[happyflowergirl]

My brother was found dead a week after he passed away, they say due to natural causes, he was only 36. How could it be natural causes, when it was my mother who beat the crap out of him to a point of having brain damage that caused seizures?

Seizures he has all his life, which we were told by her that is was due to complications of birth. Well I took him to a neuro. surg. a few years ago and he said the test looked like someone in a very bad car accident or being hit in the head a lot.

found out the truth, even if I tried hiding the truth for my own reasons, because if it didn't happen to me, it didn't happen. But it did, I am a survivor too. My brother wasn't so luckey, his damages were much worse than my physical and emotional scars. It has been a month, no funeral, I had to do a search on the web to find out the exact day he died, I can't call my mom, who was the next of kin who was notified. No funeral, just cremation, so now she has rid herself of one of kids compeletly. She probably threw them in the dumpster. What an evil women. She makes me sick.

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so sorry, gentle hugs, this must be so hard for you, words will not come to comfort you, only sadness at this act....please take care and pm if you need to talk

jin xxxxx

[happyflowergirl]

Thanks for responding, I am feeling a lot of hurt right now. I feel I need to survive this, not let my so called mother win. Is there a word for an abusive mother? I don' t even know what to call her.
I am so glad my kids won't have to live what I went through. They are told everyday how much they are loved, it isn't even a big deal to them, because they always know. But my mother didn't love me, didn't show it or tell me. Some people should not be allowed to have kids. Thanks for listening.

I hear you hon, that's the only positive out of abusive parents/parent, at least we over compensate and make sure our kids don't go through the trauma and torment we did........

Love Jin xxxxx

[Peanuts]

I am very sorry for your loss. Your brother did not deserve to be abused and neither did you.

Perhaps you could put together a memorial for yourself and invite others who knew your brother ? Get a picture frame together or poster board and put pictures of him and pictures of his favorite places, foods, people. Have a ceremony of sorts. This will help bring closure and will honor your brother and all that he touched and influenced while he was here.

Have your own memorial.

[happyflowergirl]

Thanks everyone for your support. I wrote a poem, but it is an angry one at my mom for the memory of my brother. Please don't read if you trigger easily okay.
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Light Bulb Moment

Shove that wattage up your ***, mother.
Let us screw you into the most beautiful lamp.
Turn on that light that shines into the dark empty pit of your soul.
However, the light burns out as the evil encompasses and rejects all possible light in you.
What can’t you see the tunnel of white light?
Because vileness souls like yours belong to the devil.
Do you feel the burning pain of the light bulb radiating through you?
That is how a child feels when being tortured by their mother.
However, you can only feel yourself.
Well I feel and see the bright light of the truth.
My words will never hide your darkness.
You will pay your electric bill when the time comes
There will be no extensions; your power will be turned off,
As you fall into your deserving dark depths of hell
clink-

Dedicated to my brother Dennis RIP 10/17/07 who was a victim of childabuse. My mother weapon of choice hot light bulbs

[wickedwings]

i'm glad that your brother had someone who cared about him, and that was you. i'm so sorry for your loss.

[50guy]

It's been nearly 10 years since the passing of my brother, he was murdered, no one has been charged and the police say it was an overdose, drink and drugs. The problem is my brother didn't do drugs. His wife did and she says he accidently ingested her meds (xanax). I called BS on that but, the police can't do anything because he did have access to the drug and she says he took them.

Your Mother murdered him, it took him over 30m years to die but, she did it.

[happyflowergirl]

Thanks Peanuts,

That is a great idea, my T even suggested that too. I don't think I am ready to look at pictures, I have all of his at my house. I am having a really hard week, all my grief came flooding in on me on Monday, but luckey I saw my T that day and it helped a lot. I am also grieving my stepdaughters baby who only lived 29 days. I know i am too young to be a grandma, but I still felt like that baby was my grandbaby. It has been tough month for me.
Thanks for responding.

[happyflowergirl]

Thanks,

That was a sweet thing to say, you don't seem too wicked to me.
I appreciate your support.

[happyflowergirl]

Thanks guy for understanding. You are so right, she DID kill him, I am rather angry and sad about that. But it also has given even more of a reason to survive.
Your brother situations sounds aweful. That women sounds scary to me, I wish you could have received justice at least. I really miss my brother even before he was gone (he was out of state). But at least he isn't hurting anymore, he had a lot of problems due to childabuse and wasn't very happy in life much of the time. But I still wish he was around, he is my only sibling.

[Perna]

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Is there a word for an abusive mother?

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"Monster" can work in some cases. I was singing "Ding Dong the Witch is Dead" for my stepmother when she died. It was very satisfying at that time.