Possible trigger. Please help. Im so lost. Please. Was it s/a?

1. I would think she meant no.
2. I don't think it would matter if you stopped as you'd still hurt beforehand.
3. I guess so.
4. I know.. And it has made me think a little different about my situation..

How has your thinking changed?

Um.. Its just making me think that it doesn't really matter if he stopped cause he'd already done what was to ruin the past 3 years of my life...

You are realizing that he did you wrong, very wrong.

I'm really sorry that he hurt you so much and so deeply.

If a 14 year old came to you and told you this same story, what would you think?

You think he ruined the past 3 years of your life. The good news is: he doesn't have to ruin the rest of it.....You cannot forget what he did, but you CAN work at understanding what happened and stop blaming yourself. You can decide what you want your life to be like and not let him control the rest of it (I was molested at age 11 and that was 50 years ago); you never forget it, but you are the one who decides who you will be and what you want to do. xoxoxox, Nicole

Bill3, I think I am . Thank you so much for your help, you've been so helpful and you have no idea how much it means to me. Thank you!

nicoleflynn, thank you for replying. If I was told that, I would definitely think it was wrong, I think I try and justify it because I loved him... I am really sorry that happened to you. I will try to find a way to learn to live with it and I really hope I can. Thank you so much for your help. It really means a lot!
Hugs xoxox