Incestuous thoughts when masturbating

Hello everyone,

I am a girl in my late teens. A few months back I've started having many incestuous thoughts while masturbating. The problem is, they turn me on so much. I fantasize basically about all my immediate family members! It drives me crazy! I'm not in ANY WAY sexually attracted to them in day to day life, but for some reason when I masturbate these disgusting scenarios creep up. I try to ignore it, and fantasize about something else, but it usually doesn't feel very satisfying compared to the incestuous fantasies. I don't know what the hell is wrong with my brain. I would never ever want to have sex with them as, like I said before, am in no way sexually attracted to them. Somehow when I masturbate however, it changes. It's driving me nuts! I feel like the biggest, most disgusting, and abnormal pervert ever.

On top of that I occasionally have pedophile thoughts- again, im not sexually attracted to kids in any way....... I'm really not normal...... help?

all of these thoughts starting coming up over the last 5 months

It's OK I have them too. Perfectly Normal IMO.

I don't have your experiences but I have a very good general method of dealing with issues paradoxically.

To apply, the general method, we need to generalize your problem. We will drop the sexual spexifics and just talk about thoughts. You do not like your thouhts. Thinking these thoughts does not make you feel good. So, you try not to think these thoughts. The prohibition makes these thoughts only more attractive, so you think them more, feel guiltier, commit to a more stringent abstinence, which, in turn, perpetuates the downward spiral.

So the prohibition did not work for you. Try its opposite - try to think these thoughts more and more... until you become bored.

The issue really isn't the incestual thoughts. The issue is that it's bothering you having them. It's not abnormal to fantasise about all sorts of things. I've had fantasies involving family members before too

If it makes you 'happy', and it's not harming anybody, then you have nothing to feel bad about

Hey, I get 'em too. Usually about my dad, gross.

IDK about "normal" but it's certainly waaaaaay more common than you might think. Nothing to fret over. Fantasy is just fantasy.

I’m going to give a different input from everybody else. I can only speak personally as I’ve had incestual thoughts too during masturbation from a few years back. Like you, they were intrusive and ‘crazy making’. Over time I found out these incestual thoughts related to childhood sexual abuse by my sisters, parents. Once I realised I was sexually abused, the thoughts stopped. These thoughts are not fantasies that you want. I believe they come from your subconscious brain giving you a brief insight into what happened to you in childhood.

I’m not sure if the same relates to you as I can only give my story as happened to me. But I would probably suggest you speak to a therapist to talk about it further.

I am a guy and I had them too, especially about my 4-5 years younger sister from my cousin. Don't know why I've been attracted to them, but maybe they were so interesting cause they are "forbidden" by church and family.
Now, I think that they have connection with my unresolved Oedipus complex and weak intrafamilial and parental boundaries and parenthood - my parents always kept sexuality as a taboo, I was psychologically castrated during my puberty by my mother. I remember one day it happened - I opened my brain for sexual stuff, and everybody else of my friends were talking about sexual jokes like it was normal....
I suggest you read about Electra complex and try to put basic psychosexual developmental things in its place.
Like other said, its only a fantasy.

Personally I have masturbated while thinking about family members all the time (sometimes I even watch "incest" porn and try to sub family members in for the actors) but I feel absolutely no guilt in doing it and really have no plans to stop doing it.

In a real intimate relationship setting, can you be aroused without these thoughts?

I can be aroused without those thoughts its just that sometimes it comes to mind and I start going at it.

If the thoughts are distressing you, then that is the only real issue here. You don't intend to harm anyone or break the law -- so your thoughts are innocuous & you are not doing anything wrong.
Some generations ago & in many countries still, girls of just 10 & 12 were being wed to older men & bearing their children... And the main issue with incest is a matter of genetic diversity, which isn't really a widespread issue at this point in human evolution. So "wrong" is in the eye of the beholder.
Why do they trouble you? What about the thoughts turns you on? Is it liking the taboo or is it a feeling of safety that your family provides that allows you to orgasm more intensely than with other thoughts?
If they bother you & you cannot bring yourself to accept it, then perhaps you could look into methods of controlling intrusive thoughts. But... I'd suggest learning to accept your thoughts as mere thoughts & perhaps reducing the anxiety will reduce your temptation.

Ain't no such thing as a pervert. Sexuality exists on an incredibly broad spectrum, ranging from common thoughts and activities to very uncommon thoughts and activities. Sexual thoughts are a problem only if the thinker thinks they are a problem. I've had very erotic thoughts about my sister, but I really don't like her very much and she is the last person in the world I would want to have sex with. But the thoughts turn me on, and I like being turned on. As long as I can have an orgasm without coercing or forcing someone to have sex with me, so much the better.

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