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Children who have been abused sexually, emotionally from a young age have many different problems.

Some are so badly abused their brains totally fragment and they have many alters ..... this is because they went through so much trauma they had to put themselves ;elsewhere' in their minds to survive ...literally .....

Some, like myself have moments when they go into co consciousness .... not quite so fragmented ..... it takes years to heal, trust, feel no guilt, behave and fit into society withoutto many problems. some people heal faster than others ... it is very hard for a survivor of abuse .........

Often problems dont start until the 'victim' is ready, many years later to come to terms with the abuse.

Survivors often have trouble with anger .... beneath anger is hurt ..... triggers hurt, therefore anger sometimes shows. Control is another issue for some survivors ..... if we feel we are being told what to do or 'controlled' it is like going back to the times we had no control over 'others' actions.

Trust ..... if the survivor was not protected by parents/guardians/adults ...... trust is virtually eliminated from survivors life until healing is well underway ..... rejection, abandonment are BIG MAJOR issues .......

Healing takes a long long time with some people ..... especially if said person also had parent problems ...... ie neglected by parents .... all the above issues become inflated ......

I dont know why i am posting this ... maybe just to give people who haven't been physically or sexually abused an insight to how it is ...... an insight however, is all it can be, because unless you have been thruogh the hell of it, you'll never truly understand the behaviour, feelings, mind or soul of someone who has .....

Jinny

[Angel_of_the_Past]

Very insightful.

[Fuzzybear]

very insightful my friend, I agree completely.

[nowheretorun]

unfortunately i understand exactly what you mean Jinny having been there myself.. sending caring healing thoughts always

[happysappy]

Thanks for posting this, I am at a place where I am really beginning to see how the abuse effects me, some 39 yrs. later. It helped to read this because it is what I feel. I am so super sensitive to criticism, it is hard to trust someone who breaks trust for me, so hard to forgive. I wish I wasn't like this, but I am .

[Fuzzybear]

"rejection, abandonment are big major issues"

[multipixie9]

Ya know, I have a lot of alters and it is still hard for me to stop the denial. It is so hard to admit how bad it really was; I was too good at hiding the truth from myself. What helped me survive childhood keeps messing up adulthood!!! ARGGGGHHHH!!!!

You really spoke it truly, Jinnyann, when trust is so betrayed it is terribly hard to ever trust again. It is so easy to run and hide when the slightest thing happens to me and I don't want to keep on doing that.

I hate the word abandonment. It is one of the hardest areas for me to acknowledge - that there was absolutely no one who ever did right by me - of all the adults in my life. I know it is hard to believe a statement like this, but I'm not even exaggerating, it was true.

Being alone is what I do best...and it is a curse.

Leslie

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So sorry for us all ..... we should never have had to deal or live with sexual/emotional abuse so young ......

I forgot to mention being hyper sensitive to critisism ...... thankyou for that ..... one of my biggest downfalls or whatever you want to call it .... i dont take critisism well, i go all defensive because I'm trying to stick up for ME and it comes out as being aggressive. Something i have to learn to put right.

Jinny xx

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