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#1
Jun 21, 2008, 04:03 PM
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Ironic... life is so ironic....
My pedophile... my.. pedophile.. caught.. when I was 30..something... and.. plea bargianed out... and me.. not wanting to add my voice... to others... I went to lawyer... years later... I wanted "closure"... I wanted to confront him.. to tell him what he did.. to my life.. how he "destroyed" me... the 12 year old me.. the 13 year old me... the 14 year old me.. the 15 year old me... and the future adult me... I went to one of the top criminal lawyers... hey.. go to the best right??? The lawyer told me... that I risked my future.. if during the confrontation... the pedophile had a "heart attack"... or "suffered"... any injury...like emotional distress... that this old man... or his family.. on his behalf.. could then sue me... Amazing... isn't it... they rape us... they sodimize us.. and then.. there they are... gots all the rights.. and.. me.. none... I don't know....perhaps.. we should give the world over to the abusers... sorry deeply triggered...by something else.... |
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Jun 21, 2008, 04:33 PM
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((((((((((((((((((Freewill))))))))))))))))))
I felt the same when the british crown prosecution service threw it out because it happened when i wasyounger ... the police took 2 statements, opening up old wounds, promised to keep in touch and never have regarding his wherabouts, other crimes etc .....my mother, who was one of my abusers told the police a pack of lies to protect herself .... she also saw a pic of a man of the same name in London who had been arrested for child abuse and she told them it wasn't him (prolly to protect herself, not me)it had to be him, the same age and everything, yet i wasn't allowed to see the pic  effing crazy, stupid pathetic world we live in.it is always the victimes who suffer over and over .... wish i could give you some comfort, just know i am here for you Kerry xoxoxoxoxoxo |
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Jun 21, 2008, 06:32 PM
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i am so sorry jinnyann that's frustrating.....i had something similar happen
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Jun 21, 2008, 08:16 PM
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freewill,
I'm a lawyer. I think the lawyer you went to was wrong. Legally and morally. I'm sorry this has been part of your experience. mtd |
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Jun 22, 2008, 10:41 AM
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When I went to the Police, it was no big deal. Just boys being boys, etc. Yeah right, when I was a boy I always sexually abused other boys. How stupid is that. I was told to just keep my mouth shut and go home. This was 1965 and it was no big deal then. Well, I'm glad to see how things changed.
If I would have had a real confrontation, I may have killed him during it. I did one time tell him if he didn't stop trying to hit on my then girlfriend, who is now my wife I would tell everyone what he did to me. He left her alone then. I feel this pain you are expressing. |
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