[Fuzzybear]

As I'm so "weak" and so"hypersensitive" and so "immature" and a whole book full of cruel insults from multiple abusers, probably it never will go away.

Why can't I just die. Then they will be happy!

[likewater]

Oh, Fuzzy. First of all, those ugly things you abusers told you are lies. Please don't let them win. It may never go away completely but keep healing. I think life is a process of forever learning, growing
and healing. You are strong and mature and tough and there is nothing wrong with being a sensitive
soul. I know you are strong and tough because you survived. You are a survivor. You are sweet and
fuzzy but you are a grown bear now. You can take care of yourself. You have claws, swipe those nasty. Insults away. And if you don't feel safe go to the nearest emergency room or call 911 or call a
crisisLine . May angels surround you.

[nicoleflynn]

Try to remember that when people say ugly things about you.....they are really talking about themselves; they dislike/hate....themselves and so they take it out on other people. Happy, well-adjusted people NEVER abuse others. Don't die......LIVE; do all of the things you have wanted to do. THe Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. Abusers are miserable, unhappy, frustrated people. Don't allow ANYone to tell you who you are...YOU are the only one who defines who you are.

[Frankbtl]

Hi Fuzzy, since when should the focus of our concerns/thoughts be on making people like that happy??!! Our concerns are about YOU Fuzzy!!!
And you're right, the memories of what they said/did might not go away. But the meaning you attach to them can change. You can maybe see the abusers more for what they actually were as opposed to allowing them to define you (in your mind).
You are stronger, you are more powerful than they would ever be by moving on from what you had to experience, and still keeping that caring, compassionate warmth in relation to others. You are still there!! They don't have to keep that control over you, you've shown that by showing us who you really are deep down.
And the strength you've shown is 10000000% more valuable than any strength they may have had/inflicted. The strength you've shown reflects real integrity, sincerity, genuineness. You are so much better than them, whatever they did. And you are still you, doesn't matter what any of them said/did, there's no denying it!!
I know it must really hurt sometimes, but what happened to you was their failing, why take ownership of that, it says nothing about you at all!! They don't deserve to pass off anything on to you!!
Alison

[Stronger]

You, my dear are nothing other than:
Beautiful
Amazing
Caring
Awesome
Thoughtful
Awe-inspiring
PERFECT
And a whole book full of compliments that remind you of just how special you really are. So don't for a second believe anything different.

[deepbluelosthope]

Hi.
I just wanted to say how moved I am reading all these posts. There are too many wise words in every single reply to quote one in particular. Fuzzy, please draw strength from everything being said. I know it is immensely difficult to do but we are all here because we are in pain and hurting from the appalling actions of others when it is not our fault. It feels overwhelming at times, maybe all the time, but we must keep remembering we are not alone in dealing with these issues. Sadly there are too many of us here going through terrible times coping with current or past trauma. We were picked on by people who are weak and pathetic who wanted to destroy the goodness/happiness/positivity they observed in us because they could never find that goodness/happiness/positivity themselves.

Stronger, Frankbtl, nicoleflynn, likewater - you are amazing, thoughtful, caring, exceptional people and you write some absolutely inspiring posts.

Fuzzy - lots of hugs from me!

I never stop being amazed by you truly incredible people on these forums.

[SeekerOfLife]

I too get times when I wish I would just die and get out of everyone's way. But I do not allow myself to think beyond that.

You said something I had been thinking for some time now...I think my abusers would be very happy if I died...Frankly, I think they are disappointed that I'm still here.

So sorry Fuzzy Bear. I understand how bad it feels. Some people never grow up. What they are doing is behaving like children calling you names. I would imagine they never had any discipline or learned respect for other people growing up. It's very sad you have to suffer. You don't deserve to be called names. Try and do something nice for yourself today. If no one else will treat you well then you must be good to yourself without them.

My abusers want me disabled, so they can tell me, themselves, and others that I am the problem, and they are not. It's the old, "Well, you're the one who sees a shrink, not me," put-down. They will deny this if anyone calls them on it, but that doesn't change the fact.

Fuzzy, if your abusers would be happier with you dead, it makes no statement whatsoever about you. Those insults they hurled--they were looking at their own reflections in a mirror, and pretending they were talking to you. If your death would make them happy, it's only so they can use it as evidence to show how much healthier they are than poor, damaged Fuzzy was, and on top of that, gain sympathy from others for the tragedy of having lost you. That's how they would win, not by having you "out of their way." There is a reason why people say, recovery is the best revenge. Our abusers HATE it when we get better, because it proves to them how little power they had over us after all.

[Alone & confused]

Fuzzy, those who speak badly of you or to you aren't worthy of licking the ground you walk on! Even if they would be happy if you were gone, THEY DON'T DESERVE TO BE HAPPY when all they do is cause you pain! My ex husband left me a voice mail just the other day wishing I would die. But you know what?, I would NOT give him that satisfaction! And neither should you! As bad as my life gets, and as hard as it may be, I intend to OUTLIVE ALL of my enemies! Don't let their Evil tongues destroy you! You are SO MUCH BETTER than your cruel abusers! Look at yourself through the eyes of those who love and value you. Recognize your abusers for what they are, ABUSIVE, CRUEL, UNWORTHY OF JUDGING YOU, and dismiss every word that comes out of their sorry mouths! Reject their opinions, don't except them. Let them be judged by their own judgments! I've had to do the same thing over & over & over again, so I'm not giving you any advice that I don't use myself. It's not what you're "called" sweetheart, it's what you "answer" to. If you "agree" with what they say then you're only giving Them power over you. Prove them the fools that they really are! Take that power away from them and give it to yourself. Sending you strength & encouragement!

[Mysterious Flyer]

You should not continue to interact with these people.