[Mountaindewed]

I left work shortly after I started on Friday and I overheard my supervisor say “she shouldn’t have come in at all. Dumbass.” He hates his job so much he doesn’t care what he says or do. He’s very unprofessional. Should I tell a manager? I know at least one coworker who was there will back me up. At the same time I don’t want to create problems for myself, but his comment was really rude.

don't do it. you don't know who he was talking about or the circumstances. no need for you to get involved. if he wants to be a jerk with other people and say crap let him. is what he says impacting you? then deal with it, if not, then don't. pick your battles. don't be a pain to management over little crap.

plus they could have been talking about someone totally not work related but that they both knew. bringing it to management would make you look foolish.

[Mountaindewed]

He was definitely talking about me. I find it hurtful and rude and unprofessional. A supervisor shouldn’t be talking like that. Plus he says a lot of rude and nasty things about other people.

But whatever. I won’t say anything just to please you random internet stranger.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

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But whatever. I won’t say anything just to please you random internet stranger.

But from NH - New Hampshire? It could be Bernie himself advising you!! Doesnt get more random than that!

[redCanine3669]

i'm sorry that you have a rough supervisor. some people like to be distasteful towards subordinates, even because they feel that they can get away with it. One day I bet he's going to curse the wrong person though, maybe even a higher-up.

[Mountaindewed]

I’m sorry. My response was uncalled for. I’m just dealing with some other stuff and found his comment to be rude.

[unaluna]

You will never be sorry for "rising above" rather than sinking to someone else's level. Partly because too often they are setting a trap for you, so best to avoid it. No need to make things easier for them.

[sarahsweets]

It depends on what your expectations are. Do you want your manager to say something to your supervisor to knock it off? Or do you just want him to be aware of it? Would he retaliate if he knew you said anything? If you just want to go on record about it, you should make sure you have a reason for your manager like- you wanted him to be aware, or say something to this jerk, or to crack down on the gossip and name calling. Just have the reason behind it if you do say something so you do not make yourself a target for this jerk.

[divine1966]

If somebody called me dumba$$ at work I’d most certainly do
something about it.

[winter4me]

Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

I’m sorry. My response was uncalled for. I’m just dealing with some other stuff and found his comment to be rude.

It Was rude.
If you are sure it was about you I am going to suggest something that has worked for me in the past, and that is to just get the guy alone and say, without getting emotional "I heard you say"..." about me, if you have a problem with my work, or with me, tell me."---if you can stay calm it generally works. Ignore his poor attitude. Pretend you are speaking to someone you expect to be professional.
Also, I find that even very difficult people, including supervisors (it was usually supervisors for me) are glad you said something to them instead of to their boss first. But, if this is continuous, and a hostile work environment is created then decide whether you can stay as things are, need to look for something new, or go ahead and talk to the manager, and if the manager is not helpful, go to his/her boss.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by unaluna

But from NH - New Hampshire? It could be Bernie himself advising you!! Doesnt get more random than that!

Haha....but he's one state over, not to say that he couldn't travel to NH

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

I left work shortly after I started on Friday and I overheard my supervisor say “she shouldn’t have come in at all. Dumbass.” He hates his job so much he doesn’t care what he says or do. He’s very unprofessional. Should I tell a manager? I know at least one coworker who was there will back me up. At the same time I don’t want to create problems for myself, but his comment was really rude.

It could go both ways. Not sure how you feel about direct confrontation, but say, hey I heard you say that when I left early. I'd appreciate it if you'd refrain from doing so.

It's easier said than done and frankly being able to time something out matters. I, too, have a smaller thing to address at my own work but gosh, timing is just not there.

Did you go in sick or something? It happens. Somedays you think you can plow through it but then once you get going, it's just not happening. Doesn't give him the right to behave like that, at all.

From a supervisory perspective, a call out gives time to adjust or call someone in. A leave early can leave the shift short handed. But still there's ways around it. Some people are just gruff and rough around the edges. And in this day and age 'tis better to mind the manners than to just let things fly out of one's mouth.

[Mountaindewed]

My supervisor is on vacation next week. So I’m wondering if it will be a good time to mention it to a manager.

Yes I went in sick but the day before a coworker was sick and he was asking her if she was ok and if she needed the fan on or if she wanted to borrow his jacket. She left early and he was all like “feel better” yet when I left I was a “dumbass” I just don’t think it’s very fair treatment.

[TheNightWhistle]

Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

I left work shortly after I started on Friday and I overheard my supervisor say “she shouldn’t have come in at all. Dumbass.” He hates his job so much he doesn’t care what he says or do. He’s very unprofessional. Should I tell a manager? I know at least one coworker who was there will back me up. At the same time I don’t want to create problems for myself, but his comment was really rude.

There's a way to deal with this in a professional manner. You shouldn't tell him you overheard his comment directly but you can ask for feedback on what you can improve on and what the expectations are. That way, you can do exactly what he wants you to do and then there's nothing he can say because he's the one that told you to do it. In the most professional terms, we call this covering your ***!

You would probably have grounds to make a complaint with HR, especially if this is ongoing. Sometimes it’s best to ignore things and go about your business though, especially if there tends to be high turnover in management at your place of work.

[Mountaindewed]

I asked a coworker who was there and who I trusted. She was legit surprised I thought I heard that. She said it didn’t happen and that he has never said anything but positive things about me.

I do worry about my hearing. I have trouble hearing and I have to have my TV turned up very high. I think I should see an ear nose and throat doctor to get my hearing checked out. Because this is not a good thing that’s happening. I had a horrible weekend over something that didn’t even happen.