[Mountaindewed]

I thought I overheard some of my coworkers talking about me. I went to the manager and asked if switching departments would help. I told her what I knew was defiantly going on, and what I suspected going on.

She said she was hesitant about me switching to another department. She said I’m one of the best and most reliable employees. She said she’s glad I came forward though. She said the company needs more people like me speaking out.

She talked to the employees, and everyone became really nice.

Why would they all of a sudden become nice? Did they feel guilty or what?

Anyways, I feel awful. Maybe I overreacted to the situation. I haven’t gotten much sleep these past two days. I just feel bad In general.

My mom says not to worry, since I got complimented by the manager and was told I did the right thing.

I just have this weird feeling in my stomach. I just feel weird in general. My 3 year anniversary of my last hospitalization is tomorrow, and I ended therapy with my therapist of 3 years. I mean, it’s what I wanted, and I know it was the right thing. I guess I just feel kind of at a loss about it.

[Travelinglady]

Yes, maybe they felt guilty--and rightly so. The one who matters is your boss, and you certainly got a great compliment from her! Do you think you need to go back into therapy? I hope to keep a therapist from now on!

I also have a tendency to feel weird / awkward / and even guilty when I stand up for myself. You did the right thing though. And I think you were given a great compliment by your boss as well. Your coworkers probably changed their behavior because they were talked to. And yes, they need to change (and they needed to be talked to) because they sound like a bunch of immature jerks. I don't think you overreacted. You deserve to be treated well and with respect. At your job, in therapy, with your peers, everywhere. You deserve to be treated with respect. When we are not treated well, it is stressful, it is dehumanizing. It sucks. You deserve to be treated well.

I second TravelingLady's question. Do you think you might go back to therapy?

[hvert]

They are probably being nice because your boss told them that they were doing things that made you feel bad. It could be because they didn't realize how their actions were affecting you until your boss said something? I agree with your mom that it's better not to worry about why they are being nicer. Your boss obviously wants to keep you!

[Mountaindewed]

I have a new therapist now. A guy about my age. I see him on Monday.

I ended things with her over the phone. I wish I had gone into more detail with her. My mom said “just call her.” But since they closed my case, I feel like it would be a bad idea bordering on harrasment. Maybe I’ll see her around somewhere.

I do feel better today. I got a ton of sleep and I work this afternoon, but then I’m off for two days.

[avlady]

I bet that the reason you were talked about was because the people doing the talking were a bit jealous of your work, and the boss even gave you a compliment even suggesting you were one of the best!!! good luck!

[cool09]

That is strange that they all became nice all of a sudden. I asked to be transferred in the Air Force and my supervisor told me that wouldn't solve anything.

[Little Lulu]

Glad to hear you are feeling better. Standing up for yourself, saying NO to something you don't want to do, or doing something that is hard but you know you need to do it anyway ... all of those things are important to do but no one ever said they would be EASY!

I get the same icky feeling when I step up to a challenge, especially when other people are involved. I was invited this week by a neighbor to a political thing I definitely did not want to go to and I said 'thank you but no' and I was glad I didn't say yes. But I still had to deal with the yuck inside afterward :-)

Hope yesterday at work was better for you.

(((Hugs)))

[Mountaindewed]

My manger denied he and my coworkers were talking about me that day and that I misheard. The manager I talked to said she believes him. I mean, I didn’t get accused of anything but mishearing, but now it just looks like I’m being a jerk who is starting stuff and trying to get people into trouble.

The thing is, I’m not totally sure I misheard.

It’s best just to lay low for awhile.

[Mountaindewed]

I apologized to him. I said “sorry about the other day. For mishearing.” He seemed mildly annoyed, but we were fine the rest off the day.

I was still worried about it. I mentioned it to another coworker a couple hours later. I asked if the manager was mad at me.

I think I made a huge mistake.

I’m so worried I’m going to get in trouble/a possible write up for not letting it go.

I am actually terrified.

Also, my work performance was really lacking today. I was defiently having an off day.

I am working a very easy shift tomorrow. Which was supposed to be my day off. Only a couple other people were asked to come in.

I don’t know. Maybe I’m worrying for nothing.

Can you distract yourself by doing something you enjoy? I know these are your thoughts and feelings, and they're valid, but maybe you made it into a bigger thing (in your mind) than it really needs to be. Reassess later.

How are you doing today, Boz?

[Mountaindewed]

A lot of stuff happened today. Nothing bad. But based on the things that happened, I realized something.

My social awkwardness and me Being anti social, is actually helping me be sucessful at my job.

They want someone who’s going to not talk to anyone, and just focous on getting the work done.

So being so awkward is actually helping me achieve my goals.

I just realized that today.

Originally Posted by Bozdickens

A lot of stuff happened today. Nothing bad. But based on the things that happened, I realized something.

My social awkwardness and me Being anti social, is actually helping me be sucessful at my job.

They want someone who’s going to not talk to anyone, and just focous on getting the work done.

So being so awkward is actually helping me achieve my goals.

I just realized that today.

Awesome!