How to get over it

She cut my toenails she never cut they toenails.she still does and she massage my feet infront of her friends never done that to any of them.If girl isnt schooled by her dad she do things cuz she thinks it ok.Ima scare my daughter with herpes pictures so she only gives oral to her husband and her body to one man.Cuz it makes a man feel EVEN more powerful when finds a woman who hasnt been tampered with.

Wow...

I was trying to help here,but really,'tampered with'?

What century are you living in?

Good luck with all this,you will need lots of luck keeping this woman.

I no all this cuz she told her whole life

Well maybe someone else will come along and help you or give you advice here.

You lost my help at 'tampered with'.

Lmao why dont wanna help me anymore.it helps when i talk about it.She never bot them anything for there bday or xmas...she bought me many things on my bday and xmas even when i didnt get her gift on time.She had a guy who had kids she didnt get him anything for fathers day for me when fathers day came gifts i have a child by another woman.

I have some issues aswel its not her its the oral .I jus wish this **** stop bothering me and get out my head.

My mind is boggled over this whole mess , oral ? gift no gift ? She cut your toenails ???

Therapy ! You need it now.

I don't think your being realistic about how relationships work .... It's HER past.

Love her 100% or let her go find someone who will.

If it were up to me, I would advise you to break up with her, from what you've posted its clear she deserves better.

PS. You were also tampered with, so you are in NO position to judge her, best get off your high horse before someone smacks you off...

PPS. I wont be posting in this thread again, I find the content of the posts way too shallow and judgmental to engage further, if my BF spoke this way about me, I would high five him in the face, with a chair...

Culture? Religious beliefs? Arranged marriage ?

Maybe these questions will help us understand your problem(s)/issue(s)

Still can't understand the cutting of toenails ?? Are you not able too do it yourself ?

She didn no what love was until she met me was her words not mine.three hugs in out of 700 days what love?She had two relationships on one hand she count how many kisses what love?she thought sex was love is what i think

She jus told me a few months ago she gave oral b4 this was my first time hearing it. she felt peer preasure in one situation. It aint about gifts ladys real love is action affection many hugs and kisses unconditional love no matter happens .clipping a mans toenails is a clear sign she really loves this man.She has been very open with me.It a man thing some ladies wodn overstand this.

Ladies trust me i want to get over this and i am..this is my first real relationship i have never gave a woman 100 percent only her other women only got onething from me.What women doesnt love affection and hugs and kisses everyday and massages for no reason not only jus for sex.

Clipping a mans toenails is a clear sign she really loves him ?!!?! Are you shytting me ?

Is this a cultural thing ? Must be , care to share a little on your rituals / religion, etc

Feet are the dirtest part of the body.Why didn she clip they toenails?

When a woman clips a mans toenails she really really in love with him if a man stop kicking with his freinds and spends 85% of his time with you he really really loves you.

The real problem is you not your girlfriend. It's not fair to judge her and its not fair to punish her by withholding things from her. Bottom line is everyone has a past. Everyone messes up. What I don't understand is that you been with your girlfriend which I'm assuming for a long time. If her past bothered you that much, why be in the relationship? or did you recently found about her past? To be honest its not that big of a deal.

As for your girlfriend, I think she's letting you know that you are the best relationship she's ever been in. I think you're over analyzing things. You should focus on that fact that you have someone that cares for you.

No matter what happens - except if the girl has a past??

You have a child with someone else but you're judging your current partner because she had sexual relations before you?

The truth is that everyone has a past. Good God, I had a past even before I knew what having a past meant (due to abuse). Its best to let the past stay in the past. She is with you now because she loves you. Why can't that be enough?

Its a bit archaic to expect a partner to be "pure" for you and only you. I also think its a bit of self-centered thinking. What if you die? Would you not expect her to move on to someone else? If everyone had the expectation of purity in a relationship, 99.9% of us would be single for life....because yep, there's about a 0.01% chance of meeting the perfect "one" on the first try.

With all the counting events and rummination, I'm wondering about ocd?

I think you might have jealousy...specifically jealousy over past sexual encounters of your girlfriend. This is called Retroactive Jealousy. It's part of the broader OCD behavior family. You might want to go to a therapist and explore what might have triggered this OCD behavior and what you can do to best handle it so you aren't so controlling with your girlfriend.

You want to know how many guys I dated before my husband? i need to count on my fingers and toes and then some. Past is in the past. Let it stay there. It has NOTHING to do with you.

Why don't you try couples counseling or something. You're putting up a lot of red flags. If you don't resolve this, it's not fair to HER.

I wish someone would just close this horrible thread already.

What can a counsloer do for me and this issue.if the issue is me what the hell is it im tryna to figure it out.

Seeing the images of her given oral. Its bad wen i see eat a hotdog.i no crazy. The images maje my stomach hurt.

Can anyone explain THIS ANYONE