Mangers think there’s an issue?

Today my coworker told me the store manager told her to stop picking on me. I honestly don’t feel like she is. I’m really sensitive to this stuff too and I’ll often find something wrong and interpret things the wrong way when people don’t mean anything. So for people to think this is going on, but I’m not seeing it myself, is kind of extreme.

I feel like she’s just joking around though. She’s never mean. She’s just a kidder. She does it with other people too. I don’t know where the manager is getting this from. I’ve never complained about her. I wonder if other coworkers are the ones misinterpreting her. Maybe they are not seeing the whole conversations. I actually like working with her.

So if I don’t see an issue, then no one else needs to be concerned right?

Does the co-worker think you said something to the manager? If she does not think you said something then maybe the manager just saw the way she kids around and think she’s going overboard for the workplace. As a business owner myself, while I want my employees to enjoy their job and have a good relationship with each other-I also do not tolerate messing around at work. I want my employees to just get the job done, get it done right and be respectful towards each other.

I’m not sure. She asked me if I thought she was picking on me and I told her no. I’m really not sure where this is coming from. Should I bring it up with the manager or just let it go?

How long ago was it? Honestly I just don’t think you should drag this out. Your manager felt the need to say something to her so they did and I would just leave it alone. I would not bring it up to the manager unless your co-workers job is in jeopardy-in which case you then can try to vouch for her and say that you didn’t feel she was picking on you. The manager might just think she is messing around too much at work and wants her to be more professional. I would leave it alone for now, like I said unless her job is in jeopardy.

I know this is an old thread. But this same issue is happening and I think with all the stress I’ve been under with the holiday season coming up, and the change in meds and me possibly losing all my benefits her messing with me is finally taking a toll on me. Saturday she asked me how my boyfriend was. I was really confused. I don’t remember ever having that conversation with anyone. I am assexual. I’ve never had a boyfriend. I told her I never said that. She insisted I did the walked away to do something else. I started freaking out that maybe I did say that and was possibly dissociating at the time. When she came back I asked her if I really said that. She said no I didn’t. Then she paused for a second and said that I said it was a girl. Then she walked off leaving me even more freaked out.

I don’t want to start anything. But that whole conversation really bothered me. Because I’ve been having issues with this sort of things. Thinking I did something or said something but just not being aware of it when I didn’t really didn’t do it.

I don’t like people messing with my head. Sometimes she’s fine sometimes she’s not. That manager is not there anymore.

Can you just tell the girl you are under stress lately (you dont have to disclose why). Just say “Hey, I am under a bit of stress lately and would appreciate if you could stop messing around so much. I just want to do my work and go home.” I think it’s very reasonable and can be said respectfully without anyone getting their feelings hurt.

I agree with Color... try asking politely if she can put a stop at her behavior when she's around you.

((((MD)))) How did it go today?

If you feel able, tell her you've been struggling and are confused and stressed about what she's been saying to you. She sounds like she makes you nervous and if that's the case, maybe stay away from her if you're able. She sounds inconsistent in her actions (sometimes she acts ok, sometimes she acts weird). That would stress me out too.

The idea that you might have dissociated and said things that weren't accurate...has that happened before?

Be kind to yourself. Perhaps you are just worrying and anxious. Anxiety can mess with our heads. What we think is not always true.

I think I might be dissociating in everything. For example I thought I got enough sleep last night. Not a ton but now I’m wondering if I got any at all because I’m so exhausted and I feel like I haven’t slept at all. It’s like I thought I slept but maybe I really didn’t. I’m just having these weird thoughts of situations not happening the way they really did and my world not being real or something. I just feel really confused about a lot of things.

I think the stress of work is getting to me in general.

Or maybe I’m getting the flu. I’ve felt like this before and it’s turned out I’ve just ended up getting physically sick from all the stress.

I hope you can try to rest tonight.

She’s still acting odd towards me. It’s been kind of intense these past couple days. But I’ve been feeling a lot better mental health wise. So I’ve been able to be a better sport about it and play along and not get offended. I’ve also been able to leave work stuff at work for the most part.

Based on her behavior, since it’s so odd towards me, it almost seems like she has a crush on me. She’s 6 years younger then me. The things she says and does, just kind of makes me think that. Maybe she doesn’t even realize it, but she’s sure acting like it.

And I haven’t thought anyone has had a crush on me since I was in Jr. High.

I'm glad you're feeling better!

You sound like a very cool person to be around, in that you acknowledge your feelings but can also step back and allow other people to be different from you! That's an asset in my humble opinion.

It's so hard to be with erratic strangers while suffering mentally or while under stress about something. I used to find it hard at work not to blow up something emotionally, so I think that the fact you are leaving work stresses behind when you go home is extra impressive.

Sounds to me like she gets a hit off being provocative, and that sometimes other people find that amusing/ entertaining but sometimes she goes too far. People adopt patterns like that to be with other people: someone was writing about getting that sort of hit on these boards once. I find dealing with this stuff at work where you have no choice about earning money and no choice about being there all day - it's exhausting .

You are ahead of me in your tolerance of this, good on you!!!!

saidso!

She kept on jokingly teasing me today. I was getting tired of going back and forth with her. I finally asked her why she likes to mess with me. She didn’t actually give me an answer. She just had this goony smile on her face the whole time she was trying to come up with an answer, and she was stuttering and she wasn’t making any sense. Yeah she’s acting like she has a crush on me. Or is mentally ill. It’s odd behavior to have at the workplace.

The funny thing is she has calmed down majorly since I posted this thread in December, and we are actually pretty good friends now to the point of where we are talking about hanging out outside of work. Go figure.