[JustLikeYouImagined]

Okay, imagine :
1. You're a 22 yr old guy who has severe social anxiety (you've been diagnosed with anxiety disorder by a psychiatrist).
2. You're a virgin. You've never even kissed or hugged a girl. The farthest you've gone with a girl is a handshake.
3. You don't know any girls. You've never been "friends" with a girl. You've always been a loner (not by choice) and you realize that you are socially inept.
4. You are a very unnattractive person and you realize it. You don't even have an impressive "personality".
5. You are sexually "hyper" and you realize that you're a porn addict.
6. "prostitute" is not an option for you (whether for moral reasons or any other).
7. Even if it was an option, it wouldn't really matter because you have a fear of intimacy which wouldn't allow you to be physically close to another person under any circumstances, let alone be physically close while naked.

What would you do? Because I don't think I can go and say all of this to a doctor. The only reason I'm able to post this here is because nobody here knows me and because I'm never going to meet anyone here in person.

Is there anything that you can suggest? Someone once told me that there's some kind of medication available for sexual addiction? Some kind of a pill that does something to your sex hormones so you don't get sexually aroused? And how do you deal with the fact that you're going to have to be involuntarily celibate for the rest of your life?

[Brian37]

I can check off all seven as well....I was 26 until I had contact with a female...and Ive been married to her for 10 happy years....

I too am I porn addict and have begun online/phone therapy....smaller areas lack sexual addiction groups/therapists

I have been married 10 years and still haven't become intimate as much as i'd like to be

first and foremost your not going to be celibate the rest of your life...you will find a woman and you will fall in love and be happy....trust me...it happens everyday...it may not happen as fast as you want it to, but it will

you need to continue to see some type of therapist for your anxiety....I did and it saved my life....their are a ton of medications available for anxiety

I know of no drug that controls sex hormones....you are probably like me....a late bloomer and just experiencing normal sexual desire...men are hard-wired for it

as far as being a loner....I was too....I ended up going on my first date with my sisters friend....it was a terrible experience, but I learned that I was not some freak of nature uncapable of being loved...I just had to find my own girlfriend

prayer works too....I asked God for someone to love and my wife entered my life soon after that....thats no ********

your post took me back 15 years when I was 23 living at home, no friends, no life, and no reason to live.....but I hung on and perservered.....you can too

PM if you ever wanna talk

hope this helps....

[Junerain]

I, too, was a virgin until I was 27..many others have posted on here about being a virgin, only older than you are, and then people write in to say, yes, they were virgins into twenties, thirties, etc so don't feel alone in that..you have an intelligent personality, kind, and insightful, I beg to differ that your personality is that below average, I enjoy your posts.

[webmystic]

I'm also dealing with similar issues, my sexual identity has become fragmented, i some time fear I am gay, even though I pretty much know this is not true, I am very homophobic some times and feel uncomforatbvle arround gay men. I was once molested as a youth, and had some sexual experiemces with both girls and boys in my childhood. I am still a virgin because i've never gone all the way with a girl. I been addicted to porn since like 13 years old i actuall remember telling myself I love this stuff and will never need a real girl. around the age 12 or so i grew breast and have felt very unattrative to the opposite sex. what more can I say I started to meditate and i find this make your mind more quiet and peaceful, meditation might help u to. Take a look at centerpointe.com it make meditation easy. I;m also looking into therapy, because i am determind not to waste life I think it is a gift.

[Junerain]

I think it is great you see life as a gift, not to be wasted I, too, was addicted to porn, but have found a real man to be more interactive, more climatic, more romantic, and more sexy than porn, just happens to be my finding. Porn can be good or bad, and sex can be good or bad, yet I feel I learn with each time I have sex, I learn a little about my sex partner, and it's always interesting.....

[carla37]

well I think you are difining who you are at a very young age. So what if your a virgin. It is absoultly no one buisness, I cant tell you about the sex addict part but It seems as if you love it sex and there nothing wrong with that. mabey you should se a therepist and ask him if you are, I think defining your self at this age is ok , but you have your whole life ahead of you, You will be cool.

[theama]

I would totally go on a date with the OP.