want to just be held by someone safe

Hello, I'm new here. I chose the name "flier" b/c someday I hope to soar...to get above all of this and succeed in life. I've had physical abuse, emotional/mental abuse, and sexual abuse..

I want someone to just hold me...someone safe and to comfort me. I feel so lonely. I've never had/let anyone comfort me like that...I wish I had someone like that in my life b/c I'm going through a hard time.

Anyone else feel lonley too?

~flier

I feel the same way a lot...all I want is to feel safe.

What I am working on is realizing that no one else can make me feel that way, and I need to find that safety inside myself.

But I definitely understand your feeling.

*hugs*
mj

Yes, that makes sense that the safety needs to come from within. Thank-you for replying.

(((((((((((safe hugs))))))))))) if okay

~flier

This may not relate but sparked a recent revelation in my life, you mentioned "someday you hope to soar". . . 2 years ago (how appropriate of a place) I was doing my internship at a The Raptor Trust in NJ, I went with the rehabbers/handlers to release 2 Red Tail Hawks that were rehabbed and ready to be set free, as I watched them soar, in my heart I felt the deepest of my depression was lifted up within the wings of freedom, I soared I have my days and still get meds. but the feeling of desperation to be held, comforted, understood, etc. slowly disappears with therapy and meds from a pdoc, and the wonderful support the people here have given me as I hope I can give to others. Don't forget, you too will rise up and soar, don't give up your day will come just do not set any heavy duty deadlines for it to happen, it will all come about just work with the professionals on it, if you do not like the ones you have, please find new ones. A life, a mind, a heart are terrible things to waste
Take care,
** hugs **
"darkeyes"

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

That's an awesome story. I'm slowly working on gettig better. I have a great therapist to help me.

Thanks so much for replying and sharing your story.

~flier

I used to always feel lonely. I couldn't understand it either because I had a husband and 2 children. How could I feel so very lonely among these people? Sigh. I don't feel so lonely anymore...hardly ever as a matter of fact...I give the credit to my therapist patience and my dedication to finding myself to fill that void. Every once in awhile I feel that crushing pressure in the middle of my being, like there was a gapping hole inside and gravity was crushing me into it, but I don't associate it with loneliness anymore. It just is. I use it to remind myself that I still have work to do, still have more of me to find. But I know all my peices are out there somewhere just trying to find their way back to me. When I find them all I believe that feeling will be gone because there will be no place for it to be within me.
Carrie

<font color=green>Not knowing when the dawn will come, I open every door.--Emily Dickenson

Thank-you. I'm glad you're doing better.

((((((((((((Zenobia))))))))))))) if okay

~flier

I can certainly realte to feeling lonely. Each day is another experience in loneliness. Its hard but you can get through it.

i sure can relate to the feeling you are describing. I call it touch starvation or skin hunger. Inside owies is another term I use a lot. It's very hard to describe some feelings adequately, but somehow it helps if I name the feelings.

(((((((((((((((flier)))))))))))))))

My heart really goes out to you. I hope you do soar - because YOU are special! In all the world - there is only one you and I'm thankful to have met you here. I really am.

I cannot, nor will I ever, condone abuse. There isn't any excuse for it and I think it is the lowest thing any person could ever do to another.

On the otherhand - welcome to our wonderful group. I am not that knowledgeable - I know there are others here with much more knowledge than I, but, I do care. I can do that wonderfully.

Your friend Sam

Anyone can say I love you, but actions speak louder than words.