[ak482]

Okay, I'm ready to take the plunge, sell my soul if you will. As some of you may know from my earlier thread, I'm a sad-sack 31-year old male virgin. I've just about given up hope of ever having sex for free (I'm on a casual sex site, but I have the sneaking feeling it's a huge scam). I DIRELY NEED SEX, and I'm at the point where I'm willing to save some money and go visit a legal brothel here in the US. I have 2 questions though before I make the move:

1) What is the rough cost/time of each session? I'm looking for intercourse, nothing crazy at first.

2) Aside from someone having an STD (impossible for me) or being a psycho-type (not me), would a worker turn down a guy for any reason?

I feel so dirty and embarrassed asking this, but I'm at my end. Finding love is proving impossible, so I'm looking for sex now. I truly despise that I've sunk to this, but it's this or be a pathetic, lowly virgin

Hello, the cost is roughly that of psychotherapy, about 100+ per hour. i recommend the 30 minute option though.

[Timgt5]

Originally Posted by ak482

Okay, I'm ready to take the plunge, sell my soul if you will. As some of you may know from my earlier thread, I'm a sad-sack 31-year old male virgin. I've just about given up hope of ever having sex for free (I'm on a casual sex site, but I have the sneaking feeling it's a huge scam). I DIRELY NEED SEX, and I'm at the point where I'm willing to save some money and go visit a legal brothel here in the US. I have 2 questions though before I make the move:

1) What is the rough cost/time of each session? I'm looking for intercourse, nothing crazy at first.

2) Aside from someone having an STD (impossible for me) or being a psycho-type (not me), would a worker turn down a guy for any reason?

I feel so dirty and embarrassed asking this, but I'm at my end. Finding love is proving impossible, so I'm looking for sex now. I truly despise that I've sunk to this, but it's this or be a pathetic, lowly virgin

I understand your anxiety at asking this, but this forum was designed for all manner of sex questions including yours, so its ok to ask.

Of course a sex worker could say no and refuse to take your money, the only other reason I can think of besides the ones you have mentioned would be hygiene. Out of respect for said person, I recommend taking a proper shower and checking your breath before you head out. Making her life more pleasant, will get you a better experience for your money.

As for the cost in can vary depending on where you go. If you can afford the flight, the best safe values are in Europe where it is actually legal ( The Netherlands for example)

If you are going to Nevada, look these guys up:

Mustang Ranch

This will give you a starting point.

If you pursue this, just make sure you use good judgment and proper precautions.

[MotownJohnny]

Nevada requires condom use, regular std exams and HIV tests for sex workers, and the guy is examined on the spot for any signs of std's such as sores or discharges.

The rate is negotiated between the client and sex worker. They work as independent contractors so it is up to them, within a customary range.

Remember, it is illegal in Clark County (Las Vegas). And it is enforced, so don't get in trouble. Fly into Reno.

Why despise yourself? You have a fundamental biological need. Practice will make you a better partner when you do meet someone.

[ak482]

Thanks for all the tips. Paying for sex seems so dirty, even if it's legal in parts of Nevada, but I've got to do what I've got to do. Unless one of these socialsex.com girls decides to actually meet up even when they say they want to, this is my only recourse.

Europe is out of the question as it is out of my price range.

[twoper]

The big-name legal brothels in Nevada will charge you an arm and a leg. I mean the Mustang Ranch, the Wild Horse Ranch, and I believe there's one more. The girl will hustle you for at least $500, might try to get $1000+ from you. They have to pay steep daily fees to work there and so it gets passed onto the customer.

What about finding an escort where you live? Eros.com is a good site to start on. Myredbook.com is also good and has a reviews section so you can make sure you're not going to be ripped off/faced with a cop. I know it won't be legal, but a ton of men do it and come out fine.

[ak482]

Originally Posted by twoper

The big-name legal brothels in Nevada will charge you an arm and a leg. I mean the Mustang Ranch, the Wild Horse Ranch, and I believe there's one more. The girl will hustle you for at least $500, might try to get $1000+ from you. They have to pay steep daily fees to work there and so it gets passed onto the customer.

What about finding an escort where you live? Eros.com is a good site to start on. Myredbook.com is also good and has a reviews section so you can make sure you're not going to be ripped off/faced with a cop. I know it won't be legal, but a ton of men do it and come out fine.

Thanks for the advice, but no, no, a billion times no. I work in an industry where any kind of conviction would not only cost me the job that I have, but would make it so hard for me to get another job in that field (plus the stigma of having that kind of conviction). So I don't even want to come near that sort of thing.

Getting a hooker in the states seems like a nightmare.

[ak482]

Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

Getting a hooker in the states seems like a nightmare.

Yes it is, the laws are pretty tough. It seems to be one of those that fall under the 'get tough on crime' types here in the states.

[ocdwifeofsociopath]

I happen to know that the big names in Nevada charge by the most small service. each particular detail is separated completely. Be prepared for a large expense. You might try buying a flesh light instead? I know not the same, but better than Rosy Palm. Toys can be good too, even for men. And much more affordable.

Originally Posted by ocdwifeofsociopath

I happen to know that the big names in Nevada charge by the most small service. each particular detail is separated completely. Be prepared for a large expense. You might try buying a flesh light instead? I know not the same, but better than Rosy Palm. Toys can be good too, even for men. And much more affordable.

He needs the real thing. It's psychological. As a guy myself I understand. But I'm not trying to put you down, but he's a 31 year old virgin and wants that tag off his back.

[ocdwifeofsociopath]

I admit, I forgot that with my last post

[Silent_Tears_17]

Isnt it legal in Montana. I mean traveling is fun, but that might help. Or, maybe try something like flirt.com. its just for casual sex, its free, and you could find someone close by....

[Perna]

Originally Posted by ak482

I feel so dirty and embarrassed asking this, but I'm at my end. Finding love is proving impossible, so I'm looking for sex now.

I would rethink how you are going about this; what sex you have will influence how you feel about sex in the future and this route does not look good to me for helping you perform and feel good if you do find a friend/lover; 31 is awfully early to give up on real, loving relationships. I would work on my perception of myself, my feelings, women as individuals, love and sex.

[ak482]

Originally Posted by Perna

I would rethink how you are going about this; what sex you have will influence how you feel about sex in the future and this route does not look good to me for helping you perform and feel good if you do find a friend/lover; 31 is awfully early to give up on real, loving relationships. I would work on my perception of myself, my feelings, women as individuals, love and sex.

Well apparently having had sex is a prerequisite for love. I'm sick of everyone I know having relationships and these pleasures and me never having even come close. I've not only not had intercourse, I've never had any sexual arousal from a woman, EVER!!!! I need something, anything. I don't regard women as mere sex objects, but I'm sick to death of not having any pleasure. And I'm sorry I don't want anybody to tell me to suggest finding a fellow virgin, I NEED SEX AND I NEED IT NOW!!!!!!!!!! Apologies for shouting, I'm at my wit's end with everything.

[Poppy Princess]

Why not a fellow virgin? Just curious.

[MotownJohnny]

Originally Posted by ak482

Well apparently having had sex is a prerequisite for love. I'm sick of everyone I know having relationships and these pleasures and me never having even come close. I've not only not had intercourse, I've never had any sexual arousal from a woman, EVER!!!! I need something, anything. I don't regard women as mere sex objects, but I'm sick to death of not having any pleasure. And I'm sorry I don't want anybody to tell me to suggest finding a fellow virgin, I NEED SEX AND I NEED IT NOW!!!!!!!!!! Apologies for shouting, I'm at my wit's end with everything.

I know, this may be a question of men and women viewing it all differently. Sex and relationships, "love" can be easily separated in the mind by most guys. We have a biological drive that says "I need it" as you state. And there is nothing wrong with that. At all.

If it is 2 consenting adults doing nothing harmful or illegal, what is the problem? Perfectly legal in Nevada everywhere except Clark County/Vegas.

Go for it, get some experience, get some release of physical and psychological tension. Don't feel guilty, don't feel ashamed. If you have a buddy who is unattached, take him, make a bro's trip out of it. Hell, if I had the time I'd offer to go with you myself. It's been a while since I've been in a relationship, my last one really broke my heart, I'm not ready for that again, but I'm not dead yet by any means,

Dude, just do it, you won't be sorry. Rite of passage, you're entitled and overdue.

All I will say is make sure it's well planned, you like the girl you're seeing and I wouldn't recommend making this a habit. Paying for sex once or maybe a couple of times is fine, but you don't want to be that guy who's payed for sex 50 or 60 times.

Enjoy the experience and then use it as a positive for getting a GF. You'll no longer have that subconscious " I'm a virgin " thing going on around women. Just don't expect the sex to be mindblowing, and don't expect it to do too much with your confidence around women. It'll help a little, but that's it.

[ak482]

Originally Posted by Poppy Princess

Why not a fellow virgin? Just curious.

It would have to be a virgin along the same lines as me, someone who needs sex but just hasn't had any. I'm running out of patience, as I've said women find virgins my age a turnoff. I thought it was noble, boy that might have been the dumbest thought I've ever had. More than anything, it's the feeling that any basic pleasure any human being can have is never meant for me. I'm being teased, but it's not happening for real. I have 3 1/2 years to find sex and/or love. If neither is achieved by my 35th birthday, what's the point?

I've seen articles on "practical advantages" of being an older virgin. Are they either patronizing people like me or on something? If someone chooses that lifestyle, that's great. For someone like me, it's more than degrading. That's why I'm looking into paying for sex. It's that or have an empty, useless life because those pleasures are not meant for me.

[MotownJohnny]

Originally Posted by ak482

It would have to be a virgin along the same lines as me, someone who needs sex but just hasn't had any. I'm running out of patience, as I've said women find virgins my age a turnoff. I thought it was noble, boy that might have been the dumbest thought I've ever had. More than anything, it's the feeling that any basic pleasure any human being can have is never meant for me. I'm being teased, but it's not happening for real. I have 3 1/2 years to find sex and/or love. If neither is achieved by my 35th birthday, what's the point?

I've seen articles on "practical advantages" of being an older virgin. Are they either patronizing people like me or on something? If someone chooses that lifestyle, that's great. For someone like me, it's more than degrading. That's why I'm looking into paying for sex. It's that or have an empty, useless life because those pleasures are not meant for me.

I have absolutely no experience with this, no clue if it would work, but what if you did post on one of those adult dating sites something along the lines of "31 yo hetero male virgin is seeking a mature, sexually aggressive woman to be is first and show him the ropes. Not necessarily looking for a relationship, but am looking for someone to help make him feel like a man."

I dunno, just a random thought, I'm sure there are women out there who would love the opportunity to initiate a guy. If you posted, nothing says you even have to reply.

I'll tell you this, I feel your pain. I was never a one night stand guy, never had casual sex, only been with 4 women my entire life. And it has been the better part of 20 years. I am too messed up to even consider dating at this time, but I hope I can solve my problems and get there. I feel your frustration all around. I would reconsider at this point the casual sex thing myself, even just for one night of relief. I don't want to sound like a creep or a pig, but sex is a basic drive, guys need it. And, well, "it's just you and your hand tonight" only goes so far towards satisfying that drive.

Maybe give it a try. Otherwise, check you calendar and let me know when we can go to Reno.

[Confusedinomicon]

Try around las vegas. (Not the clark county but about an hour away at pahrump) There are legal brothels there but it will be several hundreds of dollars. You could probably google the webpages for the brothels.

[ak482]

Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon

Try around las vegas. (Not the clark county but about an hour away at pahrump) There are legal brothels there but it will be several hundreds of dollars. You could probably google the webpages for the brothels.

Ugh, why can't more states have legal brothels. That's kind of out of my price range. I just feel more and more like sex isn't meant for me

[allme]

Originally Posted by ak482

Ugh, why can't more states have legal brothels. That's kind of out of my price range. I just feel more and more like sex isn't meant for me

Don't give up!

I work in the escort industry - I am not an escort but actually just a receptionist for an international agency. It isn't cheap and if it is, I would ask questions!

[ak482]

Originally Posted by Lycanthrope

All I will say is make sure it's well planned, you like the girl you're seeing and I wouldn't recommend making this a habit. Paying for sex once or maybe a couple of times is fine, but you don't want to be that guy who's payed for sex 50 or 60 times.

Enjoy the experience and then use it as a positive for getting a GF. You'll no longer have that subconscious " I'm a virgin " thing going on around women. Just don't expect the sex to be mindblowing, and don't expect it to do too much with your confidence around women. It'll help a little, but that's it.

I have no plans to make it a habit. I never wanted to do it, I swore I would never do it, but I feel I have no recourse. No woman wants a little boy like me who never once has even had intimacy at my age. It's the scarlet V hanging all over me, and I promise you I will not be a 40-year old virgin, one way or another.

[AppalachianAxis]

Originally Posted by ak482

I have no plans to make it a habit. I never wanted to do it, I swore I would never do it, but I feel I have no recourse. No woman wants a little boy like me who never once has even had intimacy at my age. It's the scarlet V hanging all over me, and I promise you I will not be a 40-year old virgin, one way or another.

Sex isn't everything. It does not define a boy from a man and virginity does not decrease the quality of one's character. No matter how old I may get, 40 year old virgin or beyond, if a woman turns her back on me because I lack sexual experience, then that woman is utterly not worth my attention or affection. Same goes for anyone of either gender.
Just my opinion.