[lola86]

Hey Everyone!
Within the past year or so there has been an extreme amount of drama at my workplace. It is to the point that I have been having anxiety attacks, waking up in the middle of the night, and most recently I just started to cry out of the blue because of the situation. Now I feel like I am bringing this drama on myself and I feel like I am the crazy one!

The drama stems from mainly 1 person, although this person gets everyone in the group riled up and they all end up having part of the drama. There is constant whispers, trash talking of the company/other workers, complaining, ect. This person has made it quite clear that she was treating another coworker differently, and made a bad situation worse with it. It is also very clear that the other people in the team act totally different when she is around, vs when she isn't around. She will make sarcastic comments, and always has something to say about everything and everyone. She has had an issue at one point with everyone in the department. She thinks one co-worker is threatened and out to get her, one she thinks is lazy, ect.

With that being said, I have let a lot of stuff go but more recently(after she has a HUGE blow up with a coworker in the summer) I have let my opinion be known to my manager and CEO of the company(CEO is my sister, as info). My sister will ask if any drama is going on, ect, and I do tell her. I have also let my manager know as well. I get the old, we will take care of it! And nothing gets done. We hired an employee in September to work under me, and within 2 weeks of being there she had complained about the drama in that department. I was honestly embarrassed that we were hiring someone into the environment we have back there, but I needed a second hand.

Fast forward to now, where I don't even want to go to work and I have started to look for a new job. It is so tense, and not somewhere I want to be. It is really effecting me at home and at work.

Now I am second guessing myself and I feel like maybe I should just have kept my mouth shut? At what point is drama enough to go to a hire up and tell them? Am I the petty one for complaining about it?

[Skeezyks]

Hello lola86: I don't know as I have much to offer with regard to your concerns. However I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

[lola86]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello lola86: I don't know as I have much to offer with regard to your concerns. However I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

Thank you!!! I am so happy to have found a place for some advice!

[Ukny96]

Isn't this something you can talk to your sister--the CEO-- about? Presumably she has your ear and would be willing to listen if you provided constructive criticism about the problem person in the office. I would think she wants work "harmony" and not have her own sister threaten to leave the job because of your toxic colleague. Maybe I'm missing something here?

[eyesclosed]

This goes on everywhere work, families, social media, schools ect.. Your sister should be concerned it's costing her money. My grandpa gave me some good advise Keep your ears open and your mouth shut. They need to have a group meeting and maybe some new faces with a new environment.

I think that if it's affecting you, it might be affecting other people at your job too. Is it affecting others? I'm sorry you are feeling like...you re crazy for being upset and complaining. I think you sound perfectly normal. I wouldn't want to work in that environment. It sounds like your supervisor is making you feel like you are making a big deal of nothing, because nothing is being done. hugs. Ps: welcome to PC.

[lola86]

Thanks for all the replys! To answer a few questions, I have talked to my sister about it but she is so fed up with everyone in that department, that she calls them right out. For example, the most recent drama was about something so little, as cleaning the fridge. All department rotate monthly to clean them(we have two) . It was our "departments" turn to do them. We said we would do them at 2. So my colleague and I partially clean one fridge, as it would leave enough left for everyone to have an even amount to clean. We come back into the department floor and I state 2 or 3 times what was left to do, without one person acknowledging me. I know they heard me as the girl who is the main issue goes "oh I hope you didn't throw away my one thing, I didn't put my name on it." and runs out to check. A few mins later another girl states, "I'll think about helping." we weren't busy, they just didn't want to do, and I constantly get ignored when I try to tell the group things, so I was fed up. My sister had asked me if they were all helping with the fridges(I don't know why but this is seriously a huge thing to clean the fridge lol) and I told her what happened. Her being upset, she sends an email saying for them to help and then it all blew up! I was accused of telling on them, ect. I told them she asked and I told her. That drama went on all afternoon.

So my colleague went to talk to our manager about this incident because she is fed up as well. She basically told him that he needs to move us or she is done. He made it seem like we shouldn't have said anything at all, and it got way blown up, which it did. So this is where I'm feeling like I am wrong for talking to anyone about it. No one is one the same page about this. I am now questioning myself if all this drama is my fault for reaching out?

I think they know this is costing them money, and time, but they keep trying different things to fix it. Nothing worth though as Ultimately the people are wrong, and are beyond repair for this job.