[yung30]

I have not had a life since my ex-husbands parole. I feel like a prisoner in my house. I could cry or scream I don't know wich one to do first. I had a life before this, friends, times out with my boyfriend, dinners out with the kids. We had a life and now it seems to be long gone. I don't know what will become of us now? Will we ever get through this mess? My family and friends keep telling me to stay strong but I just want to say to them how? How can you expect me to deal with this? I am a strong person but for Gods sake I need a brake. I'm falling apart fast. Now my counselor tells me I should leave the state and I have taken all of the steps to make that a reality. Leave the state where I was born and raised and run off!! Leave my 71 year old mother and not know when me and the kids will see her again. Take every last dollar that we have and spend it to run away from this man who just 9 years ago tried to murder my son and I.

Someone please tell me if there is ever justice. I have two kids that I have raised with ko help from their father's and this is the thanks that I get! One big kick in the teeth! I am 30 years old and I swear that I have never known a peaceful day in my life. I am truly heart broken and don't know what to do. Life is cruel and maybe thats the end period. Is that realy it....?

[Kiya]

=( yung, i am so sorry! can't they do anything? protect you?
do you live in a big state? change your name and move but stay in your state, unlisted?
or stay but do things for your protection - like you and the kids take karate (really works, I have used it), learn safety techniques, get a monitoring system for your home...
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[yung30]

The problem is that since he is my son's father he can try to get visitation with him and he told me if he ever does he will kill our son to hurt me. I live in PA, a small town. His parole restricts him to stay in the state thats why they think I should leave. I'm just so tired that I don't know how much more I can take!

[Kiya]

OMG what a *&^%$! he is for saying that!!! Sorry. How scary!!! Would you even be allowed to leave the state? Do you have full custody now? there must be something that can be done. well, if you do move, before hand, look up the various States legislations to see which would best suit you and your son's needs so that guy can NEVER get him.
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[Christina86]

((((((((((yung30)))))))))))

Kiya gave some good advice. How about discussing this further, with your counsellor and either a lawyer or a police officer... someone who knows the rules/regulations and can help you find assistance to keep you and your son safe?

[Troy]

Amazing ... tried to murder you two ... prison sentence .. and now visitation rights !!!! This has to go higher in the courts to keep him away. What kinda idiot judge would permit such a thing?

If he is a threat, you need to do what you need to do to protect you and children. It's not "fair" but it's reality for you and grandmother to take off for a place he won't know where you are. It's your safety balanced against what you would like or what seems fair. It's what you value against what would be nice.

If he's a real threat, jump... and jump fast.

T.