Is this abuse?

I'm posting on behalf of my girlfriend (reddevil) because she feels very fragile when discussing this but would like some answers.

ok...

When she was younger her parents, mostly her father though, in my opinion, abused her.

An example of this is that when she was a child she went to a national trust building with her family. She cant remember what she did but in response her father hit her and this threw her onto the cobbled floor in a room full of people. A woman from the NSPCC was in the room at the time and spoke out against it.

There were many incidents like this in her past of varying degrees and she is very confused as to whether this could be counted as abuse or not.

Other instances have included times when she has been crying and having 'i'll give you something to cry about' yelled at her, to be slapped and called a *****, to be hit so hard she goes flying, to be shaken bodily until she felt sick and having to learn to cry silently because crying out loud will get her told off.

id definitely say that is abuse... physical and emotional at least
((((((((((reddevil)))) if ok

(((((Blue)))))

Is perfectly ok to give hugs

and thanks.

That is physical, verbal, and emotional abuse. I'm sorry she had to go through with that, but she's very fortunate to have someone who obviously cares so much. (((HUGS))) to both of you.

((((((((((reddevil))))))))))

nobody, especially a child, deserves to be treated that way.

lost

Yes, what you describe, definitely is abuse. It is conduct, worthy of criminal prosecution. You cannot assault another, just because they are your children.

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Malachite said:
It is conduct, worthy of criminal prosecution.

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Those.. those be big words. Not in size, but in magnitude..

I couldn't do that. Don't say I should, that it's deserved.. because I couldn't and I wouldn't..

Sounds like abuse to me.

(((((((((Red))))))))))))

F.Y.I. I hear the grey devil is quite cool

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F.Y.I. I hear the grey devil is quite cool



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Grey devil?

((((( Reddevil )))))

child abuse!

I wish every parent was responsible for their childrens health - anything where injuries later cause arthritis, or other physical difficulties with functioning.

The mental torment of physical, emotional and verbal abuse that requires therapy for adult children, in order to help them function and learn what is impossible in an abusive home - within reason - until that child is grown (30 years), like they have now for reporting sexual abuse, should be the responsibility of the abuser to pay for in full.

If parents knew their moments of anger and frustration taken out on their child would be a financial responsibility for years to come, I personally feel child abuse would go down in the families that are working, literate and trackable.

Imagine parents having to pay for therapy for years, and pain management, and if they really scarred their kids even more, surgeries, etc. I think that is justice.

This is a way to make people think before they raised a hand to little children in their obedient care.

It's a dream of mine to make the reasonable part of this a reality.

Maybe someday, society will discourage it altogether through a not tolerance advocacy.
Kripes, they fight an imagined war on drugs, why not a child abuser.

Right now, realizing child abuse and verbalizing it to the family, when you are safely distanced, is helpful to stopping the cycle of abuse in your own life.

If it goes unoticed, or rationalized, it can repeat in families where the adults were abused kids themselves.

No, no no - there is no reason to harm a child because they are in your care ... period.

peace and comfort,
nightbird

physical abuse by parents is so common, it's scary.

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(((griffe)))

thank you for the hugs, they are always welcome

Thank you nightbird for your post as well.. there is definitely a lot i didn't learn, that I guess I have to find a way to learn now.

i have a hard time excepting what abuse is .... but i do think that that is abuse.....no child deserves that .... (listening to my own words in disbelief) you didn't ask to be hurt like that and even if you did you weren't old enough to make that decision .... no matter how bad your behavior might have been and i am not saying it was bad .... but even if it was you don't deserve that..... safe and gentile hugs if you want them .....

I regret, having upset you. You are a sweet, young woman.

Hugs and prayers to heal-Angel

*hugs blueangel*

thats abuse. no question. im sorry that happened to you. its not proper treatment.

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Malachite said:
I regret, having upset you. You are a sweet, young woman.

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It's ok malachite, I probably over-reacted (I'm good at that).

Thank you for saying what you just said.