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#1
May 16, 2007, 09:35 PM
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Has anyone been sexually abused by their mother? Are you male or female?
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#2
May 16, 2007, 10:03 PM
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Yes and I am female. I know she also sexually abused my brothers and some male cousins who lived with us for awhile.
Are you asking becasue you have been?
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May 16, 2007, 10:12 PM
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We were as well.
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May 16, 2007, 10:42 PM
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Yes. I've repressed it all of my life. I've been having flashbacks. I'm thinking about telling my T on Friday. I wonder how he will take it.
Do you know when the abuse stopped? |
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#5
May 16, 2007, 10:55 PM
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she carried me and put me into my father's bed and then slept in mine. it's different, but it's the same. xoxoxo pat
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May 16, 2007, 11:13 PM
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She stopped when I left at 17 to be married. Repressed my abuse too. She is 77 now and has Alzheimers. The emotional abuse never really stopped. She's not all gone in the mind yet, cause the last time they visited she made a statement that the reason I got married was to spite her and had this really ugly look on her face. Before I got her to stop, by finally saying something, she would stare at me with the same kind of look my life partner does. creepy. .But what ya going to do, beat up an old lady.
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#7
May 16, 2007, 11:50 PM
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Yes. Im female...she is old now and pretends like nothing happened. My T says shes sick and to pity her not freak and give her power over me..
No you cant beat up an old lady, which is why I have to stay away from her..I think if Im around her too long I would do something I regret. I know she's sick but it is still very difficult to forgive. Even though there was sexual abuse Im not sure it turned her on. I think she was angry and wanted to do the meanest things she could think of. Sorry to hear you are also victims.
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#8
May 16, 2007, 11:57 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
RACEKA said: Yes. I've repressed it all of my life. I've been having flashbacks. I'm thinking about telling my T on Friday. I wonder how he will take it. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I couldnt even tell my T. We still barely talk about to face to face. I texted it to him. He wasnt shocked he was really supportive and nice. I've never told anyone else. Beside him and now posting it on the internet, lol. </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> RACEKA said: Do you know when the abuse stopped? </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> When I was old enough to slug her in the jaw and turn the tables-make her afraid of me...
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#9
May 17, 2007, 12:01 AM
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Yes. Female.
Telling your T is a good thing. He can take it; they can take anything and you don't have to take care of him. Tell him for your sake. |
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#10
May 17, 2007, 01:45 AM
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Yes, and i am female. It was sooo awful. The last time she did was a year ago when I dissociated and went away and a child part came out. I do not even go to the same state she is in. I cannot.
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May 17, 2007, 02:37 AM
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<font color="green">Does a godmother count? While my mother was in a mental hospital because she had a breakdown and tried to kill me I had to live with my godparents.
My godmother actively aided my godfather in abusing me and preformed sexual acts on me as well. I have worked through a lot of it in therapy but it still sickens me. 
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#12
May 17, 2007, 08:22 AM
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I wasn't sexually abused, but physically and mentally abused. So why did I write here? Well I get the feeling you are writing is because a lot of people (who are totally clueless) have trouble believeing that a mother can abuse their kids. No problem with the father, but a mother, well that just can't be. I had trouble with a lot of relatives who didn't want to believe it.
In a college class I just took, we learned that abuse is actually higher in mothers than fathers. But I am sure a lot of that is because there are a lot more single mom's out there who take full care of their children than, fathers, but still the facts kinda shocked the class. Some in class had trouble believing that facts. I just wanted to stand up in class and "inform" them that yes mothers can abuse, it happened to me. But the proff. handled it fine. I think there is something so wrong for a parent to do this, it takes everything away from an already vulnerable child who is innocent. |
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#13
May 17, 2007, 08:31 AM
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To answer your questions, yes, and female.
It took me years even to muster up the courage to bring it up in therapy, and I wasn't sure I was going to live through working it through, but I did and am better for it. There's no denying it stinks in the meantime, though. I wish you peace. |
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#14
Jun 28, 2007, 07:07 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((Pat))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Jun 28, 2007, 08:57 PM
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yes, female..mother, brother, and many many others
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#16
Jun 29, 2007, 10:44 AM
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Yes. But it was my sister who was 8 years older than me. Ten years after she stopped did I realize what she did was wrong. My sister was my nurturer, my best friend, I still feel extremely betrayed.
By the way I'm female.
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#17
Jun 29, 2007, 06:22 PM
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Dear Dalila,
I'm so sorry that these these very upsetting and difficult things occured in your life. Yes, of course these things count and matter. Abuse is abuse, and it can occur by any kind of person, male or female. It can be a person who is biologically related to you - a parent, sibling, or grandparent, for instance - or a caretaker, friend of the family, or neighbor. It's still abuse whenever an another adult hurts a child sexually, physically, and/or emotionally, whether they are a relative or not. I was abused by various people as well, both males and females. The most difficult abuse was that which my mother did. So yes, it is possible. I think it occurs less frequently, though, and it is harder for a lot of us to discuss as well because it seems so unusual for women to hurt children, and particularly female children. But it is possible to talk about it and get help, and heal from even these very difficult things. I wish you all the best, and I send you caring thoughts.... Take care, ErinBear
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