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Apr 16, 2008, 06:46 PM
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I'm sick of this now...
How do u stop someone you care about so much stop drinking, when they dont even know they have a problem?? I'm sick of trying babyg xxx
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Apr 16, 2008, 07:21 PM
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You cant ! Me and my wife got clean together or so i thought the whole time she was in rehab and 6months after she got .She told me if I ever used again we were done .Which I agreed I've been clean for 2 plus years now plus I love her and wont here back .
Heres the kicker I've been back with her for 6 months now we were fighting all the time .I found that she was using the whole time and lost her job 4 months ago for using in work. What a kick in the head I forgave her and even let her blame me and my bipolar for losing her job so her mom and my kids wont find out the real reason not the first time I though myself under the bus for her . Its sucks so once again you cant . Boy if she read this so mad at me im not apost to tell know one . |
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Apr 16, 2008, 10:41 PM
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It's really hard to be in a relationship with an alocoholic. Basically nobody stops drinking until they are ready to do it for themselves. Addiction is a very selfish disease.
i'd suggest you check out Alanon & see if they have meetings in your area. It's a 12 step support program for people who have friends or family who are alcoholic and I've heard really good things about it. --splitimage
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Apr 17, 2008, 09:30 AM
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((((x_BabyG_x))))
I can totally understand the boat you're in. They have to have the realization that they have a problem FIRST and foremost. After that, they have to want to quit. And sometimes, depending on your relationship with that person, it may be hard to tell if that want is genuine. **Good luck** Perhaps a few friends that realize and see the problem could sit down together and tell this person??????? I don't know. It's a sticky situation.
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Apr 17, 2008, 10:13 AM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
x_BabyG_x said: I'm sick of this now... How do u stop someone you care about so much stop drinking, when they dont even know they have a problem?? I'm sick of trying babyg xxx </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> sorry if you think this idea sucks but it worked for a friend once. we filmed her while she was legless drunk and high as a kite...and played it back to her when she was sober. it shocked the crap out of her enough to admit she had a problem and needed help. perhaps that would work here? again, sorry if you think it's a stupid idea! |
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Apr 17, 2008, 10:56 PM
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I can emphatise with your situation totally because my mother is an alcoholic &i blamed this on my drug addiction but I can see now that I make my own decisions and cannot blame anybody else for my own mistakes. I am not living at home because I am at uni but when I come home its terrible, I love and hate my mother &its taken a long time to come to terms with her addicition. But I have come to accept that "cest la vie" nothing is going to change because she doesnt recognise the problem. Try to stay strong i kno its hard.
Caitlin |
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Apr 19, 2008, 12:37 PM
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My husband has been drinking since I met him, I understand exactly how you feel. I've tried everything to encourage him to quit.....he won't. I think the only way he will quit is if he decides he truly wants too. Our children and I will be long gone out of his life by then. In some aspect I am hopeless, I believe he will never quit and he will die this way.
It's very hopeless, it's a horrible feeling knowing you can't change the person you love to do better for themselves and for everybody else too. |
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Apr 20, 2008, 04:41 PM
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Thanks guys x x x
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~ HEY! I run a site on mental health called The Manic Years. I'm looking for some brave souls to share their own personal encounters with mental health. Are you up for sharing your story? Please get in touch on themanicyears@gmail.com. Thank you ~Follow my blog here; http://themanicyears.com Lola Olivia ~ 7/11/11 ~ my reason for breathing Bipolar Affective Disorder type 2 - (2013) 'Borderline traits' Dissociative episodes |
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