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Mar 24, 2008, 03:35 PM
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Living with an abuser is making me crazy. He says or does one thing and then later swears he did not say or do such and such.
He acts one way in public and like a totally different person at home. One day something is ok to say or do, the next day the same thing is NOT ok If I wear makeup or perfume or jewelry he asks who am I seeing If I start to lose weight he says he will have to start going everywhere with me so no one will look at me. If someone calls me he listens to the conversation. People stop calling If things don't get done when and the way he wants things get thrown and broken (my things) If he wants sex and I say no it can never be no. I never spend money on me or the kids but the question is always what are you doing with MY money. Sometimes I wonder why I even exist. |
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Mar 24, 2008, 03:52 PM
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hi... i am sorry that he is treating you that way... what are you doing to take care of yourself? are you in t? lyn
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lyn one could do worse then be a swinger of birches. ~robert frost~
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Mar 24, 2008, 08:18 PM
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have you thought about other options?
if you're scared for yourself or your kids? can you get help like from your family or a shelter? it takes a lot to get out of a situation, but it might be worth it. there is a lot of good info in the boards, quizes, and articles. best to you watch to make sure your computer whereabouts cannot be tracked.
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Mar 25, 2008, 09:50 AM
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Yes I am in therapy. She is helping me make a plan to get out of here. RIghit now I just feel dead and don't have energy or ambition to do anything.
I don't take care of my self and I guess that is a big part of the problem. |
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#5
Mar 25, 2008, 10:12 AM
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Hi shirley...
I am sorry about the fear you live with,,,it is certainly a difficult situation. Please care for yourself and your children. He sounds disordered and without self recognition and therapy the situation for all of you is not promising. The children need your strength so keep working on you,,your self esteme and how important you are to your children... We are here.. Lenny
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I have only one conclusion,,and that is things change too quickly for me to draw them.... Sobriety date...Halloween 1989. I was plucked from hell...and treat this gift as if it is the only one... |
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Mar 25, 2008, 12:18 PM
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shirley... i stayed way too long... so i understand... my ex used many of the same tactics yours does to control me... but i didn't want that for my children... so i focused on them... stay safe...lyn
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lyn one could do worse then be a swinger of birches. ~robert frost~
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