[HeartStar2]

Has anyone ever had sexual dreams about their abuser? I've had some and I really am bothered by them. I don't want to feel attracted to my abuser in my dreams but they seem to happen quite a lot lately. Normally if I saw my abuser on the street I wouldn't walk across the street to spit on him to put him out if he was on fire, like I would clap and give a standing ovation if he got hit by a car. That's my feelings towards him, but I can't stop having sexual dreams about him. Makes me sick, I feel like I'm sick and demented for having them. Anyone else have any of these problems or anything like that? Anyone have any suggestions?

[CaptainChaos79]

Oddly this is more common than people realize...like rape victims who have rape fantasies because they want to take control of the situation that once destroyed them...much the same type of thing.

[HeartStar2]

Well that sucks, I guess im gonna have to get some therapy or something cause I need these dreams or whatever they are gone.

[Verity81]

I've had it, it does happen but you are not sick for having the dreams, I do believe also it's a way of the brain trying to gain control. Therapy would be a good idea to work through it. Don't judge yourself for the dreams though, you've done nothing wrong ((hugs))

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[Perna]

Yes, therapy to work it through might help. I know I avoided my abuser for a long time before there was no chance we'd meet again but then, many years later, I had a dream where I was willingly introducing them to my stepmother because she had liked him and hadn't seen him in all those years, etc. (I never told her about the abuse)

[HeartStar2]

Thanks all, I am going to seek counseling. I think its best. I hope it helps me work out these issues. I really don't want these dreams they make me very uncomfortable.

[Lacy Rose]

I think it's a great idea that you go to a therapist. In my experience therapy has been a great help. Dreams like you are having (sadly) seem to be common. Last night I had one. In my dream it seemed normal and not a bad thing to be abused and yet when I woke up I was horrified. Interesting how our brains are always trying to process our experiences and make sense of them. I wish you the best! You are not alone!