I was wondering how T/s think you heal from abuse (if that is even my problem). I don't feel like I know what is supposed to make me feel better. I feel like im in a swirl of events and sometiems i just talk about current events in session, sometimes i hint towards abuse, but none of it makes me feel better. I feel like I have increased my trust in my T, but still, I have my ED. What will help me heal?????

Time.

You’ll wake up one morning, you start to feel good
The sun in the blue sky, looks like it should

’cause time is a healer, it’s strange but it’s true
So, keep looking forward, the sun will come through.

[Eleora]

I found it to be a combination of time, facing it head on, and excepting yourself. For me, I always felt so different, and my self esteem dropped dramatically after the abuse. Overcoming that and realizing the abuse didn't make me who I am and that I wasn't going to let it rule my life was a big step.

[Lexicon78]

The only thing that helped me heal was having a T who was extremely aggressive and intense. You have to get into the past really deep. No matter how much it hurts or how you react, you have to do it.

It was only after being pushed and practically being badgered by the T that I was finally able to start to heal...after 10 years of therapy that never did anything for me.

Im not a therapist so I can't say according to a therapist point of view but for me one of the first things I ever did with one of my first few therapists was working the book and workbook - The Courage To heal by Laura Davis after that each time I see a new therapist or enter another round of therapy I do those books.After the 5th time through them I decided to write my answers in notebooks that way I dont have to keep rebuying them.