad you enjoy it, but make sure your a taker too.

As a guy who has both given and received blowjobs, I think it is pretty straighforward. Did he keep his erection and did he ejaculate? If so then you were right on, if not, then he has some problems. There is not a lot that can be done wrong when sucking on a penis, teeth is one and changing your rythym when he's near orgasm is about all I can think of. And believe me, there is no real way to practice giving a blowjob before hand. It's like, okay I've got his penis in my mouth...let's see what I can do with it and what I am capable of.
Don't doubt yourself, or be hard on yourself. You already did him a great service by just putting it in your mouth.

Yes, he was still erected and I think he came. It's was my first but he didn't complain though

Oh baby, you would know if he came. LOL

We'll, am not sure if it was him or my own saliva I was tasting. But I did taste something a bit sweet actually.

Sounds like you were doing a good job turning him on and what you tasted was pre-cum. Some guys only produce a small amount and others produced noticeably a lot, but with buzz bee you will know when he reaches full climax.

enjoy the amazing path of discovery at your own pace and enjoy every moment of it

We were all virgins once.

I am sure he appreciated the effort if nothing else. I think it's important to take it slowly with his penis, tease it and leave him wanting to put it in your mouth. Then slowly envelope it with your mouth and make noises of appreciation so he knows you are enjoying yourself.

The question you should ask is rather: Is it a big deal if a girl DOESNT want to give a blowjob? Because I think it's a dealbreaker for a lot of guys.

Personally, I'm not really a fan of giving BJs. It's not that I am bad at it, mostly gotten "good reviews" (except with one guy when I was really inexperienced, but he was nice enough/selfish enough to give me directions). It's just that... I don't know. I actually find a bit gross. Let's be honest, genitals are not very nice to look at. And, well, it grosses me out that they taste differently (not just the sperm, the actual penis). Like, makes you think their hygiene is way different, or stuff like that. And... I don't know. It's just sort of gross. The turn-on of it, and the good part of it, is the reaction you get. But I try to avoid doing it for as long as possible, but guys insist on giving ME oral (sigh), so I feel like I have to return the favour. I don't mind receiving it, but if you're not good at it, sticking whatever in there works much better - for me, at least. Besides, makes me self-conscious. I'd rather just everyone kept their mouths out of it. :P

If you have any pointers on how to dislike it less, then feel free to give them to me. And if you know any guys who DON'T like oral, please fax them to me ASAP.

One way i appreciate giving it is by thinking that it is a very private and vulnerable part of themselves that i have been given access to. Its more intimate than normal sex, you have to go face to face with it and talk to it, and then be nice to it with your tongue. It's sort of like meeting an entirely different side to your partner, their dark side if you will. Then you get to come to terms with it and get along with it and finally love it, seperate to, but also in conjunction with the human it is attached to.

I hope this helps.

How old is everyone who doesn't enjoy it? I'm just asking and find it interesting that I used to hate it when I was younger but now I enjoy giving it very much. It just seemed like it took forever and my mouth would get tired, etc. Now, I don't think my husband and I ever have sex without me giving him oral. He loves it but so do I. I think part of the problem (why you don't think you like it, and maybe you just don't) could be your experience level, your confidence level, and how aroused you are to begin with-I know a lot of us are on libido killing meds. I know except when my husband and I first met, we were like rabbits. I wasn't on meds but I got back on meds quickly and the sex died off fast but I was still just having sex with him to make him happy and satisfied the majority of our relationship. I think that's a mixture of meds, wrong diagnosis, and major self-esteem issues. For some reason, after I found out my diagnosis about a week ago and started Lamictal, my libido has dramatically increased-like we hadn't had sex for maybe 8 months and then all of a sudden 3-4 days ago, I can't get enough and not only that, my self-esteem issues went out the window and now I guess you could say I've become "exhibitionary."

Anyway, I think I'm getting off topic. I was just saying it would be interesting to know what caused it because it's the best either of us has ever had. But that brings me to experience. My husband and I both came to the relationship with a good 12-15 partners each and I had to work at making him ejaculate by just a blow job in the beginning. I had to learn what he liked and didn't like, pick up some new techniques here and there, like, this might sound funny but if it's the taste, get some creamy peanut butter and use that with your mouth. It works if you're inexperienced or if you don't like the taste actually and it will make him orgasm for sure. But make sure you're comfortable with it first so if it sounds hot to you it will probably be twice as hot to him.

If he was still hard after you thought he came, it was probably just preejaculate. Some guys can stay hard and most guys need 20 min to 1 hr for it to get hard again.

I'm surprised that some of my "awful" bipolar moments are actually becoming useful. Lol.

Anyway, if anyone wants anymore tips or has questions, you can private message me.
Credentials (lol): My husband and I both studied sex in college, we're very open about our sexuality and he has a BA in Psychology and I have a BS in Biology.

Recommended reading: The Guide to Getting It On (this was one of our textbooks)

I don't always come this way, but it's still good foreplay and very much appreciated.

My husband reminded me that I like it because I associate it with something that feels good for me too. To do that, you could do something that you like or have him do something or find something you like to do normally but find a way to do it while you give him a blowjob. Even if you have to masteurbate while he puts it in your face, if you can make yourself have an orgasm, it will be more intense with such intimacy, for both of you, that you'll learn to love giving blowjobs and if you feel comfortable doing that with a guy, he'll probably eventually want to marry you, lol. So make sure it's someone you can see yourself with for awhile or at least that you know you love.

I think most straight guys like their girls to be a little dirty in the bedroom, enough self confidence to do something like get a few tattoos without being apologetic about them (which I guess is the same as carrying yourself well, in a way), and still feel he's able to take you home to meet mom. Some guys may not even know that's what they like because they've never dated or met someone they were attracted to that fits that description.

Also, just to throw this in here, it's a good sign when a guy is excited (in a negative or positive way for you to meet his mother but doesn't introduce you until at least 2 months later, in other words, he talks about his mom and family a lot, negatively or positively. (I'm aware of how Freudian all of this sounds and I'm not a huge fan of Freud but he did become famous for a reason). But be weary sometimes because there are some guys that know this and will take advantage. That's when you have to trust your instincts, make sure you're not having a bipolar moment (if you are bipolar) or codependent and not treated.

I've had out of maybe the 15 boyfriends I've had, all of the guys who have broken up with me because I was too clingy and codependent right off the bat, broke up with me because I was clingy right off the bat and these relationships only lasted a couple months, then I became crazy and obsessive to where we couldn't even be friends. Those were relationships, now that I look back on it, where I was having my worst manic or even depressed episodes, was when a guy broke up with me, when I at baseline, the real me, I did the breaking up, even if he was the hottest guy in any room, I would break up with him if there wasn't something I liked about him or if he cheated. When I have bipolar episodes, I don't even care if the guy sleeps with someone else or treated me like ****. Interesting.

Sorry, I'm new the knowing that I'm Bipolar so I've just been going back and looking at my past behaviors and how I would handle something at baseline in order to help myself recognize and maybe try to stop the destabilization if I see it coming.

I'm a scientist, I think about things completely different than most people. So if I figure something out while writing I start taking notes on what I'm thinking about instead. I hope that makes sense. Lol