[brantgirl79]

I am about to file a Domestic Violence Restraining order. Does anyone know if that could prevent him from sending personal e-mails and private photos from our past relationship to my friends and family? This could be devastating to myself, family, friends, and it could cause me to lose my job

[WePow]

You may want to contact a woman's support center in your area to ask about this. I think it all depends on the laws of each area.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by brantgirl79

I am about to file a Domestic Violence Restraining order. Does anyone know if that could prevent him from sending personal e-mails and private photos from our past relationship to my friends and family? This could be devastating to myself, family, friends, and it could cause me to lose my job

here protection orders prevent the abuser from being within 500 physical feet from the victim and direct correspondence with the victim. it does not prevent the from protecting him/herself or gaining support from others by reveling photos letters and other personal items in their possession. in fact those things usually come out during abuse trials and divorce hearings with the defense making them public as proof that the victim may be lying, or show the victims character.

my suggestion if you think this is what this person is going to do, meet with those people who may receive the personal information. let them know what your situation is and that they may be the receiver of this stuff. better your friends family co workers and boss hear it from you rather than by email, snail mail, in court or other public means.

and when this person does make this stuff public you can sue them for slander, libel and defamation of character, emotional damages and damages due to the loss of your job.

[MoAnamCara]

brantgirl -

I am sorry you are going through this. I am unsure if the order would prevent this, and I think take Wepow's advice about contacting a womens center so you can ask.

Unfortunately something similar did happen to me with regards to emails and personal correspondance. It got to a harassing point with some friends & family that they contacted lawyers themselves.

For me, I was just happy to be out. It was humiliating etc., but compared to my life with him it was a small price to pay for my safety and sanity.

Please take care.

[eskielover]

usually OP's are only to physically keep the person away from you....within a specified distance....but doesn't usually cover anything else from experiences I have heard in the 2 states I have lived in.

You can always check to see if there is anyway you can protect yourself against things like that.

[Gr3tta]

You should check with the laws for where you live, when you file the order, they should be able to tell you there. Usually protective orders are only for you, and for direct contact with you, unfortunatley. However, if this person is harrassing family members or friends, they could file protective orders of their own to put a stop to it. I also encourage you to let those in your life who may be effected know what's going on. It would be wise to ask them to document, but ignore, any contact from this person. Try your best not to be as concerned with being embarrassed by things the person may say or show to others, your personal safety is what's most paramount. Good question, thanks for asking it! ~Emma

[new2ar]

I went through this in New Jersey. The temporary restraining order had a list the officer checked off. Then when I went to court, the judge finalized things. I was able to make sure he couldn't contact me in any way, nor could his friends contact me in any way that was threatening. The problem was that the town police didn't see things the way I did. I was planning on moving to Arkansas anyway so I just did it sooner.

There should be support groups in your area and there may even be legal advice for free. It all depends on what state and county you live in. I hope you find peace and security in your day to day life. It's not easy!