[AmandaK]

About a year or so ago, I was in a mental/physically abusive relationship. Just recently (technically, today), I received an email from my ex- asking me to give him another chance. How am I supposed to respond to someone who hurt me in so many ways? He promised to never do it again- but that's what he always said IN our relationship. Getting that email is just bringing back all of those memories that have permenantly scarred me. How do I go on through my day without having to worry if he's going to contact me again?

[kimmydawn]

amanda, i'm glad you seem to know that this is not something that you want and are working to solve it.

can you block him from email, phone, everything?

i mean, is there a reason you and he need to have any contact at all?

thinking of you...

KD

[AmandaK]

I've blocked him from my email. However, unfortunately, my phone does not let you block numbers. So, I can only avoid his calls or texts. I need to contact my company and tell them to block him if they can. Anywho, being able to move on is a little hard. However, I do believe that one must go through hardships in life to appreciate life. And I know it wasn't my fault, and others should also realize that. Being able to come here and talk about this is a relief. By the way KD, I love your signature!

[Rhapsody]

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ We are here for YOU.... hang in there and remain strong, for any one can say I WILL NEVER do that again, but it is in the seeing that you can only know that phrase to be true. You are doing the right things and we are here to support you thru to the end.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[desirae]

It's very important that you blow this off and do not reply. Make him understand that you are not uninterested, so interested that you will not even reply. I wouldn't even check his emails anymore if they effect you this way.

The words of an abusive man, even visually, attempting to con his way back into your life can have very strong affects. It's just another way to gain control over you.

I hope you stay away from him.....good luck

[mtd]

Hello Amanda, I agree with what everyone has said. Abusers like this so often claim they will not hurt again, but if they have not dealt with their problems totally, they are still simply too dangerous. I also agree that the best way to stop him from trying to contact you is to ignore him and not respond in any way. I worked with domestic violence survivors for 4 years, and their abusers would so often look for a way to contact their victims, even just so they were seen. It was like a cheap payoff for them to see the victim still afraid. The one thing that really worked was depriving them of that payoff by ignoring them. Stay as far away as you can and stay safe. You need time to heal, but you can do it and you can find peace.

Be well,

mtd