[Kalamity]

Has anyone else been abused by their teenage child?

I don't want to go into my history with this but for now I'd like to know if anyone else has been through it.

[Rhapsody]

Are we talking about sexual or physical abuse here?.................. THX.



LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Kalamity]

Emotional and psychological is how I'd categorize what I experienced.

I've searched all over the internet and it would seem I'm quite alone in my experience.

[desirae]

I hate to discuss this because it's apart of me I happen to be very ashamed of, but then again I've accepted it and moved on, so hopefully I'll be able to help you out a bit.

When I was 13/14 years old I was very abusive to whoever I lived with at the time. I was physically and emotionally abusive to my family members and that was a large part of why I was detained on and off through my life.

When I was 16, the county, had enough of my chronic offenses and decided to send me to a group home in Arizona for girls. It was a therapeutic type setting and I received all the help I needed there, when I left I was a grown woman and ready to live a productive life, and to respect all people. I actually did do that, I've never abused anybody ever again, I sometimes call my husband horrible names, but besides that, I've been very good.

I think if this is what you are experiencing with your children then you should talk to somebody and investigate your options. It's very difficult to go against your kid like this, but in the long run, after they are through with you and on their own with a spouse and children, it may transfer to them. I think the reason why they do this to the people they love is because they are overwhelmed with anger and frustration, plus the fact they want to rule their own court comes to play as well.

I really hope you find what you need and you get control of this situation. It's not only the best thing you can do for yourself, but for your kids as well.

Please keep in touch and let me know what happens.

My child was not yet a teen ager. he is now in a residential treatment facility.

[Kalamity]

desirae, thank you for sharing your story with me. I'm glad that you were able to turn things around.

My daughter hasn't lived with me for four years but occassionally an issue will come up and it's hard for most people to relate to how I react and feel.

I'm expecting a confrontation from my ex, who thinks I should help my daughter by co-signing for her college loans. Even though she lives with him he doesn't get why I won't help her. I feel like everyone thinks I'm just a miserable parent - because I won't help her and I sent her to live somewhere else. When people ask me how many kids I have, I either say one (I have one that lives with me) or two (I have another son that lives with his dad). If I mention I have a daughter people assume we have a normal relationship when it's worse than miserable. I don't even talk to her. I've tried and it's just bad.

I hope she can someday turn things around and live a more positive life.

Sorry. I just have a lot of junk built up which is partly why I have been seeking people who can relate.

[Rhapsody]

Dear Kalamity,

While I have yet to locate any online INFO that might be able help you.... I was able to come across this BOOK - now praying that it can shed some light on an other wise dark moment.

http://adamsmedia.stores.yahoo.net/teentorment.html


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Kalamity]

Thank you Rhapsody. I'll check my local bookstore and see if they have a copy.

I have not been abuse by my children but I did see it happened to 2 mothers. No, you are not alone. It does happen.

I'm sorry.