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Nov 24, 2011, 10:50 AM
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Years ago I put behind me the abuse I suffered from my father. Now, in therapy, these events are resurfacing. Today my father and his wife will join us for Thanksgiving dinner-a time we celebrate with my husband's family. My father is now a weak old man on oxygen, unhealthy from years of alcohol and drug abuse.
I am afraid that today I might again look at him is disgust, considering the awful memories I have relived. I would really prefer to disassociate today and be able to enjoy our meal together instead of feeling like I might be in tears afterwords.  I'm not asking anyone for any help, I'm just expressing my fear. |
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Nov 24, 2011, 11:09 AM
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I will be saying some prayers for you. I understand it will be difficult, but he is sick now and whatever he did in his past was due to his own personal struggles and MI. Your best way to get by is to say prayers and allow your faith to fill your body and focus on self love, strength, and will to be inspite of your past. These are times when you have to truely give yourself love and self soothing and kind thoughts to YOU as that is what you truely deserve.
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Nov 24, 2011, 12:02 PM
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empowering the heart of compassion is a good way to be with those who have harmed you. it involves acknowledging that we are all subject to suffering, and wishing with all your heart that you are free of suffering, your friends are free of suffering, strangers are free of suffering, and even your enemies are free of suffering... to the extent that you can include yourself and your enemies, you can find peace and forgiveness, and even well-wishing. i know you probably will not read this until after the meeting, but i hope you will reply to the thread and let us know how you did. best wishes, Gus
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Nov 24, 2011, 01:18 PM
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Hi bluemountains sending you hugs
 .I hope that is okay.That's so hard to be near someone who has harmed you so much. Take good care of yourself today and the days following. ....Kasva
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Nov 24, 2011, 04:16 PM
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Thank you for you kind words Open Eyes, Gus, and Kasva. Dinner was a happy event and I didn't give the past a thought, thus I worried unnecessarily.
I am glad that I could realize that I had indeed truly forgiven him, the fear I had was this wouldn't be the case. I think forgiveness took place for me when my father quit drinking/drugging and began treatment for his own mental struggles. This was 30 years ago. Since I finally am dealing with my own depression, I can better figure it all out. Your prayers and hugs definitely helped! Blue Mountains |
 Gus1234U, Open Eyes
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Nov 24, 2011, 09:07 PM
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thanx for the update and your honesty. such bravery is really admirable...
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Nov 25, 2011, 10:59 AM
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Very good work!
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Nov 25, 2011, 11:31 AM
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Yay~! well done, blue~! remember to praise yourself for a job well done, the courage to face it, and the awareness to notice what happened~
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Nov 25, 2011, 02:04 PM
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this too shall pass.
thank you for sharing. (((hugs))) |
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#10
Nov 27, 2011, 09:33 PM
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You Made IT through the day you were afraid of and this day too shall pass...
Your a survivor and you've Made it....  give yourself a break, healing is hard. Hang in there and keep posting...  Crew
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Nov 27, 2011, 09:38 PM
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Nov 28, 2011, 06:38 AM
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Your message is so true skilite! Thank you, and I hope all of us will take these words to heart as we try to heal. I am going to keep your words close, because these will inspire me when I'm down.
Bluemountains |
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