[ThingWithFeathers]

How did it go? What came out of it? I've been toying with the idea and just windered what people's experiences had been.

Yes, I did. Not much came from it honestly. He didn't deny what he did, but I can't say it was particularly healing either. Not really sure it actually made much difference to me in retrospect.

I have not and don't think I ever will. I just wanted to say I think it's very brave to even consider doing it.

Most abusers will not own up to their misdeeds.

But when they do, I hear it does wonders for the healing process.

My family did not, will not and probably never will.

Therefore, I have nothing to do with them for my own well-being.

Maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones and all can heal well together!

[skeksi]

I have not.

Actually, the person I most want to confront is my mother who failed to protect me. She knows what happened but we've only talked about it a little, once, and she made it a lot about her pain, not mine, so I stopped the conversation.

If you decide to confront, I think it can be very helpful to have a T to work with before and after the fact to help you decide what you want to say and how to process what happens.

[shakespeare47]

I've made a few attempts to find the man who abused me 38 years ago, but have only come up with dead ends. My parents hired the guy, but can't remember his name (but, I only asked 25 years later).

I did confront my parents about it, and they have apologized for letting me spend the night with a stranger (he did some plumbing repairs on our house). My dad admits the guy should have been charged with his crime.

[STASlS]

I have, it did nothing as he did not 'own up' to anything that he did to me in our past. It has been 3 years since I last spoke to him, I am a much happier and a much stronger person since then.

[shakespeare47]

I did confront my brother about the fact he told me it was my fault I was abused. That in itself was very abusive.
It wasn't very satisfying. I confronted him in public and he denied it in a way that made me look like I was making things up.

So, abuse heaped upon abuse, as far as I'm concerned. He lives far away, and I see no reason to have any contact with him (and actually, I told him never to contact me again.).

I have for one person. They denied they did it, said "I'm sorry if I did it but I don't remember."

[precaryous]

I wasn't able to confront the psychiatrist who exploited me. I was at his deposition for my civil case but my lawyer advised me not to address him. I could only scribble notes to my lawyer when she was questioning him. He, on the other hand, pointedly looked at me and angrily told my lawyer to have her make me quit staring at him. I wasn't staring at him!

All of this was audio recorded. So, a person listening to the recording would not know whether I had been staring at him...menacing him...or not.