relationship problems

ok...mine just told me last night that we will not celebrate valentine's day to save money....we had a long talk yesterday....he seems to think that the majority of our problems are my fault....just last week he told me that we are broken...he is not happy and not sure if we can be fixed.....i have run around for the past week...being someone that i am not...just trying to make him happy....last thing i want to do is break up.....for a minute...i did blame myself...FOR EVERYTHING !!!!!...he has become more distant....completely unemotional since our move here....I realize now...it is not all my fault.....i really believe he just wants someone....or something different.....he says...at one time he was so sure we had a future together....now he is not so sure.......

Some relationships just end. My ex and I just fell out of love with each other. It's not that either of us were bad people or that one person totally ruined it. The whole point of growing up and growing older is learning and growing both emotionally and mentally. Hopefully you grow together but sometimes you grow apart. That doesn't mean that its totally one person's fault or another's. I ended up a totally different person after 3 years of my last relationship and so was he. But the problem was, we grew in opposite directions. He became more uptight and nervous and anxious and I became more liberal, open, free-spirited. Don't try to blame either of you, it will only cause resentment. Just admit that neither of you are as 'into it' as you used to be and maybe its time to go your separate ways.

I agree with salukigirl. If you've reached a point where you feel you're being someone you're not and always trying to make him happy - I think this is a sign to part ways. I think it's a little insensitive to say you won't celebrate Valentine's day because of money - people can have a nice dinner at home and just be together. If he seems to want to let go, I think you should just let him go. Go out with your girlfriends if he doesn't want to recognize Valentines Day.

I'm having problems with my husband. He is with a serious depression problem and I dont know how to help him. He is acting as a different person sometimes i dont even recognize who is the person infront of me...I need help to help him and help my marriage and my 2 year old baby. He thinks that everything that I do is to hurt him, He say he dont love me and He is tired of this relation..He is trying to push me away because he dont want to have any more problems or fights.

From my own experience I have found that a lot men tend to place the blame on others so they do not have to be seen as a failure...
But it takes two to tangle and two to fix that which gets broken from lack of care.

Idm.... I just wanted to say I am sorry that things are going this way...how long have you been together? Do you have any children together? I only ask because sometimes relationships are worth fighting for as long as there is no abuse involved.
Since you say you don't want this ,what about counceling. And yes sadly we do grow apart and sometimes we have to look at life as a learning experience. I do hope things go your way and you are in my prayers.

Peace

I am lost here. What is the woman's issue? Confused.