How to get over it

disturbing ............................................................

That should have come with a bloody PG warning

The images bother me of given oral.she told me she didn no what love was until she met me this was her first time being in love.Thasts the only thing that bother me.

Im serious why is this disturbing.

You need therapy ! Plain and simple.

This is mental health forum , no one here is a doctor, we are all advising seeing a Therapist because your thought process about this is so off the wall .

Exactly what are you wanting to hear, from anyone here ?

OK. Only have one thing to say, then I'm out.

YOU ARE KEEPING SCORE. Love does not do that.

Bye

Yes, love doesn't keep score.

But since you are, why dont you give some guys a blow job, then you and your gf are even.

Ahhhhhh .... I so badly want to comment on this but simply can't

What do you think it is that a therapist does?

No therapist "fixes" people. What they do is provide people with tools that they can use to "fix" themselves. I mean that's essentially what you're asked my us here and we are telling you that this is a big problem that needs therapy.

Oh my word.....I don't even no where to start.

You are suffering very serious retroactive jealousy. Yes it's an actual thing! And yes you can get help. And you need to, because what you are calling love is obsession and possession.

Gifts, kisses, hugs, pedicures and oral sex. Non of these mean love.
Respect. Trust. Compassion. Acceptance. These are what love is made of.

What you are feeling now is NOT love, and you need help before you hurt this woman so much she runs from you.

Love is not material i havent said anything to her about n a while it.i no i have to learn to let it go.it bothers my mind a little bit.this woman told she didnt no What love was until she met me.i been there for her wen times was rough n vice versa love is not material its tokens of loveshe has ❤ made of diamonds and beautiful adorable woman.

How do i get over it

You go to a therapist who gives you the tools to battle this.

Therapy !

She mentiom she was peer pressured into doing should i ask her how she was peered pressured into doing it.How does someone peer presure someone into something like she did explain she did things in reltionships she didn wanna do.

Why would you ask her for more details when that's what's got you in this predicament???

Don't you learn from your mistakes?

Ask NOTHING about her past, and she must stop being silly enough to answer.

Geez, the both of u need to grow up.

Can a therapist help me here

Yes they can. See one.

I'm also seeing a lot of obsession in not only your behavior with your girlfriend but also your behavior in this post.

Yes, a therapist can help you. Please find a good therapist.

Your page says you're in California. We're you born & raised in California?
I'm guessing you learned about love from your parents? Can I ask what type of religion you were brought up in?

I really wish i can get over this

I was not brot up in church but i firmly belive in a Creator of All.What does relgion do with oral sex women are supoose save that for one man.She told me she did things in reltionship she didnt wanna do.How does someone peer per sure her into i want to ask but not a good idea.Trust i wanna move past this i hate thinkn bout this.i need more money for a therapist right now i cant afford it.She is Great Woman why am i having such a hard time getting over it.?Only if yall new i hate thnkn about this ****.

Ummm religion & your childhood, your parents philosophy & culture has an ENORMOUS amount to do with sex.
Where did you get these ideas?

To me, reading over this post...IMHO English does not sound like it's your native tongue.

You're skirting issues.

If you'd answer these questions truthfully, stop pointing fingers at your GF you might understand.
Were you born & raised in California?
The toenail discussion has caused a trigger...if you haven't noticed.
Is this a cultural trait you've learned?
I didn't ask you if you wento a church. I asked you if you were raised with a certain religious influence which might shed some light onto this issue you have.
Can you answer these questions?

His thoughts of women and sex are strange to the first world.

Women are supposed to save oral sex for one man?

Says who?

I am a bit confused as to your beliefs as usually the thoughts of a woman saving herself go hand and hand with no sex before marriage, but that's not what happened here.

You didn't save yourself for one woman either... Do you think she likes thinking of you with the women before her???
I agree with Patagonia, you're avoiding questions that can help you get to the root of your problem. Which means you are the one making your own problems worse right now...

I have a question, and i would appreciate an honest and direct answer:

Why is it okay for you to have a sexual history, but its not okay for her?