[WePow]

Is it just me or is it harder to get through the night hours than the day?
Why is it we who were hurt so deeply long ago ache still?
When we tell the world of our agony, they look at us as if we have made a choice to stay in pain.
Is there any T in the universe who can make the long night end?

[REEG]

Yes, nights ARE tough sometimes! I think it's a combination of things- our guard is down, oftentimes abuse was experienced at night, less access to others, harder to distract self with activities. But I don't think you were really asking for reasons nights can be tough.

Though sometimes it feels unbearable, the pain won't always be this bad- can you find a memory or something phsyical to comfort you? My favorite is a novel and an electric blanket, or maybe a sappy movie and a good cry.

Just know that I hear it's hard for you now, and am sending support!!

hi, WePow,

i hear you. a dear old friend, now gone, once recommended to me that those of us with bad memories have to diminish the old memories by leading productive lives and creating new, happy memories. the more happy memories we create, the less impact the old ones will have on our psyches. of course, this is easier said than done in some instances.

something that works for me is doing something physical so that i am so tired that i sleep soundly through the night. living in nyc, i accomplish this by walking to and home from work. i experience the sunshine, the breeze touching me, other people and many other things by walking. and, i sleep more soundly too.

yes, i am dismayed that the abuse i suffered as a child is still with me despite it all. and, some days, it still gets the best of me and i wake up at night troubled. but, those nights have been decreasing. keep posting, it helps! i wish you peace.

[writingwithink]

Originally Posted by WePow

Is it just me or is it harder to get through the night hours than the day?
Why is it we who were hurt so deeply long ago ache still?
When we tell the world of our agony, they look at us as if we have made a choice to stay in pain.
Is there any T in the universe who can make the long night end?

Over the past six months, I've worked hard at noticing the inside world, and one of the things that came from that was the realization that I've spent my life fleeing from the night hours... just notice the time of night this is being posted.

No T can make the night hours less stressful; only you can do that. He/she can, though, give suggestions on how you might accomplish that goal.

Peace,
writing

[Sannah]

I think that the world appears/feels smaller when it is dark. When we are dealing with our issues the last thing that we need is for the world to feel smaller (see my signature). When it is day our world's boundaries enlarge and this always feels better.

I am careful about accepting the feedbacks of others on my issues. Most people do not understand troubling issues of these sorts.

We will ache until we have healed our boo boos and WePow, you are making excellent progress on healing!

[purple_fins]

WePow my heart is with you.

though I think my feelings/thoughts/memories are what one could say - opposite-- I can sure understand that wanting of time to skip certain moments-- like night. (for me it's day)

I feel calmer in the night, as I can stay unnoticed in the shadows. Day allows others to "see" me which means unsafe. (horrible, awful things happened when around other people and daylight)

ugh.... I imagine that your feelings of night are similar to my feelings of day....
it's so so difficult to get past the times when we felt the most pain/trauma........

I like what "writingwithink" said--

No T can make the night hours less stressful; only you can do that. He/she can, though, give suggestions on how you might accomplish that goal.

I agree with this.

thinking of you

fins

[geez]

WeePow I can relate to it being harder at night. I have two young boys that keep my mind active most times of the day and it's only at night when everyone is asleep that I have real quiet time to process things.

With my current family situation/crises - that has stepped to the front of the line and everything else is in the background. I would love to somehow juggle the two and get through this once and for all!

"When we tell the world of our agony, they look at us as if we have made a choice to stay in pain." I feel this way many a times as well.

Hope your evenings get a little better.

Peace.

[shezbut]

WePow,

Obviously, it is not just you. There are so many distractions throughout the day, it can be easy to overlook my own thoughts and feelings. Actually, I can't keep up!

But, at night, it is not peacefully quiet in my world. All sounds are amplified in my ears ~ breathing, creaks, thoughts, memories. I distract myself with mellow classical music, without a lot of changes in pitch and tone, and finally allow sleep to take me. I do still wake 3-4 times a night though.

(((hugs))) to you!