Just one of the guys

Thats how I feel. Like I'm just one of the guys. All the guys that I'm interested aren't interested in me. They all go after the cute thin little ones. The only guy who likes me is unavailable situationally. I know I'm on a pity pot over this, but I'm seriously starting to develop a complex!!! I'm just the fun girl that guys like to hang out with. Just like one of the guys. Anyone relate?

Welcome to my life, since forever!

Sucks, I know.

(((((((Rayna))))))

best friends make the best lovers................

Teeeee heeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

yep sure can

Ok so, this is weird. I get a text message tonight from a guy in my homegroup that says, "Hey do you have a few minutes to talk? I want to ask you something." I say, "Yep, just got home." He says, "Shall I call you?" I say, "You shall if you like."

Immediately I think hmmmm whats this about? But I instantly shrug it off thinking, he's just calling to ask a question about the homegroup or AA or something.

So he calls and he says, "Ok so bare with me, I haven't done this in 4 years. But I wanted to ask you if you'd like to go out sometime?" !!!!!!!!!!! My heart skipped....I said, "I'd love to." And he was like "Really? You just made this so much easier on me, I was so nervous, I was going to ask you at the meeting tonight." And I said, "Oh and I wasn't there!" And he said, "Yeah I noticed." Ok....I won't rehash the entire conversation here.

What I will say is that I've known him for going on 2 years and love what he has to say in meetings. He has like 9 years sober, and does social work. I've noticed myself catching his eye over the last few months, but made myself think nothing of it. And now here he is asking me out.

We've been text messaging since then, and he just asked me, "Do you have a dream first date?" Wow, what a good question. I told him I've never actually been picked up for a date. So I'd like to picked up and taken out to eat, and then a movie or pool or something. He said I'd kick his butt at pool so that wouldn't be any fair. He can pick me up and then its a suprise......WOW. Wow.......wow.........WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lucky lucky!

Have fun!

And I do relate to your original post. I swear I have more guy friends that I get along better with than girls. Too bad, some of my friends are ... cute. (sigh, I am pathetic)

But yeah, have a good date

Saturday is the day....doing a daytime date since I already have plans with a girlfriend at 5.

This is not a guy from my usual group, which I'm thinking is probably a good thing. At least a new thing, or something. Tee heeee!!

So, we ended up text messaging last night, getting to know each other, and then we talked on the phone until after midnight!!!!!

I just wanted to change the title of my thread here since my situation has taken a turn and I'll be leaving updates here. We've been texting all day, counting down until the 5:30 meeting tonight. Thats in 4 hours. Long time!

okay waiting to see how your date went and when did ya get home?????

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Woooo-hoooooo!!!! I knew something like this was going to happen for you. I'm thrilled that it happened so soon!!! Yay! I hope you realize I'm going to require frequent updates!

wow that sounds like my husband lol good luck my friend!

So our date isn't until today, but I already have an update.

We were texting all day yesterday, so from the time he called to ask me out on Thursday at 8:30pm, we were talking expect when we slept.

We were both going to the 5:30 meeting, so we knew we'd see each other there before our date today. I met with my sponsor and then went to the meeting and he wasn't there yet. He works until 5. I was so nervous to see him! So we're texting right up until 5:30. He got there just in time for the meeting to start. We smiled at each other from across the room. After the meeting he came up to me and we talked out in front of the meeting room for a few minutes and then he walked me to my car. I had to pick up my friend for the usual Friday meeting at 7:30. He told me that he purposly showed up right at 5:30 so I wouldn't be nervous!!! It was true, for some reason it was easier to see him after the meeting than it would have been to see him before, I don't know why. I had to leave and we hugged.

We texted for the next about 2 hours; I went to my meeting and then a group of us always go to the diner afterwards. I invited him to join us but he wanted to give me time with friends, so we just texted. Then I told him that a group of goes to the college campus after the diner to walk and chat. He said he wanted to join us there.

So we all met up at the college campus and it was just him and me and my friend and the guy she likes. The 4 of us ended up at the usual spot and talked to our respective love interests. It was great, we just talked and talked. Sitting closely but not really touching most of the night. Then the other couple left and he started rubbing my back. We decided that it had become our first date. We left shortly thereafter and on the walk back to the cars, he grabbed my hand. As we hugged goonight, he kissed me......we probably kissed for about 5 minutes. It was that perfect kind of kiss....tender with hidden passion yet to be unleashed. We made ourselves separate because it was about 2:30am.....and our scheduled date is at noon today.

We texted a little bit before finally going to sleep. He's picking me up in a little over 2 hours. We're having italian for lunch, and he says there's a suprise. I wish I could share all of the texts....he's definetely a romantic. I said something about it not taking him as long to get ready and he said I'd be beautiful no matter how long it takes me. He said I have a beautiful smile. But the best one, that I had to share with my friend at the diner said, "I think its 'you had me at hello'" *swoon!*

So the first date was going to be today at noon, but now its the second one.

Oh I'm nervous. Can't wait to share with you all later.

Wow! I'm swooning too!!! He sounds wonderful. I'm so happy for you. I can't wait to hear all about the 2nd date!

Wow girls......WOW. He brought a dozen red roses when he picked me up. We went to lunch at this italian place and talked talked talked. Then he took me to see Reign Over Me, that new Adam Sandler movie. He came in and met my cat and hung out for about 20 minutes until I had to pick my friend up from work. She and I went to a meeting and then she went out with a friend from work and I went to his place to watch a movie. We watched it and talked and cuddled and kissed and laughed. I was there extremely late, it was nearing 3am. I was very tired. I ended up staying the night but he was absolutely respectful. Nothing happened and waking up with him was a dream! We laughed in bed for awhile and then got up and talked some more. I just got home. I have to get ready to go to my family's soon.

HE HAS SWEPT ME OFF MY FEET.....we're texting now...its like we can't not be in contact. He's wonderful, a gentleman, knows how to touch my back just right to give me chills. I can't even begin to explain how I'm feeling, there's no words! I've never felt this way before. He hasn't either. He said he usually needs his space after being with someone for 12 hours and he didn't want me to go. I don't think I would have if I didn't have Easter plans with the family.

Everything was amazing, absolutely perfect. I am sooooo happy right now!!!!!!

Wheeeeeeeee!!! I was doing the happy dance for you here in my chair while I was reading this! LOL.

Wow Ray it made me so happy to read that. This is such wonderful news I'm so excited for you. You really deserve this

He sounds like the perfect guy!

with this man....it sounds wonderful. I am very happy for you rayna...we all need that in our lives.
Keep smiling!
Snow

ray, , i missed this part of the thread.!!!!

take it slow hon. he sounds wonderful! glad you had a great time!

{{{{{{{{{{{{RAYNAY}}}}}}}}}}}}}

im so happy for you i can see you glowing and smiling from ear to ear its a great feeling. enjoy

Its pretty incredible. =) He came and hung out with me and my best girlfriend last night. He met us at the meeting too. I was all stressed out from seeing my family and got a little emotional at the beginning of the meeting and he was like, "I switched into protecter mode and just wanted to hold you!" He's a wonderful man. We're taking it slow. When he kisses me I want to attack him but I know from my past that sex too quickly really messes things up for me, so we're waiting.

The conversations we have are awesome. Conversation just flows. We can talk easily and thats so important. He's shared things with me that he doesn't tell anyone, things only his sponsor knows. He said he didn't mean to let me in, it just happened.

I have to tell him something tonight that I'm nervous to tell him. Its that thing that you don't want anyone to know about you, but I have to tell him. I'm pretty sure it will be fine, but I'm pretty nervous about it. I know I'll feel better once its out in the open though.