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Old May 18, 2016, 04:12 PM
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this is a real situation of mother son gsa going on currently. i am 28, she is 48 and incarcerated for 4 more years. used to visit her. i do not anymore. bc of how aroused i become. ashamed would be an understatement. she is and always has been pretty but its the silent grins while making eye contact are weird. is she maybe aware of my thoughts? adopted @2, made contact in 07'. in prison then and now. she talks about holding me tight, touching my skin and even kissing me upon release. help me

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Old May 23, 2016, 12:15 PM
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(((Hugs))). Sounds like a very awkward and confusing situation. Your feelings of arousal are not shameful. They are just feelings. It sounds like she is a good looking woman, whom to you is practically a stranger. I think most people would be physically excited by an attractive stranger flirting with them. Your rational mind knows that it is wrong, which...well anyone who has ever browsed a porn site knows that this is not a terribly uncommon taboo fantasy. But IRL it is incest. Your mother is being terribly in appropriate, however. This woman carried you for 9+ mnths and gave birth to you! Obviously, she is sexually frustrated being in prison for that long, but that is no excuse for her behavior towards you. She is a sick lady. I think it would be best to talk to a trained professional to get advice on how to set firm clear boundaries with her and how best to approach her with them. If she is not able to respect your boundaries or gets irate at the Meer thought that she is behaving at all inappropriately.. then it is probably in your best interest to cut ties with her all together. She has been absent most of your life and what you actually need from her is A MOTHER! If you want to explore your maternal sexually desires, by all means watch some milf porn, and join one of the many online casual hook up sites. You are a young virile 28 yr old man.. be specific about what you are looking for and I'm sure you will have more cougars than you know what do do with vying for your attention! be safe and I hope everything works out for you..... But whatever you do...DO NOT HAVE SEX W/ YOUR MOTHER!!
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Old May 23, 2016, 06:41 PM
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Hello bowser93: I take it this is your biological mother... but you were adopted by someone else at age 2. Is that correct? The two of you are basically still strangers. Despite what one sees on TV my impression, from things I have read, is that these sorts of reunions often don't go all that well.

I don't know what your mother is incarcerated for. Perhaps what she has been doing, when you've seen her, is somehow connected to what got her into trouble in the first place. It's possible she has her own mental health struggles & that these contributed to her doing whatever it is she did. I think you can be confident that she cannot read your thoughts. However, it is certainly possible that she is skilled at using her "feminine wiles" to her advantage with a handsome young man. She may not know how to do differently. After all, she's been locked up for how many years?

Personally I don't see any shame here. Although she is, as I interpret your post, your biological mother... the two of you are still almost strangers. And, as you noted, she is a pretty woman. From my perspective, what you're experiencing is simply pretty normal male behavior! Most of us are programmed to be attracted to women... especially pretty women. It's just the way it works. Now having said that, certainly this situation is awkward. And it's one you no doubt want to handle carefully.

I don't know how long it has been since you visited your mother or whether you want to resume visiting her. If you're comfortable just not going back, that would certainly be the simplest solution. But, are you going to carry around a load of guilt if you don't see her again? If so, then I think you may want to consider talking this situation over, at some length, with a therapist... someone who can help you to sort through your emotions & come up with some strategies for how to handle the situation. This isn't something that can be accomplished here on PC or in one or two therapy sessions. It's going to take a while to figure out. But from what you wrote, it sounds like you have 4 years.

I wish you the best with regard to this most difficult situation.
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Old May 25, 2016, 03:30 AM
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to include specifics because this is very sad to me and i want to remain anonymous. i can answer a few, however, she is my blood mother. her mistakes include, drugs and a hit n run resulting in a death. 18 years no parole.

the first actual physical meeting was when i went to the beach for senior week in 05'. i showed out, got arrested for public intox. booked in SAME jail she was waiting for trial.

adopted family bails me out and set up an interaction between her and i (through glass) of course. he actually had to bring adoption papers prove our blood relation since my name was changed

when she smiled at me i cant describe the senses of joy, fear, embarrassment, arousal and hope it gave me.

then letters started. my cousins told me when i was 6 or 7 that the singing pretty young lady that i was watching swing over a pond resembled my mom. that girl was mariah carey. "always be my baby."

i told my mother of this and every letter is signed youll always be my baby. this scares the **** out of me because its either for being cute or manipulation.

make no mistake. i believe incest is wrong. but im being honest when i say the urge to kiss and hug her is verrryyyy strong. and her words seem to make it mutual.

but the scariest of all is the visits where my uncle will leave the table to get a drink and her eyes are soooooo inviting. i cant explain it. thanks people
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