Afraid of men

I've been thinking about this alot. Im 27 and i've never had a boyfriend -- well not really. And even more surprisingly .. I've never kissed a boy. Some have tried, but I always deny or I break up with them before it gets to a point like that. I don't think im rationally scared of them. I think I just have some internal distrust that keeps me from a serious relationship with anyone. I'm not sure why I'm posting this. I'm just feeling a bit alien/wierd-like so i had to post.

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all in time, dear. in the time that you're ready. keep working with t and someday you're gonna be pleasantly surprised

i know it can be very difficult, but you're gonna do just fine.

love,

kd

based on what you have shared with us over time you are most certainly NOT alien weird. Okay?

Age isn't the factor here. You're doing intensive healing work and in school in addition to being the primary caretaker for your brother as he is receiving treatment. Your plate is full and to worry yourself about this just adds to it without need.

I hate to sound crusty old with things like all things in time.....but there is truth to that statement.

Instead of feeling badly about this try to remember all the positive things you are accomplishing and getting back in your life through the therapeutic work you are doing.

Keep at it you non alien non weirdo you!

thanks ozzie, kimmy, and zh. I know i just need to be patient. I just have this longing to have someone.....especially during stressful times, and this just seems to be standing in my way.

(((((esther))))))

You're not weird at all. I am afraid of men when they get angry.

So much so that when they get mad ...i completely shut down.

It's strange because the situation I happen to be in now is a long distance one. So some of our conversations happen to be online.

If we argue online I can get into an argument because of the computer being between us, but if it's on the phone forget it.

I need to get off the phone, but sometimes he just goes on and on and it's painful for me.

I just shut down completely, and he gets angrier and more frustrated because he doesn't get that.

I am completely quiet. I could puke.

So you're not strange.

If you think I'm hmm what did you call me ..100% loveable ..so are you

Please take good care.

Eva

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You're about as far from alien/wierd as they come. I know what it's like to wish for someone. Do you have any close guy friends? Someone you could confide in? Maybe talking with one would help. I have relationship issues as well and they're no fun. Take care of yourself.

Ry

EV, I could have written your post myself, and it would have been just a true for me I don't know how to fix it, either. I've been talking about it in therapy, though. I hope that will help. I just wanted you to know that you're not alone or weird.


Angela

((((((((Eva, Jmo, Sweetcrusader, and Ryan))))))))
Thanks so much for making me feel that its okay to be me. I was at a church before where people tried so hard to change me. Not that I didn't want to change, but it was almost like they blamed me for not trying hard enough to change. I felt so wierd like everyone one else who has troubles can change this and i can't. It was so frustrating. I do believe that I will overcome this, but its nice to know someone thinks your okay just the way you are.