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#1
May 23, 2006, 01:30 PM
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So he dominates you physically (abuses) you. And then apologizes but says you need to apologize too since you asked for it.
Is that a real apology? Or is it just an avenue to do it again? Was it asked for? No! Not even by actions.
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May 23, 2006, 01:35 PM
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It was HIM not YOU doing wrong!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sorry your past is hurting you so much!
He's responsible for his own actions! You're not to be blamed! ((((((((((((((((((((Sabrina0805))))))))))))))) 
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#3
May 23, 2006, 01:36 PM
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No, it's not an apology, and you didn't ask for it.
((((((((((((((Sabrina)))))))))))))
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May 23, 2006, 01:45 PM
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(((((((((((((Sabrina)))))))))))))))))
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#5
May 23, 2006, 01:47 PM
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I know that pain. So wish I could hold you tight.
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May 23, 2006, 02:10 PM
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No, that's not a true apology and, no, it's never asked for.
((((((((((((sabrina))))))))))))) kd
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May 23, 2006, 02:27 PM
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((((((((((((((( Sabrina ))))))))))))))))
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May 23, 2006, 02:44 PM
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Even though I know better, I feel as though I deserve this. I feel that I invite this kind of behaviour. I feel that it is all I am good for.
And that makes me feel 'good for nothing'. What a paradox.
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#9
May 23, 2006, 02:49 PM
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When people abuse me, or things go wrong, I feel the same way
 It's such a hard feeling to shake (((((( Sabrina ))))))
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May 23, 2006, 03:03 PM
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Sorry, hon! I didn't know this was going on in present times. I feel for you soooo much, my sweet friend!
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May 23, 2006, 04:18 PM
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((((SABRINA))) No hun, it's not YOUR fault, nor was it asked for. We are all here for you!!! But he is to blame for his own actions. Don't blame yourself for this hun, we've all be there at one point. You did nothing to deserve this, neither of us did/does/do. We're all here fo ryou, like i've said in the beginning, hun.
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#12
May 23, 2006, 04:43 PM
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That's an old, common line by abusers. No, that's not a real apology, and NO you don't need to apologize, no one asks for abuse.
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May 23, 2006, 06:09 PM
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My heart goes out to you wholeheartedly... hmm does that make sense.. hmmm
Please don't allow an abuser to make you feel you deserve it NO ONE deserves to be abused, by anyone at anytime. I can not believe that you have done anything to ask for it that is just redundant..This person is only taking his faults and laying them on your doorstep, totally not right.. Sending a gentle hug your way and know that I am thinking of you Sabrina take care of you and see you later |
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#14
May 23, 2006, 11:05 PM
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((((((((((((((Sabrina)))))))))))))))) Please don't let him make you believe you asked for it or deserved it. He is the one that is to blame. Please be kind to yourself.
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May 24, 2006, 01:43 PM
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Sabrina for years I felt as if I deserved the abuse handed to me... i felt like I made him do it to me.. like i asked for it...... of course it was all because he told me it was my fault, that i asked for it by just walking through the room, or by wear the clothes i was wearing..... or the worst one of all, because i looked just like my mom....... I grew up thinking that it was in fact my fault...
abuse is never your fault... No one ever asks for i, no one ever deserves it... I understand completely how you feel... i am here for you ok????
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#16
May 24, 2006, 03:31 PM
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{{{{{{{{{{{{Sabrina}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} my sweet. NO, you don't need to apologize for anything! He's asking you to in order to not accept the responsibility for his actions! Nothing you do or say warrants any abuse from anyone!
Do NOT apologize! Do NOT accept any fault! Do NOT take any kind of responsibility for other's actions! If there is anything I can do or say, you know I'm here for you.
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#17
May 25, 2006, 04:31 AM
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Thank you so much to every one for all your wonderful support and wisdom.
I will heal. I always do.
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#18
May 30, 2006, 02:48 AM
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(((((Sabrina)))))
That's not an apology at all...more like he was intimidating you! I dunno. Nobody deserves no matter what!
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