Am I normal?

I'm 26 and I've only had intercourse a few times, probably five or fewer.

I've only been with one person, my first and only boyfriend. That lasted a year and we went very slowly. Before him I'd had no sexual experience at all.

It's been 3 or 4 years since I've broken up with him.

I've recently put up a profile on this dating site. I've been chatting with this nice guy. He says sex is important. I told him I wasn't going to have sex unless I know I was going to be with the person a long long time. I also mentioned that I didn't get much enjoyment from sex.

He said he would make sex all about me and help me learn to enjoy it.

Am I normal in not being very sexual?

Do all guys think sex is important?

> Do all guys think sex is important?

Do you ever watch television programs about other kinds of animals? Like moose or elephant seals or herd animals of other kinds? Notice the differences between sexual behavior of males and females?

I think males of all kinds have a very strong urge to have sex. It is an evolutionary imperative! With adolescence it becomes very strong. That doesn't mean that men can't learn to be aware of the consequences for you and for themselves, and how to associate more awareness and long-term thinking into their (and your) lives, sexual and otherwise.

> He said he would make sex all about me and help me learn to enjoy it.

Just make sure it isn't really all about him...

I'm just wondering if I'm asexual.

I've been aroused by my boyfriend though. Does that mean I'm normal? I don't usually think of sex and I rarely masturbate.

I'm thinking I would like to marry an asexual man. Is that even possible? LOL Are there any asexual men out there?

I don't seem particularly attracted to either men or women.

Any asexual men out there? LOL

I'd be weary of a man online telling you sex is important. Its like he's saying, wanna date me? Well sex is important......I don't know, that worries me.

For a long time I felt just like you do. Now I'm 29 and love sex with my boyfriend. But he's becoming asexual. Be careful what you wish for lol. I used to wish for an asexual man too.

I read up more about asexuality. I found a dating site for sexuals. I put up the same profile I had on the other dating site and I responded to an ad from an asexual man. We are similar in age.

I hope I find someone special!

Yay! Someone in Ontario responded to my message. Someone from the asexual dating site.

We're chatting and we have some things in common. He is also close to my age.

Be very carefull I talk from a nice experience as I met my husband online in a chat room, however I made sure people knew where I was meant to be and at what time and who I was meeting, I would also recommend taking a friend to the first real life meeting ........

Better be to be safe than sorry !

You have to have good sex to know for sure...imo.

If you haven't had an orgasm or been completely excited before sex then it won't be good, and if it's your first times then it gives you a bad idea of how sex is supposed to be.

Taking your time for the right person is a good thing. When the right person comes along then sex will be good, you'll be ready and willing and if he cares he WILL make it about you and not so much about himself. Sex is supposed to be about pleasing one another and not yourselves...men can sometimes forget that...but we forgive them.

Ok you said what I couldn't figure out how to say you0me lol. Thats exactly how I was. I wanted to be asexual until I got with my current boyfriend and fell in love with him and sex with him.

no you are not strange or anything like that. Everyone is different and goes through different things in life, some people are sex-a-holics, and some are occasional sex-ers. <----my way of looking at it.

Have you ever had an orgasm?

Have you ever received oral sex?

I agree with one person here - until you have had GOOD sex, you can't really know if you won't like it....if you kwim ;-)

Maybe your first boyfriend was just rather selfish in the bedroom. Many younger men don't really know how to take care of a woman, they only care about getting themselves off.