Currently I still have my so-called fathers last name.

I am going to change my last name to my grandmothers last name, she was someone who raised me through my teen years and never gave up on me, and her family is known for being strong and upright. I think it will be a bit of closure for me. And, it is a way to continue on my grandmothers legacy now that she passed away.

Thoughts?

[LMo]

I think that's a beautiful idea. I applaud your decision

Anything one can do to further closure is a plus(of course, as long as it's not harmful) I think that sounds like a very good idea.
I wonder though, is that difficult to do--changing one's name-- and is it expensive? I hope it works out for you.

I applaud you in taking a "healing' direction.

Rainbowzz--

mandy

[vanna123]

I support you in your decision - I have 2 very close friends who changed their names because of the abuse in there household and wanting closure
They are both so happy with their decsion and do not regret the change at all.
Good luck

[wanttoheal]

I think it's a lovely idea and I completely understand the desire to do so. I am so thankful for my married name. I have never thought of the other name as mine but took to this one completely. I'm sure your grandmother would be honored.

[wisewoman]

I support you 100 %. Go for it and enjoy you name.

[Perna]

My aunt changed her first name because she didn't like it/didn't like her mother who'd named her, etc. It's a fee to change it leagally and can be a bit of a hassle to change it in all the legal forms, governments, credit cards, post office, schools, etc. I agree though that it's a great idea if it makes you feel better and encourages you. One of the people I admire is my great grandmother but I merely named my cat after her :-)

Well, thanks all.

I'm in Canada, and from what I worked out it would cost me about $150 all in all. I don't mind the forms or hassle at all. I think it is a really positive step as well.

[mtd]

I don't know if they say this in Canada or just in the U.S., but "you go girl!" Your choice is a beautiful expression of yourself and honors who you really are and who really is family to you

be well

mtd

Thank you! And yes, we say that in Canada!

[Sabrina]

I think it is a wonderful new lease of life for you. You are doing a wonderful thing that will bring your grandmother as well as yourself much peace.

[nothemama8]

You go girl, wonderful way to honor your Grandmother

[January]

Rainbowz.

I think it's a wonderful idea. I made up my last night. I was deserted by my family at a time when I desperately needed them. So, I legally changed my name.

The only problem I've had is that I have a Traumatic Brain Injury. Sometimes when I've had a really bad relapse, I can't remember my name. I'm sure that won't happen to you, though, and I think it is a wonderful way to honor your beloved grandmother.

Hugs,

Jan