[SpaceBetween]

I'm new to the forums and I'm looking for peopel to talk to about recovering from abuse and looking for support from people who have had a difficult time with therapy, groups, ect.
I've done therapy, and group therapy, and I've found all those creative outlets of my frustrations and whatever, but I still feel like I'm not quite... whole.
Any suggestions or comments would be greatly appreciated.

[arod13]

spacebetween welcome hope you find the support you need there is a lot of people here that can supply that
feel free to pm me anytime if you want

welcome, to the forum!

[kimmydawn]

Hi there and welcome!

I like you...I've done the therapy, etc., and there are times I still feel like I did all those years ago...not whole by a long shot.

I think with me, it's just that...feeling. That's when I have to intellectually find out what might be triggering this feeling and try to work with it. This can help to bring the body and mind together in a good way.

It's difficult to continually work on being "OK".

We're here. We understand.

KD

[FaithisAlive]

Hi and Welcome! I am still learning that it is going to take a long time to work through the years and years of abuse I endured.
For me, it has meant alot of grieving. grieving for the childhood I never had.. grieving for the loss of a family I believed I had that was all really phony..
I grieved for the lost little girl I was and the teenager I never got to be.

And for me, grieving like that has helped me feel more complete because I know I let go of those empty places in my life.I don't know if that makes any sense really.But I do feel more whole having accepted the losses abuse caused in my life.

I don't know.. so far therapy has been a good thing for me even though I never thought I needed therapy.. I thought I was dealing pretty good.

I hope you find the support and understanding here that you need. Wishing you the best...Faith

[Rhapsody]

HELLO &

You have found a wonderful place to heal in....... please just keep on talking and letting how you feel out and in time we will all come together, as to HEAL.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[Rhoda]

Hello Space..I am new here also but have found great people here..

[SpaceBetween]

I read all your replies; I think the reason, the two most important reasons, i'm doing this is that I'm only twenty and i look at my life and now, feeling the way I feel, and I think to my self," I don't want to feel this way for the rest of my life." And second, I don't want the people around me to have to deal with it also. I love them, and I want their happiness and their comfort to be enough to let me know that everything really will be OK. But sometimes that isn't enough...

[JustAPixie]

(((((((( Space ))))))))

[No_ones_victim]

Hi I am new to. I understand your frustrations. I seem to be having the same problem. No one really ever understands how you feel or what your going through. My therapist said journaling might help but I can't seem to sit and think long enough to write a complete thought. So I thought that this might help me. Talking to other people that have been where I've been. Not some one telling me what I should do to feel better.

[SpaceBetween]

Nikki

I'm a Nikki too!! LOL small world. My name is Nicole. LOL.

I'm hoping that, people will actually start talking about it, since i've noticed that the abuse forum has the LEAST threads and posts... i know i'm broken but, like, can't we give eachother pieces or something. right? i dunno.

[kimmydawn]

SB,

I hope to hear more from you as you're ready.

No ones victim...welcome!!!

KD

[Sarah116]

[Sarah116]

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Hi I am new to. I understand your frustrations. I seem to be having the same problem. No one really ever understands how you feel or what your going through. My therapist said journaling might help but I can't seem to sit and think long enough to write a complete thought. So I thought that this might help me. Talking to other people that have been where I've been. Not some one telling me what I should do to feel better.

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To you too!

[Guyana6]

Hi
I am looking for support to overcome the abuse that I endured durning childhood. People tell you what to do or to get over it but it hard. Some days you feel like you are reliving the whole thing and you do not feel whole.

Guyana6

[FaithisAlive]

I agree with Nikki about having your whole life ahead of you and not wanting to feel this way.. I am 43 and I have hidden those feelings all my life.. pretending to be okay and happy and well-adjusted. I pretended so much for so long that i am having a hard time letting go of the facade.I'm happy you are here now....

I am thankful to have found a good counselor when I did and I regret that i wasted so much of my life being miserable and in pain without trying to do something about it.I hope you are able to find the healing you deserve so you can have the joy and happiness life has to offer. Please feel free to pm me anytime.

To the other newcomers... welcome and i hope you find this to be a safe place where you get the support and encouragement you need... and the same mesage above applies to ya'll as well.Peace, Faith

[PaulS]

Even people who know you have been abused don't want to deal with it.

They feel guilty they haven't helped

They are in denial and not ready tocome out about their own abuse, so they are indenialabout yours

Other people want to organize their feelings about you as though that is all you were. Abuse survivors still eat polish dogs and like to go swimming- but we don't want people to see our scars and scare us.

I'm so fortunate that my own abuse was so very very minor thtI am nottoo deeply scarred by it butcan still identify a bit.

okay to talk about it until you are sick of hearing yoruself talk eventually, someone willlisten, and you will say 'butthat's enough aboutthat, let's go tothe zoo forthe rest of the day."

Is that a good working goal - Idon't want to talk about it any more right now?

[PaulS]

Evidently you are online right now. I reach out, but I'm pretty sleepy. Wroe something alrady elsewhere.

I thought I had been seriously abusedin childhood because my emotions told me something bad had happened. I put ittogether that how yoiu feel about it is at least as important as what happened. I don't mean it's all in your head, but that the goal is to decide what part of your life it will be.

Look for people who you feel safe with as yoiu explore. If you don't feel safe you are a victim all over again.

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