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Old Dec 02, 2010, 03:59 AM
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I know how it felt the day I knew I just had to tell,
its like a rock in your heart. A rock because they make you feel like its your fault, you know if you tell either people will hate you and be upset, not believe you, or the latter...believe you and support you.

But why does it have to feel like you did something wrong, why does it have to feel like your dirty..like YOU did it.

I just cant understand it and everytime I think about it i want to throw something or yell something through gritted teeth because I dont get it
WHy the hell do I have to pay ..why do I have to suffer?

And then once I tell.....everyone else moves on and im stuck with the dirty work? and for me it NEVER GOES AWAY.

*****-HOLE! I HATE YOU! YOU SHOULD HAVE PAYED FOR THIS!
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Old Dec 02, 2010, 05:44 AM
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Yes, this is what happens to those who have been abused. It isn't fair, not one bit. But by doing what needs to be done to heal and recover you will get to a much better place.
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Old Dec 02, 2010, 07:47 AM
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like sannah said if you get the help you need to vent your feelings you can overcome being a victim and become a survivor. it worked for me.
as for your abuser they will just move on to the next person. yeah we wish they'd suffer for their actions but that will lead us nowhere. abusers rarely change. however YOU can become whole again. that's more important. as long as we stay in that hole we are still allowing the abuser to control our life even if they've moved on. why allow them that power over us?
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