Abusers

IMO abusers are some of the most mentally ill people around. Mine left three bruises today for the first time in several years. Then he lied about it. He's sick and sometimes I hate him. I'm too old and sick to leave so please don't start that. Please just understand that I am hurting.

{{{{{Susan}}}}} =(

)) ) )))) ozzie ((( ( ((( bumpies 4 U, so sorry.

((((((((Ozzie))))) Are you okay?

((((((((((((((Susan)))))))))))))))))

Oh Susan,

I do understand that you are hurting..... I'm so sorry.
I agree with you that abusers are some of the most mentally ill people.
Please be safe--- thinking of you

mandy

Thanks for the support everyone. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
---"No matter how flat you make a pancake, there are still two sides"---

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Mandy, I like this. His side is that I'm a jealous ***** who isn't supposed to talk about the stuff we keep in the closet.

((((((((((Susan Jane))))))))
Do take care of yourself...you are never too old for that!

(((((ozzie)))))

Please hang in there! We are all hurting with you and hope you are being kind to yourself!

Just keep talking Ozzie.

To us, someone IRL or even yourself for that matter.

As long as you just keep talking.

Susan,

My signature--- " No matter how flat you make a pancake, there are still two sides"

.......is to remind me about my paranoid thinking..... things might not be the way I see them.... it helps me to think of the other person's perspective and helps take me out of my frequent skewed thinking.

I'm sorry his side is not a supportive one

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isn't supposed to talk about the stuff we keep in the closet

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No closets here..... post whenever you feel it will help!

Thinking of you.

mandy

Thank you all. I am married to a 61 year old Mama's boy and have been for 39 years. Every once in a while I am compelled to talk about the slight he has given me all these years. Yesterday he acted like I asked for a million bucks when I asked him to save a seat for me and his sister at the nursing home party. He went an hour and a half early!

He still won't admit how things are and tells me I have the problem. My therapist knows him well and has discussed that wierd relationship with me. He advised me once that my husband would never change or acknowledge the problem.

Mostly, I accept that it's how things are, but sometimes it gets the best for me.....especially when I'm having some of my own problems. (like I have been having lately) My speaking of something he is in denial about made him very angry......gee, am I saying it's my fault?

The next time he complains to me about one of my three sons, I may have to say, "at least they aren't Mama's boys". Ok, I know that would be mean. I'm feeling mean right now, as well as hurt and sad and lonely.

Thanks for encouraging me to talk more about it.

my darling ozzie I will say this now and forever, you have a place to stay if you ever need it..

I know you say you are too sick and old to leave but you are not.

I am only a phone call away..
Come see me please.. !!!!!

Plus you have not seen the wedding pics yet.. Bagles sound good ???

((((((((((((((((((Susan))))))))))))))))))))

I'm very sorry. NO ONE should be abused ever. I hear you when you say that leaving is not an option. I hope and pray for a peace for you and that something will touch your husband so that he changes.

Be safe,

KD

((((((((((((((((ozzie)))))))))))))))))) No one deserves to be treated like that. Since leaving is not an option I hope that his behavior drastically improves. Please stay safe. I am thinking about you.

Thanks again you guys. I really appreciate the support of how I'm feeling.