Ok. So I think I have a problem. Through my breakup, I have called countless psychics to gain insight and answers. I have spent hundreds of dollars so far, and keep calling different ones to get to the truth. Some of them contradict each other, so I keep trying different advisors to see which direction it weighs in the most. Meaning, if most psychics are saying X rather than Y, I will believe that the truth is X.

I cannot seem to help myself. I know I am over spending and accruing debt that I will now have to pay down, but I can't stop. I want answers. I want the truth. I need to know for my own peace of mind.

In a way, I view this as my therapy and therefore, money well spent. In another way, I know I am being foolish and should probably gain peace of mind by myself. But I cannot seem to do this. I was SO hurt through this breakup. I have to say, that they ARE helping me to feel better. It's the only thing that IS helping me to improve, aside from my individual therapy sessions.

I just wish I could stop and stop spending money. It feels like an addiction. It's like I rationalize it to myself --- oh, I'll just call ONE more and then I'll stop.

I think these psychics have become a type of therapy for you, as you mentioned. You are getting comfort from them, and there isn't anything -wrong- with it, if you can afford it and don't feel bad spending the money.

You seem like a logical person. Surely you know that psychics say things and make predictions that will ring at least somewhat true to most people, so often it will seem like they are really hitting the nail on the head when their statement could be true for so many people, and so many situations. Know that you are paying for generalities and comfort, but these things will likely not help you change in the long run, whereas actual therapy can cause lasting change.

Can you perhaps take a break from psychics, just for a week or two even, and see how you feel after the break? Or perhaps put that money towards therapy or self-help books or even colouring books, because frankly that's money better spent.

[Sunflower123]

If it is bringing you some comfort and you are able to afford it, I can understand why you’re doing it. People turn to various things to help them get through a tough time and this is yours. You may find that as you process and go along, you may need them less and less.

If you are going into debt over this, you might need to limit the number of times you call. It might be a good idea to limit yourself anyway so it doesn’t rise to an addiction level.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'd try to spend those money on some self-help books - I'm sure there are tons who talk about how to deal with breakups. You can also use the Internet. Be sure to get some GOOD ones, and see if it can help you.

Originally Posted by scaredandconfused

I think these psychics have become a type of therapy for you, as you mentioned. You are getting comfort from them, and there isn't anything -wrong- with it, if you can afford it and don't feel bad spending the money.

You seem like a logical person. Surely you know that psychics say things and make predictions that will ring at least somewhat true to most people, so often it will seem like they are really hitting the nail on the head when their statement could be true for so many people, and so many situations. Know that you are paying for generalities and comfort, but these things will likely not help you change in the long run, whereas actual therapy can cause lasting change.

Can you perhaps take a break from psychics, just for a week or two even, and see how you feel after the break? Or perhaps put that money towards therapy or self-help books or even colouring books, because frankly that's money better spent.

thank you for your reply.... yes, I should take a break, I really should and hope that I can. I feel like they DO hit the nail on the head -- many of them at least. It's kind of freaky how accurate they can be. And they give great detail.

(((((hugs)))))

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

If it is bringing you some comfort and you are able to afford it, I can understand why you’re doing it. People turn to various things to help them get through a tough time and this is yours. You may find that as you process and go along, you may need them less and less.

If you are going into debt over this, you might need to limit the number of times you call. It might be a good idea to limit yourself anyway so it doesn’t rise to an addiction level.

Thank you as well for your reply, Jennifer. Yes, it is bringing me great comfort in fact. But I am going into debt so I need to stop. I've accrued several hundred dollars of additional debt because of it.

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

I'm afraid that I do also feel these psychics are often unscrupulous operators, who make money from exploiting vulnerable people.

I can understand why you find comfort in them. If they've helped you get through, that's cool.

But yes, at the rates they probably charge, you might soon be broke.

Could you buy a cheap pack of tarot cards, and read the predictions yourself?

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I'd try to spend those money on some self-help books - I'm sure there are tons who talk about how to deal with breakups. You can also use the Internet. Be sure to get some GOOD ones, and see if it can help you.

Thanks, Mickey. That's not a bad idea, thanks.

Originally Posted by Purple,Violet,Blue

I'm afraid that I do also feel these psychics are often unscrupulous operators, who make money from exploiting vulnerable people.

I can understand why you find comfort in them. If they've helped you get through, that's cool.

But yes, at the rates they probably charge, you might soon be broke.

Could you buy a cheap pack of tarot cards, and read the predictions yourself?

Thanks, Purple. Now you know how I've been able to get through this breakup! I do have Tarot cards somewhere, but packed in a box in my sister's garage -- GRRRRR.

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

Whatever helps. It's a tough old world and I'm all for softening it if we can.

You could probably buy online for less than a pound. Dollar.

I will try that... thank you! I think I have an addictive personality, actually.

[Purple,Violet,Blue]

You seem to have spotted it quite quickly.

Yes, you're right. When I looked at my credit card statement I was like "uh oh!!!" Damn. It was at $400 now it's at $800+. With my next paycheck I will pay off $500 of it though.

[FallDuskTrain]

Originally Posted by golden_eve

Ok. So I think I have a problem. Through my breakup, I have called countless psychics to gain insight and answers. I have spent hundreds of dollars so far, and keep calling different ones to get to the truth. Some of them contradict each other, so I keep trying different advisors to see which direction it weighs in the most. Meaning, if most psychics are saying X rather than Y, I will believe that the truth is X.

I cannot seem to help myself. I know I am over spending and accruing debt that I will now have to pay down, but I can't stop. I want answers. I want the truth. I need to know for my own peace of mind.

In a way, I view this as my therapy and therefore, money well spent. In another way, I know I am being foolish and should probably gain peace of mind by myself. But I cannot seem to do this. I was SO hurt through this breakup. I have to say, that they ARE helping me to feel better. It's the only thing that IS helping me to improve, aside from my individual therapy sessions.

I just wish I could stop and stop spending money. It feels like an addiction. It's like I rationalize it to myself --- oh, I'll just call ONE more and then I'll stop.

I believe that here there is a more important question to answer: why do you want to know the “truth” (which is your wording as I am not sure if I agree with the concept but that is irrelevant to my point). Why are you not comfortable with the unknown of the current tragedy? I think it might help to dig into the depth of why you are spending some much money in search for the “truth”? Can you try to focus on experiencing this tragedy for what it is and try to fight the urge to learn more about the future or the truth? Can you learn to be comfortable with not knowing? In life very few things are in out control. And this is one of them. You are experiencing something very tragic and impactful. Embrace the unknown and the unknowable.

Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain

I believe that here there is a more important question to answer: why do you want to know the “truth” (which is your wording as I am not sure if I agree with the concept but that is irrelevant to my point). Why are you not comfortable with the unknown of the current tragedy? I think it might help to dig into the depth of why you are spending some much money in search for the “truth”? Can you try to focus on experiencing this tragedy for what it is and try to fight the urge to learn more about the future or the truth? Can you learn to be comfortable with not knowing? In life very few things are in out control. And this is one of them. You are experiencing something very tragic and impactful. Embrace the unknown and the unknowable.

Thanks... I want to know the real truth because he claimed a lot of things that I thought were total BS. I smelled fishiness, and I wanted to know if I was right, and it turns out I was right. I think I need to trust my own gut and intuition more, rather than seek the validation elsewhere.

Psychics are listening and watching for cues from you as they talk to see if they are hitting anything, and go from there. I think they are skilled in this and human nature. I’ve watched some in action at holiday parties. One hit my personality pretty well, but that was probably pretty easy from the way I was dressed and interacting with people.

My mom saw a psychic that was only telling her what she wanted to believe. She lost a ring that she was sure her friend stole from her, and the psychic told her her best friend stole it. A couple of years later, I was vacuuming her car and moved the seat...and there was the ring.

Why not try posting about it in the relationship forum, along with what you think is real and what you think is BS? Maybe that would satisfy something.

Yeah I am finding that I am getting different answers from different psychics. It's very contradictory. I think some of them are totally legitimate from this site I am on. They have been accurate in the past with their predictions.

[Turtle_Rider]

Read this article: Confessions of a fake psychic: Aspiring actress reveals how she played part of tarot card reader to improve her fortune | Daily Mail Online

I believe people with physic power exists. But, I believe they won't charge. These people don't feel comfortable to talk about their power or use it for somebody else.... unless you are one of them.

I read the article. I am sure -- and there are -- frauds out there. I've probably even encountered some and have paid for fraudulent "guidance". However, the line I call is full of people who pick up on details accurately, without any prompting from me. Details that they could never know anything about unless I said something. They're predictions have also come true -- some of them, and within the given timeframes. So I believe that i have encountered true psychics, hence why I keep calling back.

[Turtleboy]

just be careful golden eve, if you paid by credit card they probably looked you up online to make them seem legit, i've known many people sucked into the cycle of false validation from psychics, they use a technique called "Barnum statements" as pointed out earlier, they are statements that are true for most that seek guidance (like horoscopes) it's a horrendous practice, i hope you find some peace but i hope you will believe me that they know no more than you do and are just pretending to get your money. big hugs

thanks, I will be careful. I've already spent far too much money on them at this point.

Ok, so I spent even more money on them. It's official. I am addicted to psychics.

[Turtle_Rider]

Maybe, you encountered ones with real psychic power. But, it still full scams. I think it is 'accurate' because they give common advice for common trouble.

Even though they truly have psychic power, you should remember these:
1. Your future or current situation won't change too fast. It takes around 2 weeks to a month to change. If you really want to call them, do it every 2 weeks or so.
2. Your future can be changed. Their predictions are based on your current moves. If you change your moves, future will be change too.

It just a suggestion. I saw tarot thread somewhere on PC, maybe you can join them. I think it is much better for you to study psychic yourself than rely on phone 'psychic'.

Actually, I find that most pick up on very specific details pertaining to the situation and to him, the person in question, without me saying anything except his name, so I feel that most I call are the real deal. Some are quacks, and I feel are more guessing or using Tarot cards and guessing. But some have been spot on, freakishly so -- they're the ones who are mediums and don't use any tools. Those are the ones i believe the most and who seem to be most accurate.

I just made my LAST and FINAL call for now. I have spent far too much money and am now in debt because of it..... but I can pay the entire debt off in the next 1-2 months, so that shouldn't be too much of a problem.

I wanted to see what this last person would say so that I could make a decision either way on one question I had. But i am done... I've got to let this one be it for now.

[emgreen]

When I first glanced at the title of your thread, I thought you wrote "Addicted to Psychosis." Time to get the eyes checked...