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Jan 31, 2009, 09:32 AM
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hi everyone...
i never post in this forum before...iam on my way to increase my self esteem ..well ..my self esteem is incredibly low or maybe i just dont have it ....any suggestion about this?? thank you 
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Jan 31, 2009, 09:40 AM
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go to games and visit Purplebutterfly's Positive Place. There are a ton of affirmations in there.
I think it's awesome that you are determined to increase your self-esteem!! That right that is a positive quality! You are determined. You are setting goals. You are looking out for your health!! Way to go. If you google yahoo widgets there is a desktop "widget" that will post positive affirmations to you desktop everyday. What's important is to replace the mental record that says you aren't worth anything, you are useless or any other negative thing that plays through your head. How did those get there? From repeatedly hearing them or feeling them. How to replace them? Repeatedly hear and see and feel the positive. It will take a while to replace the negatives, but you are strong (oh look, another one!) and you can do it. Write affirmations and qualities about you down on sticky note, post them throughout your house or room or work so you see them often. When you see them, make sure you read them. Say them outloud if you can. Say them with a smile. 
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Feb 01, 2009, 02:58 PM
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I PMed you with a few ideas. Cantstopcrying is exactly right. You've already had one great success, you want to feel better about yourself! Way to go Puffyprue! I'm proud of you!
Last edited by horsecab; Feb 01, 2009 at 03:18 PM. Reason: add more |
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Feb 03, 2009, 01:33 AM
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I've read that if you write out the negative things you say to yourself, and then you write out positive counterstatements it helps with self esteem. Then you reread your counterstatements every chance you get or whenever youre feeling especially low and it will begin to reverse the negative feelings/thoughts you have and turn them into positive ones!
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Feb 03, 2009, 03:15 AM
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((((((((((((puffyprue)))))))) just wanted to see how you're doing on your quest?
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Feb 03, 2009, 07:07 AM
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i dont know i've been read purplebuterfly forums and i am googling yahoo plugins too ..thanks for you
but i think i still stuck with my negative thought..well maybe it will took a times.. thanks everyone
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Feb 05, 2009, 10:47 AM
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I think that one of the most important facets of this is understanding why you have low self-worth. If you don't understand this those messages just keep circulating in your mind and keep your self-worth low. If you go to the source and work through it you will delete all of those old wrong messages.
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Feb 06, 2009, 03:27 PM
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i think iam not making any progression....
 maybe coz i didnt see where's my worth....coz i didnt see it i start to believe it i dont have any worth....
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Feb 06, 2009, 06:41 PM
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 (((((((((((((((((( prue )))))))))))))))))))
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Feb 09, 2009, 11:51 AM
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Feb 09, 2009, 02:58 PM
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but we cant blame them...they are our parents but with me maybe not only my parents but all people those who parenting me...
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Feb 09, 2009, 03:19 PM
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I don't think it's limited to parents or people parenting....it's anyone that repeatedly tells you the same thing over and over. Or reacts to you a certain way. When I would be ready to go out, my sister would look at me, look me up and down and say, "are you wearing that?" regardless of what it was.
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Feb 09, 2009, 04:40 PM
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I didn't say that it was limited to parents, I said it starts with parents. We can't blame them? Why? (and CSC, did your sister learn this from your mom?)
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Feb 09, 2009, 04:47 PM
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no she is not ..its just me ...yea its start from them i agree ...we cant blame then coz their our parents ....
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Feb 09, 2009, 04:52 PM
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Since when are parents without blame, puffy? They are responsible for their actions just as anyone is. If I constantly tell my daughter she is horrible and ugly, it will 100% be my fault that she grows up thinking that, just like if I tell her she is wonderful and beautiful it will be my doing, also.
Sannah, yes, I'm sure she did learn it from my mother. 
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Feb 10, 2009, 11:06 AM
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