oh to be held...

you know sometimes...I just want to be held. by somebody who cares. who I know cares. who is safe...and comforting...and better than seeing blood in any amount or for any reason. Right now is one of those times. I want to be held so badly. Every time I see one of my friends I have a little fantasy/daydream about them just holding me...for a minute it would be okay...for a minute I would feel safe. But then our conversation finishes and they walk away and never know anything. I'm 18 years old and I want to be held like a child...held and told that everything is going to be fine.
ignore this if you want. whatever. i just needed to do...something. I don't know. Am I the only one? are adults really children when it all falls down? =[

You are so not alone in feeling the way you do. I, too, find myself wanting to be held like a child. That safety, comfort, gentleness, caring and compassion.
It is so sad that we, as adults, don't feel comfortable asking for that closeness. It is so needed. I wish you had someone hold you and tell you that everything is going to be fine. Know that you are not alone. I am right there with you!

Me

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Can I hold you?

Your post brought tears to my eyes ... I can't even tell you the amount of times in a day where i wish for that exact same thing.

To be held is to be comforted... and everyone needs that. no matter what age you are. And if its any consolation, I'm around your age (19), and don't think it's one bit silly or childish.

I'm sorry your especially hurting right now ...
Feel free to PM me if you'd ever like to talk, I hang out here my fair share.

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Jacq

You are SO not alone! How does being an old lady of 64 and wanting/needing to be held grab you?

I feel for you, Hon... I really do. So much so that I could start crying at any moment.

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GROUP HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!
I want to join in can I join in?? I love hugs and feeling wanted and feeling the acceptance from when i am so down and lost and mad at myself. I hope that being an adult doesnt mean I have to give that up...if so, put me down as a child cause I need that hug every once in a while...heck, as often as I can get it...I am sorry times are hard right now... melanie

I also understand what you are saying and it's not age dependant.

Isn't it amazing how something so small and insignificant can mean so much to giver as well as the receiver.

hello, good-bye, I care, I understand, I love, I sympathize,
I will be here if you need me,
I am your friend,
you are not alone........

Thank you for expressing what so many of us feel.

being held is essential if you are 9 or 90, especially with depression, being held is a 2 way thing , both good for the held and the holder. i'm fortunate in that i have friends who will hold me ,you can't have enough hugs

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I am 43 and I still want to be held, told it's going to be ok, have my hair stroked....I even suck my thumb for comfort at times.....I also had tears in my eyes when I read your post, wishing I could hold you, rock you, kiss your hair and tell you you are loved and you will be alright, it's so frustrating.....

know you are never alone sweetheart, you are loved here, holding your hand in spirit. Wish I could do more....

Love Jinnyann

Hey guys, had to post to this. I have to tell you how wonderful it IS to be hugged by somebody who cares. I have a newly adopted mom. and the first time i went to visit she hugged me, needless to say i wanted to die. Then swiftly got over it when i noticed how wonderful and loving she was. It was and still is the most wonderful feeling in the world. How would you all handle it at first? is it hard for you as it is for me to let somebody in? I love my new mom and I send you all hugs from her. if she were here shed be hugging you all. her heart is just that big.

There is no feeling like it, and i want part of this group hug. I want you all to feel how good it is to be loved. Like my mom did for me. She tucked me in every night. (never had that) Its the most warm feeling ever and i hope you all have a chance to feel that one day. We all deserve a good chance at a wonderful hug and a kiss on the forehead from somebody who cares. In that respect i feel very fortunate.

Love to you all, and great big mom hugs from my mom.

Colleen

I want in too. Big group hugs.

My therapist even suggested buying a big teddy bear to hug. Also, some people get a massage, just for the human touch.

My housemother use to pick me up and hug and squeeze me so hard I couldn't breathe, and then kiss me on the cheek or forehead. There is NO better feeling than that...

I'm totally like that...

There are so many times when all I want is to be held...And that's why Mondays are so special. My one friend who actually has helped me so much in dealing with my depression and I hang out then, and he can always sense when I need a hug/need to be held, and then will hug/hold me usually until I let go telling me that it's OK and things will get better.

Hmm, in a way I envy you all. When I get depressed there is nothing I can think of that could make me feel better, not even tenderness and warmth.
When I'm fine, on the other hand, I love to be emotionally near to a person I'm fond of

You are who you have always been at all your "ages".

I'm 57 and can identify with what you say but also can say that at 57 I'm a lot more comfortable than I was at 18 and if I could go back to my 18 year old self with one message, it would be: "It will be okay." (not necessarily great, just okay :-) I don't have all the stresses I did as a young person, all the needs to prove myself, get a good job, start a family, be loved, etc. I managed to get those "tasks" done well and here I am. Ta Da!

It will be okay, lil bit!

Everyone needs to be held. I feel that every day.

Cyran0