please help

when he first arrived in china, he went to a very poverty stricken area and was completely devastated with what he saw. after that trip he went to shanghai where he smoked those ciggs. i dont know what chemical those ciggs may have in them, or if that is even what induced this state of mind. he is now set out to end poverty in the world and started obsessing with what he can do, he came up with many diferent ideas all which are unrealistic. like becoming an over night billionaire and helping out the poor. he came up with many business plans, all which are not feasible by our financial means. he now thinks he already made millions of dollars, when he has not! he is completely paranoid about current events and thinks the world is coming to an end. he thinks that he has been chosen to save the world. he sees messages and signs all over the place, and thinks the TV is talking to him. he smoked about 2/3 packs of those ciggerettes and its been 3 days and he's extremely energetic and cannot stop talking. his friends went to pick him up and convince him to come back and told him there was a family eemergency and finally got him on a plane. he is on a plane as i speak. his delusions have not been cleared despite the fact that he was was given valium to sleep. he was told that he had high bp, and he thought he was taking blood pressure medicine and not valium. i dont know if its the stimulants in the ciggs that caused this or its self induced as a response to the extreme shock he had. the one day that i questioned his thoughts (before i knew he was smoking that or being irrational), he got really mad, and he was so upset that i didnt understand him that he was crying uncontrollably for hours! i thought that maybe this was all my fault , so i said sorry (for an hour) , he finally calmed down and went back to talking about all that stuff. its been 3 days and he hasnt stopped. and now i dont think its the herbs. or maybe he's gone so far that he cannot distinguish between reality and not. we cannot question him, he gets extremely mad. i dont know what to do he is coming back tomorrow and i will face him alone for the first time. please help.

Hi Lemath,

You sound frightened and very worried. Is there someone you can talk to about this? Your friend may be smoking a class A drug. He certainly sounds very ill and needs to be seen by a doctor as soon as possible.

You said 'we', do you have some family or a friend near you who can help?

Let us know how you get on.

Myzen.

hi
yea i have his family nearby they have been supportive. its very hard to sit down and hear hours upon hours of bul@sh@T. it doesnt seem like the drug. which was my worst dream and it came true. since i am his girlfriend i come second in line to his family on making decisions. they are waiting for a mood chart from the doctor. she said wait till the results of the blood test come back to see whats up. so well have a diag in a few days. he is fine when he is doing things here, like music, shows on tv etc. but spends alot of time writing codes from the TV. he thinks he is a genius. and makes that very public. he said the psychiatrist was a dumb lady and he was the one that was controlling the session (it was a phone session). when will this stop? will it ever? can it be controlled? how can i hint that he is delusional? i really need to tell him to stop buying things. he cant go to work in this state and i got fired b/c i didnt show! we dont have to worry too much b/c both are parents are moderately well off at least till i get another job, for like a month or something. but if the spending continues i dont know. he thinks everything is free (b/c today he made another 10 grand on the stock market, or in the morning he'll say he made 10 grand, by the evening he thinks he made a million etc etc). he really wants to go back to honk kong bc he thinks he made alot of frends there. in the hotel bill , they wrote "handle with care" next to his name. he interpreted this as "VVIP". he told me that he is the most famous and important guy in the hotel. yea he got alot of attention there, but thats b/c i called them and told the hotel to take care of him until his brother got there to pick him up. he said the store keepers were all so mad at him because he was buying everythign for free, and everywhere he went a huge crowd gathered around him. that is because most of the times he created a scene. i know this for fact b/c people saw him do that. we havent gone out in public yet. what do tell frens , and his work? and my family? they will tell me to leave him. i love him.

Some mental illnesses come on suddenly. And from what I have been told, some become apparent (sometimes suddenly) around the age of 20. Thats what hubby's docs told us.

Wait for the diagnosis...then go from there. Just something to think about. I know you love him. Make sure sticking with him is something you are sure you want to do. Sometimes love isn't enough. Hubby and I have been to hell and back and it's our relationship that has kept us together...things may get worse before they get better.

If you need someone to talk to, feel free to pm me. I love a crazy man (his words, not mine lol) and will help if I can.

Hi lemath,

I agree with 1dayatatime, that you need a proper diagnosis before you can move on with this. It's possible that your boyfriend has suddenly developed a bipolar disorder and is in a manic phase. The doctors will be able to diagnose this and it is treatable.

Once you know for definite what the situation is, then it will be a little easier. It's only my own feeling, but I would be careful not to get drawn into your boyfriend's delusions, he is clearly unwell at the moment, and you need to keep some emotional distance from the illness. I hope you can get through this OK.

It sounds to me like you are a strong lady, and you love him.

Good thoughts to you, Myzen