Why are some women catty?

Why are some women catty? How should one cope with catty women in a constructive manner? How can one not let catty behavior bother them?

Good questions! We have to consider that they are insecure for some reason, and putting others down or not caring about others is their way to mask it?

As with any behavior by others, the best way to build up a shield so it doesn't affect how you feel and act, is to realize that it really is all about them, and doesn't affect who we are or what we know or what we do in reality. Therefore, it "shouldn't" (ooo did I really say shouldn't?) cause us to feel differently or poorly about ourselves.

It's really easy to withstand such acting out when we do realize it has nothing to do with us. The more you limit their ability to affect you, the easier it becomes.

It is important to not become callous, so that we never consider what others say to us, balancing good advice with any such "catty" behavior.

I hope this helped you. Some people really do act poorly, sadly. But maybe that's the best they can do?

TC!

We were just discussing the differences between what teen aged girls go through in high school vs boys. Girls are much more vindictive and cruel than boys.

Most of my acquaintances are men, all of my doctors are men. I just think some women are catty, judgemental and downright mean.

About 7 years ago I was in a biz before my store((which is closed now))
The biz before was a co op . Mostly woman. It was the first time I had dealt with such meaness and cattyness in my whole life.
For the life of me I could not figure it out. Some of it was jelousy due to I sold a fair amount. But it was my sole living. So you would not think it would not make a difference. As alot of them had husbands with very good jobs. Which in my eyes I thought that was great.
The worst time was when my dad passed away and i was gone for about a month. He passed right after christmas . They cut my christmas lights. Mind you alot of them were very nice too. As they called me and fixed my booth for me . Otta the kindness of thier hearts.
My final straw with them was when a very small group did something to my son. Always comes down to my son...
I said you can screw with me ....but never my kids........ And i walked...........
Walked away from a good biz....
But my kids were more important.
so i have not gave you a answer as I just do not get it myself...
But I do agree with you.......
But remember there are good ones out there too
As there are always good ppl out there
Muffy

I have yet to figure it out. I think some of it is about Venus and Mars differences. Women think differently than men. But, obviously, if we can observe this behavior and wonder about it, it isn't an uncontrollable issue it's a choice. What I find so interesting is it doesn't seem to be about competition for men --- it's just plain competition. Part of it is about this social message that women should be able to do it all. If someone else is getting ahead faster or better or doing more things some women feel it's a challenge. Men are like that too, but, for some reason it's simpler. Fortunately, all women aren't like that and the company of honest women is irreplaceable.