Am I bi?

So I\'ve been having a sexuality crisis for a while now I don\'t know what to make of it. I\'m 19 yrs old and I\'ve always been into women, literally as a toddler I always looked at and liked girls. I remember I always would think about how my wife was going to look like and so on. When I was 12-14 I could literally only watch lesbian porn bcuz I didnt want to see a guy in straight porn. However recently I\'ve had sexual fantasies about guys and watched off and on gay porn I went through a phase were for a month I could only watch gay porn. This has happened for the past year I\'m really confused about it because when i go out in public for school or work I\'ve never in my life checked out another guy, never had like a crush on a guy. Most of the time I can\'t even tell if a guy is good looking most of the time. But when recently during this year I\'ve watched gay porn and I noticed cum faster however most of the time I can\'t bear the sight of two guys kissing. When I did watch gay porn it was mostly ****. There was times when I Was a kid growing up and I fantasized about some of the other boys in my class. Or rarely watched tranny and bi porn but never gay porn. That and all the boys I might\'ve fantasized about I could never even look at in that way at all in real life. When I saw that person those ideas couldn\'t even crossed my mind I just literally couldn\'t I would rather vomit. With girls this completely different my whole life I could masturbate to them check them out in public easily. I had so many girl crushes throughout my life too many too count. Even when I\'m outside i see a girl in yoga pants that\'s curvy i immediately get turned on. However after a lifetime of straight porn and the past year of off and on gay porn. It\'s been harder to watch straight porn. It can still stimulate tho pretty easily just more boring. I\'m very confused and would really appreciate if anybody can help me out in finding myself. Am I bi?

Josh, dude all i can say is you are who you are, theres nothing wrong with being attracted to only girls, or only guys or both, sometimes a person might feel attracted 70% to a girl an 20% to a guy. as humans we are all diffrent, diffrent strokes for diffrent folks, you shouldnt feel confused, do what makes you happy, you need to do what makes you happy and what makes you comfortable, you are your own person
hope that helps man

Sexuality is a complex issue..I consider myself straight, but I've found myself occasionally attracted to women. Specific women, like Kristen Stewart, she's a hottie and im old enough to be her grandmother.

Being BI or straight, or gay, can often be just a label. There is a huge spectrum of sexual preferences and inclinations. You could just be young and curious, or you could actually be BI. The only thing that really matters is how you feel about yourself. Would it distress you if you decide to label yourself BI? There is nothing wrong with it at all. Give yourself time to explore and learn about yourself.

Hi josh, to answer your question, i dont know and cant really say. Thats for you to say. I like what shazerac and pauly said. Sexuality IS complex. Nothing wrong with watching gay porn and being attracted to women in your real life. Theres also Nothing wrong with being bi if you want to call it that. You don't have to label anything though unless you want to.

To me, you say [write] a lot of things that are fairly common and often point to someone's just not wanting to be LGBT vs actually not being LGBT, better known as denial techniques and/or insecurity.

Examples:

Most straight guys don't have this issue. The fact that you do is like "he doth protest too much" as opposed to "evidence" that you're straight. In other words, a denial technique and insecurity.

And there are other examples in what you wrote, but let me move on after I say that showing these examples are for this reason only: I'm not saying they make you bisexual; I'm saying they mean nothing as far as saying you're straight, and that they seem to point more to insecurity about your orientation than anything else. Guys who are secure in being straight are not bothered about guys being in the porn they watch, aren't insisting they can't tell when other guys are good-looking and aren't too bothered about seeing two guys kissing. The question is...why are you so insecure about this stuff? Could very well be because you're bi and don't want to admit it to yourself, but that's for you to figure out--we don't know.

On to porn...

Porn is another one of those things that doesn't have to mean anything. Listen, I'm not only a lesbian (and I can tell when guys are good-looking, and also have no problem telling one that he is), but I am fairly sure I am 100% lesbian...and that doesn't seem to be a popular thing to say, no one wants to accept some people are 100% any sexual orientation nowadays, it seems. But that's how I feel today; that's not always how I thought. The older you get and the more experiences you have, the more it becomes clear whatever your orientation actually is. Anyways. So, I know that now. And guess what? I watch all kinds of porn. I like many different kinds. And most of the kinds involve a man and a woman, not two women. Does that mean I want to be with a man in "real life"? Absolutely not. It's not like I'm imagining myself in the porn I watch, because I'm not. But, hey, good sex is good sex, and I like to watch good sex. Besides...an inordinate amount of lesbian porn is made by men for men, which means the majority of real lesbians can't stand it because it sucks for/to us as real lesbians. It's hetero male fantasy garbage, which is not what we're looking for.

Finally...I touched on this a little, but you're 19. At that age, it makes sense to not 100% know what your orientation is because you don't have the life experiences, the dating experiences, the sexual experiences and/or whatever else you need to really answer this question. To me, it's far more abnormal for middle schoolers and high schoolers to be running around talking about they're gay unequivocally when they haven't done/experienced jackcrap. At 19, I didn't know wth my orientation was for sure, so I have a hard time believing a 13-yr old does. It's hard to be patient and not have the answer right now, but you're perfectly fine.