childhood sexual abuse

When I was 11 years old my older male cousin raped me repeatedly for about six months almost every weekend. I didn't know what he was doing to me, but I told him to stop. He also did this in front of my younger brother who also told him to stop. It ended when my cousin's father suspected something.

I mentally blocked that out for about ten years. I finally told my parents when I was 18. Then my father's sisters accused my father of sexually abusing me. I was very angry because my father never laid a hand on me. My mother told them it was my cousin. Last year I found out that the mother of that cousin was going around telling my mother's relatives (she's my father's sister) that my father sexually abused me even after my mother told her it was my cousin. So I got on the phone and told her off and told her it was her son and that I'm going to tell everyone and that I'm going to put him in jail if I can. I told her she's no longer welcome. I told her off. And I did tell everyone. I tell everyone in my family.

Anyway, I still have a lot of anger towards that family. He's married with kids and he just had a daughter. I want to prosecute him or tell some law enforcement official or child services about what he did to me. Does anyone know how I could do that? I most certainly want him to pay for his crimes. I see my pdoc Tuesday. I'll ask her about it.

I'm so sorry this happened to you, but I'm ecstatic that you stood up to them and told it like it is.

I don't know what the laws are in your state, but here in Georgia, by the time I was strong enough to go after my abusers, the statute of limitations had already expired.

Do talk with your healthcare provider about it, though, for it may not be too late to prosecute them where you live, and if you are ready to stand up to them in court GO FOR IT ... !!!

You may save other children from this sorry sack of poo.

I was told, when I was considering reporting my abusers, that RAINN is a good resource that can answer these questions and help you find a support network while you go through the process of healing. I was told that, even though the statute of limitations is up, report it anyway. Give law enforcement in that area someone to look at and the report may help find newer victims who could report him. Usually these types don't stop abusing. Also, local community resources can help such as crisis lines and centers.

Congratulations on standing up to them. You've a lot of courage in doing that. You should be proud of yourself for that.

Thank you for your advice and support. I spoke to my therapist about it and she said because he was a minor himself that I couldn't prosecute him under the law unfortunately. We'll just have to keep an eye on him that he doesn't repeat the abuse with his daughter.