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Nov 20, 2005, 01:16 AM
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from A Gift To Myself by Chales L. Whitfield, M.D.
Please complete the following honestly. (then we can share our answers) Who I Really Am I am ... The main thing about me is ... I always... I feel most like me when ... What I like most about a person is ... I will be ... I get angry when ... I feel happiest when ... I believe in ... One thing I want to accomplish is ... What I like most about myself is ... I hate it when ... I was ... I feel least like me when ... If you really knew me ... I feel weakest when ... When I feel angry I ... On a rainy day I like to ... I feel good when I remember ... When I'm alone I feel ... Most of all I really want ... I was the type of child who ... One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... I feel strongest when ... On a beautiful day I like to ... My favorite passtime is ... When I feel happy, I like to ... If my relationship with _____ were to end, ... My Child Within is ... Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ... Most people don't know that I ... I give the impression of ... The mask I wear is ... On the surface I am ... The game I play is ... I hide behind ... I wear makeup because ... The clothes I wear indicate ... The car I drive shows that ... My job or profession shows others that ... The real me hides under ... How long I've been pretending is ... How often I pretend is ... You can either copy this and fill in your answers, or print it and write your answers and tell us who you are in your own words if you want to, or how you feel about this, or do whatever you want.  I'll post my responses too, but I'm still working on it so it might take me a while.Rap
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Nov 20, 2005, 06:54 PM
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Who I Really Am I am ... regretful The main thing about me is ... I have dreams I always... screw up I feel most like me when ... I'm involved in the acting/entertainment world What I like most about a person is ... his/her respect of me, and his/her honesty I will be ... an actress I get angry when ... people belittle me, or discourage me from my dreams I feel happiest when ... I feel I'm headed in the right direction to reach my dreams I believe in ... freedom One thing I want to accomplish is ... being an actress What I like most about myself is ...never giving up on my dreams I hate it when ...people tell others not to go for their dreams I was ...young and hopeful I feel least like me when ...I don't follow my dreams If you really knew me ...you'd either hate me, or see that I wasn't lying about a lot of things people said I was lying about, or right about things people said I was wrong about I feel weakest when ...I have a panic attack, have bad OCD, or wail in my depression When I feel angry I ...have no power On a rainy day I like to ...watch TV, read I feel good when I remember ...some of my favorite quotes When I'm alone I feel ...stuck in life Most of all I really want ...to be an actress and have a successful career in it I was the type of child who ...was very timid and wanted to please everybody One thing I'd like to change about myself is ...I'd like to be more assertive I feel strongest when ...I say what I think On a beautiful day I like to ...go out, shop My favorite pastime is ... reading horror, romance, and erotic romance (I corrected the spelling of "passtime," hope you don't mind) When I feel happy, I like to ...create If my relationship with _Mike____ were to end, ...I would be on my way to the life I want (I'm assuming it will end as planned, when I have enough money) My Child Within is ...crying Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ...confident Most people don't know that I ...am scared I give the impression of ...being cold sometimes The mask I wear is ... friendly and bubbly On the surface I am ...many things The game I play is ...I'm very friendly and open and agree to things that I know I can't handle because of my panic and OCD, and then I hide whenever possible I hide behind ...my OCD and panic disorder I wear makeup because ...I don't, but I don't think wearing makeup is bad The clothes I wear indicate ...that I don't have much money The car I drive shows that ...I don't have a car My job or profession shows others that ...I don't have a job The real me hides under ...pain How long I've been pretending is ...since my teenage years How often I pretend is ...Everyday I also want to say, I don't pretend when it comes to my views on things. I'm extremely open and honest on what I think. Even though I admit to hiding and pretending sometimes, I feel a bit offended by this section, because not everyone pretends as much as this seems to imply. I'm not saying it was meant that way, but it's just the feeling I get.
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Nov 21, 2005, 02:38 PM
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Who I Really Am
I am ... The main thing about me is ... I want to do good. I want to be loved. I want to love others I feel most like me when ... I'm around accepting people who know there is a little pain inside me What I like most about a person is ... Their ability to love and open up to let me care about them. I get angry when ... people are selfish and uncaring I feel happiest when ... there is a sunny beautiful day outside and inside of me I believe in ... hope. One thing I want to accomplish is ... I want to help others by telling them my life story. What I like most about myself is ... my sensitivity and judgement, and compassion I hate it when ... people are hypocritical I feel least like me when ... I'm around people who are judging me and I feel i need their acceptance. If you really knew me ... you would know how laid back I am. I feel weakest when ... I am sad. When I feel angry I ... hide it. On a rainy day I like to ... watch tv I feel good when I remember ... jogging in the spring When I'm alone I feel ... a desire to be comforted Most of all I really want ... to have a family or be apart of a family. I was the type of child who ... was shy and sad. One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... my anxiety I feel strongest when ... Im leading a group On a beautiful day I like to ... walk outside My favorite passtime is ... quilting When I feel happy, I like to ... talk on the phone. My Child Within is ... growing stronger Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ... okay... not hurting Most people don't know that I ... hurt so intensly from the past I give the impression of ... having it all together. The mask I wear is ... perfection On the surface I am ... timid The game I play is ... please love me or i'll run away I hide behind ... my competence I wear makeup because ... there are so many imperfections The clothes I wear indicate ... I'm reliable The car I drive shows that ... I've succeeded My job or profession shows others that ... I'm intelligent The real me hides under ... competence How long I've been pretending is ... since i was 11 How often I pretend is ... daily ugh.. wow. feel like i just been through a therapy session. |
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Nov 21, 2005, 05:02 PM
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Nov 21, 2005, 05:13 PM
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I am ... Lonely
The main thing about me is ... I care too deeply for others and too less of myself. I always... Keep trying. I feel most like me when ... I'm around other recovering addicts. What I like most about a person is ... Their personality. I will be ... A good wife someday. I get angry when ... I screw up. I feel happiest when ... I've accomplished something. I believe in ... Miracles. One thing I want to accomplish is ... Becoming a therapist. What I like most about myself is ... My passion to help others. I hate it when ... I disappoint someone. I was ... A self-harmer. I've been SI free for awhile now. I feel least like me when ... In a crowded room of people. If you really knew me ... You'd know I care more for you than me. I feel weakest when ... I try helping someone and it doesn't work. When I feel angry I ... Write a poem or get on Psych Central. On a rainy day I like to ... Write, get online, dance, or read. I feel good when I remember ... My friend telling me, "Stacy, you're an incredible young woman and you're going to go far in life and do many things to help others. Never give up because you are a star." That's stuck with me since and always makes me smile. When I'm alone I feel ... Lonely and scared. Most of all I really want ... A good, long-term relationship. I was the type of child who ... Stayed to myself. One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... My weight. I know that's vain, but my weight depresses me. I feel strongest when ... I know I've helped somebody. On a beautiful day I like to ... Drive around and see the beauty of the earth. My favorite passtime is ... Riding my go-cart when I was little. When I feel happy, I like to ... Show people my happiness. Maybe it'll rub off on them too! If my relationship with __David___ were to end, ... I'd lose the bestfriend I have. My Child Within is ... Abused and Lonely. Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ... Optimistic Most people don't know that I ... Cry myself to sleep most nights. I give the impression of ... A strong-willed woman. The mask I wear is ... Smiling and cheerful. On the surface I am ... Cool, calm, and collected. The game I play is ... don't get too close or I'll love you too much. I hide behind ... my addictions. I wear makeup because ... It makes me feel prettier than I am. The clothes I wear indicate ... I don't ask for much. The car I drive shows that ... I worked for it. My job or profession shows others that ... Not working right now. The real me hides under ... A fake smile. How long I've been pretending is ... Practically my whole life. How often I pretend is ... Everyday.
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#6
Nov 21, 2005, 10:54 PM
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(((((((((((Maven, Caroline, EV, Bama))))))))))))))))
Thanks for sharing. And Caroline, it's okay if you thought better of it. (((((((((((((((everyone who read this and used it on their own, or even just thought about it))))))))))))))) I'm actually still working on mine, and I will post it. I can already see that a lot of you are a lot like me, not that I didn't know that before. Rap
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“We should always pray for help, but we should always listen for inspiration and impression to proceed in ways different from those we may have thought of.” – John H. Groberg
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Nov 21, 2005, 11:12 PM
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Who I Really Am
I am ... scared The main thing about me is ... my voice I always... worry I feel most like me when ... I'm alone What I like most about a person is ... their honesty I will be ... married I get angry when ...people are insensitive I feel happiest when ... I am being cuddled by someone that I really love I believe in ... God One thing I want to accomplish is ... Studying so I can help others What I like most about myself is ... my patience I hate it when ... people hurt me I was ... alone I feel least like me when ... I'm around people who look down on me If you really knew me ... you would like me I feel weakest when ... i'm scared When I feel angry I ... want to throw dishes at the wall On a rainy day I like to go for a drive and take in it's beauty or just stand in the rain ... I feel good when I remember ... people telling or showing me that they love me When I'm alone I feel ... like i don't want to see anyone Most of all I really want ...is to be loved I was the type of child who ... was afraid of being punished One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... my teeth I feel strongest when ... I'm succeeding On a beautiful day I like to ... Look at the clouds My favorite passtime is ... reading When I feel happy, I like to ... Dance around(in private of course) If my relationship with God were to end, ... I would die My Child Within is ... scared Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ... smart Most people don't know that I ... am pretty dumb I give the impression of ... being nervous The mask I wear is ... one of happiness On the surface I am ... kind The game I play is ... solitaire I hide behind ... anything I can when I'm avoiding someone I wear makeup because ... i think it makes me look nicer The clothes I wear indicate ... that I love girly stuff The car I drive shows that ... I like girly stuff My job or profession shows others that ... I'm smarter or more important than I actually am The real me hides under ... an act How long I've been pretending is ... since I found that people don't accept me for who I am How often I pretend is ... whenever I might lose love if I don't |
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Nov 22, 2005, 12:05 AM
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Who I Really Am
I am ... someone who has survived infinite amounts of ***** and lived to tell the tale The main thing about me is ... I tell it like it is, and a lot of times people aren't receptive to hearing what they need to hear. I always... wish I had more time to have a life, instead of working so much I feel most like me when ... I'm being allowed to be creative (I love my job, it just takes too much time!) What I like most about a person is ... they don't play games and will tell me the truth I will be ... ecstatic the day I get to meet my son (long story; his adoptive mom tracked me down a couple of years ago and he and I have started to email) I get angry when ... I believe I've been treated unfairly I feel happiest when ... I look at the photo album my son's a-mom put together for me and am able to see for myself that I gave him the life he deserved instead of the one he would have had with me. I believe in ... truth and justice (but not the American way, which has gotten entirely too f'd up) One thing I want to accomplish is ... before I die, please God, I want to work for a major metropolitan daily newspaper and MAKE SOME MONEY What I like most about myself is ... I am essentially a good person who tries to do good for others I hate it when ... PEOPLE DON'T LISTEN TO ME (sorry for the shouting, that's a big ol honkin trigger for me) I was ... multiply abused for a number of years, but I have a therapist direct from Heaven and I'm getting over it I feel least like me when ... I'm forced to be social in a large group of people I don't know. I HATE parties. If you really knew me ... You'd know that I have my days where I feel like the dumbest, ugliest, most worthless, useless waste of flesh ever to walk the earth, but hey -- that's what meds are for I feel weakest when ... I want company and can't find any. Most of the time I enjoy being alone, but sometimes I just want to get the hell out of the house and get some human contact, for an hour or so, anyway. When I feel angry I ... email my T On a rainy day I like to ... sleep I feel good when I remember ... This is a tough one. I don't remember the last time I felt good remembering anything. When I'm alone I feel ... I'm right where I want to be. 100% introvert. Most of all I really want ... to leave this earth having made people aware of my existence on this planet I was the type of child who ... was a disgustingly huge people-pleaser One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... oh god, so many I feel strongest when ... I have just kicked ***** on a story, on deadline, and I beat the bee-otch at the daily newspaper on it! In one case, she got the story 2 WEEKS after I did. Nanny nanny moo moo. On a beautiful day I like to ... go for a walk. I live half a mile from Lake Michigan. It stinks, but from a distance it's beautiful. My favorite passtime is ... It used to be reading, but I haven't had the concentration for that recently. I don't know what I'd say now. When I feel happy, I like to ... share my happiness with old friends If my relationship with _____ were to end, ... My relationship with my very dear, close friend John DID end, through his very sudden death, and I am still crushed. But it occurred to me the other day that when I think of him, I have NO bad memories. With John it was all about love and laughter and enjoying yourself, and even when I was in the depths of hell he would find a way to make me laugh. I loved him to pieces and I wish I still had him with me. My Child Within is ... shy and scared, but starting to spread her wings. Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ... someone who knows what she's talking about more often than not Most people don't know that I ... was abused, or how, or for how long. I have friends I would trust with my life who still don't know about any of it. I give the impression of ... I'm told I come across as kind of aloof until you get to know me. I think it's just because I'm naturally quiet. The mask I wear is ... competence On the surface I am ... completely together, no meltdowns in progress (only internally) The game I play is ... I'm smarter than you, so shut up.  I hide behind ... my education I wear makeup because ... I wear minimal makeup, and none on weekends. I avoid it because my mother has to put on full-face makeup just to walk 20 feet out the door to get the paper, and I've devoted my life to being the precise opposite of my mother. The clothes I wear indicate ... I don't give a damn what I look like The car I drive shows that ... I couldn't afford anything better My job or profession shows others that ... I have talent The real me hides under ... several very warm blankets and doesn't get out of bed just in case the monsters are outside How long I've been pretending is ... pretty much my whole life How often I pretend is ... 50%, maybe, maybe a little less |
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Nov 22, 2005, 01:42 AM
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(((((((((( everyone in this thread )))))))))) You all are beautiful souls, in my opinion.
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#10
Nov 22, 2005, 08:29 PM
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Thank you, Bama, so are you, and everyone.
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Nov 23, 2005, 01:37 AM
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I don't know if you will believe how hard this was for me. I had been trying to do this exercise for maybe a week before I posted it, and I just about have it filled in now (except for one question). I'm going to try posting it now. Reading your answers has helped me. Some of yours are the same as mine (and I had mine written down, so I'm not copying), and some of them just helped me to know what to think about so that I could fill in those sentences.
Who I Really Am I am ... gentle, quiet, and scared. The main thing about me is ... needing to be worth something (and not feeling like I am, so I keep needing outside appreciation because I can't appreciate myself). I always... mean well. I feel most like me when ... I can create something. What I like most about a person is ... genuine caring. I will be ... okay? I get angry when ... I feel misunderstood and unheard and invalidated. I feel happiest when ... I do something right. I believe in ... God. One thing I want to accomplish is ... find the answers. What I like most about myself is ... creativity. I'm even creative in my destructiveness. I hate it when ... I goof up, especially when someone notices. I was ... a failue. I feel least like me when ... I find out that I have hurt somebody, without meaning to - I never mean to. If you really knew me ... you could see how fragile I am inside, and how easily hurt. You would know that I never want to hurt anybody. Maybe you would hate me. I feel weakest when ... people notice my shortcomings. When I feel angry I ... want to destroy myself. On a rainy day I like to ... curl up with a warm blanket and a book, or a project. I feel good when I remember ... being appreciated. When I'm alone I feel ... peaceful, like finally I can breath, or lost, depending on whether I needed time to myself or needed a connection to another person. Most of all I really want ... to be worth something. I was the type of child who ... tried to be good. One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... avoiding everything and being afraid of everything. I feel strongest when ... I can help someone. On a beautiful day I like to ... be outside - pet the animals, go for a walk, or ride my bike. My favorite passtime is ... music - singing, playing instruments, or maybe other arts - creating something. When I feel happy, I like to ... sing. If my relationship with __Angela___ were to end, ... I would cry. My Child Within is ... very fragile and scared, and also sensitive. Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ... strong and confident. Most people don't know that I ... am generlly self-destructive. I give the impression of ... being calm, collected, patient, and having it all together. The mask I wear is ... competence. On the surface I am ... bullet proof. The game I play is ... being a victim. I hide behind ... various life roles and my collection of psychopathologies. I wear makeup because ... actually, I wear very little makeup or sometimes none. The clothes I wear indicate ... my need to blend in - I wear mostly neutral colors, but I need to blend in in an unconventional way. My favorite clothes are unique, often because I made them. The car I drive shows that ... nothing - it's just what I have. Oh, but it is small and efficient, and that is what I like about it. I want to be small and efficient too. My job or profession shows others that ... I can do something worthwhile. The real me hides under ... an outer shell called my competent self. How long I've been pretending is ... at least since I was nine. How often I pretend is ... most of the time (almost all the time).
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Nov 24, 2005, 07:05 AM
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Wow it's so good reading these. I feel a bit more normal now.
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Nov 24, 2005, 02:14 PM
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(((((((((Estee))))))))))
I'm glad you benefitted too. Thanks for reading.Rap
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Nov 25, 2005, 11:20 PM
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Who I Really Am
I am a kind person The main thing about me is I am very honest I always feel scared I feel most like me when I am alone What I like most about a person is their loyalty I will be a good friend I get angry when I feel violated I feel happiest when I feel loved I believe in treating other people well One thing I want to accomplish is to be a good person What I like most about myself is that I care about others I hate it when people are unjust I was scared much of my life I feel least like me when I am mean and hateful If you really knew me you would like me I feel weakest when I am scared When I feel angry I cry On a rainy day I like to read a book or walk in the rain I feel good when I remember my faithful dog When I'm alone I feel calm Most of all I really want to be content I was the type of child who was competitive One thing I'd like to change about myself is how i feel about myself I feel strongest when I am working On a beautiful day I like to hike outside My favorite passtime is hiking When I feel happy, I like to be with friends If my relationship with my husband were to end, I would be devastated. My Child Within is very scared Who I Pretend To Be is a leader I pretend to be confident and competent Most people don't know that I often am unsure of myself I give the impression of competence The mask I wear is one of confidence On the surface I am well adjusted The game I play is life I hide behind my work I wear makeup because I don't wear any The clothes I wear indicate I work outside The car I drive shows that I am an outdoor person My job or profession shows others that I am educated The real me hides under an illusion of confidence How long I've been pretending is forever How often I pretend is all the time
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Nov 26, 2005, 06:16 PM
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ah.. the elusive contentment. sigh. good reading.
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Nov 28, 2005, 09:37 PM
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Rapunzel said: from A Gift To Myself by Chales L. Whitfield, M.D. Please complete the following honestly. (then we can share our answers) Who I Really Am I am ... a woman who wants to help people, improve myself and serve God. The main thing about me is ...I want to help others in some way. I always...try to be honest. I feel most like me when ..I'm laughing with a friend.. What I like most about a person is ...their cheerful additude. I will be ...an addiction counselor some day. I get angry when ... I get stuck in self-doubt and feel incompetent. I feel happiest when ...I volunteer at a meal program or help someone in some way. I believe in ...God and his son, Jesus Christ. One thing I want to accomplish is ...improve self-esteem. What I like most about myself is ...I'm smart. I hate it when ...I cry at work or school. I was ...an annoying child to raise. I feel least like me when ...I seem to socialize really well. If you really knew me ...you'd think I'm weird. I feel weakest when ...I'm shown a mistake that I made at work. When I feel angry I ...yell, vent and bang around my room. On a rainy day I like to ...read,draw, call people and watch tv. I feel good when I remember ...my college degree. When I'm alone I feel ...lately? Sad and anxious. I don't know why. Most of all I really want ...to help people and make a difference in their life with the help of God. I was the type of child who ...had temper problems, was a loner, and couldn't get many friends. One thing I'd like to change about myself is ...improve self-esteem. I would like to be more confident at work. I cry to easily when people correct me. I feel strongest when ...I pretend to be superman or some other super hero. On a beautiful day I like to ...go for a walk and take pictures. My favorite passtime is ...reading When I feel happy, I like to ...I don't feel happy much lately. If my relationship with Steve_____ were to end, ...I would have almost no friends. My Child Within is ...sad. Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ...a superhero saving the world. Most people don't know that I ...grew up working concession trailers at the county fair and other festivals. I give the impression of ...incompetence and lack of knowledge. The mask I wear is ...I try to fake competence with little luck. On the surface I am ...friendly and happy. The game I play is ...I don't play any games. I hide behind ...my low self-esteem. If I don't think I'm any good, then no one else will expect much out of me. I wear makeup because ...I don't wear makeup. The clothes I wear indicate ...I try to look like a professional cashier or retail clerk. Hence the clothes that I wear most often, tell you my roll in society. The car I drive shows that ...I ride the bus. It says that I don't make much. My job or profession shows others that ...I have good people skills. The real me hides under ...a happy, well-adjusted person mask. But, I'm not dealing with life stress as well as I would hope. How long I've been pretending is ...just the past three weeks. Before that I was pretty happy. How often I pretend is ...almost every day. You can either copy this and fill in your answers, or print it and write your answers and tell us who you are in your own words if you want to, or how you feel about this, or do whatever you want. I'll post my responses too, but I'm still working on it so it might take me a while.Rap </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> |
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Dec 04, 2005, 10:35 PM
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I am the black dragon
The main thing about me is I tend to be wild... I always... like green eggs and ham I feel most like me when ...I am at work What I like most about a person is their character... I will be the blackdragon ... I get angry when ... people hurt me I feel happiest when ... I am at work I believe in The Loch ness monster (its reall george told me so) One thing I want to accomplish is ... to be "normal" What I like most about myself is my hair... I hate it when i am depressed... I was sad... I feel least like me when I am on my meds... If you really knew me you would leave like everyone else... I feel weakest when im with family... When I feel angry I self harm my self... On a rainy day I like to sleep... I feel good when I remember homework... When I'm alone I feel unwanted ... Most of all I really want some man to love me ... I was the type of child who was teased, beaten, harrassed, assaulted, lonley, weird, freak, outcast, retard... One thing I'd like to change about myself is the way i look. ... I feel strongest when im in my car driving... On a beautiful day I like to go to work... My favorite passtime is psychcentral... When I feel happy, I like to clean... If my relationship with _____ were to end, ... My Child Within is ... I pretend to be in movies with people who care about me... Most people don't know that I think bad thoughts all the time ... I give the impression of being beaten ... The mask I wear is what people want me to be... On the surface I am tough, hard, and happy... The game I play is hide and go seek... I hide behind my mask... I wear makeup because i want to look normal... The clothes I wear indicate nothing... The car I drive shows that i am different... My job or profession shows others that im poor ... The real me hides under my mask... How long I've been pretending is forever ... How often I pretend is allways...
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Dec 05, 2005, 06:03 PM
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Who I Really Am
I am ... worthless The main thing about me is ... i fail I always... try I feel most like me when ... with my children What I like most about a person is ... acceptance I will be ... rejected I get angry when ... other people are hurt I feel happiest when ... my children say they love me. I believe in ... other people One thing I want to accomplish is ... breaking the cycle of rejection with my children. What I like most about myself is ... nothing. I mean it. Nothing. I hate it when ... people see me as I see myself. I was ... rejected as a child I feel least like me when ... people praise me. If you really knew me ... you would turn away I feel weakest when ... i fail to live up to the expectations others have of me When I feel angry I ... punish myself On a rainy day I like to ... watch tv and try to escape I feel good when I remember ... my grandma loving me When I'm alone I feel ... safe Most of all I really want ... to be accepted I was the type of child who ... others laughed at One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... one thing? Everything. I feel strongest when ... I do something for others On a beautiful day I like to ... watch the sea My favorite passtime is ... passing time When I feel happy, I like to ... forget how I hate myself. If my relationship with my children were to end, ... I would never forgive myself My Child Within is ... afraid, alone, unloved, unloveable Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ... capable Most people don't know that I ... hate myself more tthan they could ever hate me I give the impression of ... being confident The mask I wear is ... convincing On the surface I am ... secure The game I play is ... Lets pretend I hide behind ... anything I wear makeup because ... I don't. Nothing exterior changes what I am. The clothes I wear indicate ... I don't care about myself. The car I drive shows that ... I protect my family My job or profession shows others that ... I serve otehrs The real me hides under ... anything and everything How long I've been pretending is ... for ever How often I pretend is ... always |
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Dec 05, 2005, 10:06 PM
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Rapunzel said: from A Gift To Myself by Chales L. Whitfield, M.D. Please complete the following honestly. (then we can share our answers) Who I Really Am I am ... sad, scared and alone The main thing about me is ...I want to be remembered I always... try my best I feel most like me when ...I'm creative What I like most about a person is ...forgiveness I will be ... strong and accepting of others I get angry when ... people say they understand what I'm going through, then talk about me behind my back. I feel happiest when ...I'm with my friends I believe in ...God One thing I want to accomplish is ... do good in highschool, and tring to reach my dreams What I like most about myself is ...I'm a good listener I hate it when ...people judge me because of my age and say I don't matter because,"I'm still a child." I was ... once happy I feel least like me when ... I'm with people who think I'm worthless If you really knew me ... You would grow to like me I feel weakest when ... people tear me down (verbal abuse) When I feel angry I ... say something I didn't mean to On a rainy day I like to ... Stand outside singing and dancing  I feel good when I remember ... the times I was to young to understand the sadness, pain and suffering the world experences When I'm alone I feel ... happy Most of all I really want ... people to notice the true me. not the sad and depressed one I was the type of child who ... currently am a teenager One thing I'd like to change about myself is ...my sadness I feel strongest when ... I acheive my goal, no mater how small On a beautiful day I like to ... take a walk My favorite passtime is ... playing my flute When I feel happy, I like to ... be outside If my relationship with _____ were to end, ... haha im only 14 My Child Within is ... well, inside of me is a small social thing. if only i could beat this depression I might become that. Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ...happy, social, and like nothing is wrong (i wish  )Most people don't know that I ... have depression I give the impression of ... someone who is normal The mask I wear is ... protective and frightened On the surface I am ... a listener The game I play is ... i win  I hide behind ... i don't. i run away from problems  I wear makeup because ... yeah right. The clothes I wear indicate ... i'm a little rebel. The car I drive shows that ... once again, only 14 My job or profession shows others that ... The real me hides under ... the bed How long I've been pretending is ... for 2 years, since seventh grade. How often I pretend is ... 24/7 You can either copy this and fill in your answers, or print it and write your answers and tell us who you are in your own words if you want to, or how you feel about this, or do whatever you want. I'll post my responses too, but I'm still working on it so it might take me a while.Rap </div></font></blockquote><font class="post">  
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Dec 06, 2005, 12:02 AM
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Who I Really Am
I am ... <font color="blue"> a spirit having a physical experience</font> The main thing about me is ...<font color="blue"> I care more than anyone can imagine!</font> I always... <font color="blue">wonder about phrases that include "always" and "never"</font> I feel most like me when ... <font color="blue"> oh... I guess I'm always ME!</font> What I like most about a person is ... <font color="blue"> Complicated!</font> I will be ... I get angry when ... <font color="blue">people are disingenuous</font> I feel happiest when ... <font color="blue"> in love!</font> I believe in ...<font color="blue">creation by design.</font> One thing I want to accomplish is ... <font color="blue">Whatever I'm here for</font> What I like most about myself is ... I hate it when ... I was ... I feel least like me when ... If you really knew me ... <font color="blue"> you would like me. (At least that's what others who know me say.. )</font> I feel weakest when ... <font color="blue">I'm in a flare</font> When I feel angry I ... On a rainy day I like to ... I feel good when I remember ...<font color="blue">to love</font> When I'm alone I feel ... Most of all I really want ... <font color="blue">is to be content</font> I was the type of child who ... One thing I'd like to change about myself is ... <font color="blue">only one thing???</font> I feel strongest when ...<font color="blue">I am helping someone</font> On a beautiful day I like to ... My favorite pastime is ... When I feel happy, I like to ... If my relationship with _<font color="blue"> T </font> were to end, .<font color="blue"> I would quit living</font>. My Child Within is ... Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be ... Most people don't know that I ... I give the impression of ... The mask I wear is ... On the surface I am ... The game I play is ... I hide behind ... I wear makeup because ... <font color="blue">duh!</font> The clothes I wear indicate ... <font color="blue">that I don't like to go naked in public?</font> The car I drive shows that ... <font color="blue"> someone let me drive?</font> My job or profession shows others that ... The real me hides under ... How long I've been pretending is ... How often I pretend is ... <font color="blue">I wish I could... dream and wish for future!</font>
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Dec 07, 2005, 04:51 PM
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I am a man who believes in the importance of individuals. The main thing about me is that I see meaning in everyone’s effort to live. I always exercise politeness and show respect where deserved. I feel most like me when I am alone. What I like most about a person is there degree of friendliness. I will be most impressed by the genuine effort they make to be kind. I get angry when people put down others, or brag about their own abilities. I feel happiest when everyone is chummy. I believe in the potential people have inside of them. One thing I want to accomplish is to leave people with a sense of possibility. What I like most about myself is how I stick to my personal ideals even when everything is negative. I hate it when people coerce others for whatever reason. I was originally optimistic about the adult world, but now remain guarded about people. I feel least like me when I am in a group larger than four people. If you really knew me, you would see the hope I hide from people. I feel weakest when people do not believe in my abilities. When I feel angry I silently rage. On a rainy day I like to walk the quiet city streets and parks with umbrella and overcoat. I feel good when I remember my grandfather, and his soft-spoken optimism. When I'm alone I feel sad, because I am reminded of who people won’t see. Most of all I really want to belong. I was the type of child who kept trying to fit in. One thing I'd like to change about myself is my dependency on the viewpoints of others. I feel strongest when validated. On a beautiful day I like to walk my dog. My favorite pastime is multiplayer computer games. When I feel happy, I like to call people on my cell phone. If my relationship with my best friend were to end, I would be very sad. My Child Within is tired of not getting validation from my parents, family, colleagues, or friends. Who I Pretend To Be I pretend to be savvy business person. Most people do not know that I have skills and abilities. I give the impression of being junior or inexperienced. The mask I wear is unreadable. On the surface, I am a corporate drone. The game I play is survival through conformity. I hide behind a suit. I never wear makeup. The clothes I wear indicate conformity and disarray. The car I drive shows that I fall victim to ads. My job or profession shows others that bureaucracies create waste. The real me hides under a tie. How long I've been pretending goes back 16 years, upon entering the workforce. How often I pretend is every time I sit in this cubicle.
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Dec 07, 2005, 08:17 PM
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Jan 07, 2006, 11:30 PM
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As you can see, I've taken my time with this exercise. The next step for those who choose to take it is to share who you are and who you pretend to be with someone who is safe. You can refer to your answers to the questions, but the idea is to use that as more of a guide and just tell them in your own words. When I looked back at my answers, this is what I came up with:
It's important to me to be good at something and able to help people and to be of value. I never mean to hurt anyone, but sometimes I make mistakes, and I hate myself when I do. I'm desperate for approval and terrified of disapproval. I pretend to be strong and competent, or I try to be invisible and not noticed at all, in order to keep people from seeing how fragile I am and how easily they could hurt me, or have them discover my weaknesses and find me useless. The next part of the assignment after this is to reflect on what you have learned and how it feels. When these questions ("Who am I?" and "Who do I pretend to be") come up, reflect on them and consider them, and feel and experience these experiences. You can write it down somewhere or share it here or with someone you trust if you want to. Rapunzel
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“We should always pray for help, but we should always listen for inspiration and impression to proceed in ways different from those we may have thought of.” – John H. Groberg
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Feb 05, 2006, 09:18 AM
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intersting idea. my guess is i have no answers ut I at least want to try.
I am: nobody. The main thing about me is: Im Gabbi's mother and I have to do the right thing. I always: ? I feel most like me when: Im with other people. alone Im nobody. Isnt that what borderline is? Do you think Im bordrline? What I like most about a person is: kindness and honesty. Nogames. no euphemisms. Straight talk. I will be: Ok or I will go down in flames. Soon we will know,. I get angry when: I or other peolpe get taken advantage of. I feel happiest when: I just feel normal. No crazies. No stress. I believe in: praying to the Virgin Mary. One thing I want o accomplishis: make my kid happy. What I like most about myself is: nothing. Uh...I can see this is going nowhere..I wish I was in a better frame of mind...Im going to read everyone else's answers.... Hugs
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Feb 06, 2006, 05:47 AM
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I am human I make mistakes just like Anyone! No matter what their position I am just like them for we are all human. I am no better and I am no worse!!!!!!!
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