[Greenleaves]

I feel like throwing a tantrum. I'm all angry and squirmy. I don't like this.

I feel like I need some attention.

[hillbunnyb]

Hey kiddo!!! Do you like to dance?? Sing along to your favorite songs? Sounds like it would be a great time to blow off some steam. You could throw ice cubes too and make it a 3 way scene. Sing, dance and throw cubes. Whaddya think?

[Greenleaves]

I don't have ice cubes. I'm too agitated to dance. I'm feeling very agitated right now.

I need something to calm me down. I want to be calm.

[Zen888]

Do you have PMS green?

Maybe have a warm bubble bath?

[Greenleaves]

No, i don't think I get PMS.

I'm just frustrated because I'm not getting what I want.

Or maybe I'm losing it.

[darkeyes]

There is an old song by The Rolling Stones, "You Can't Always Get What You Want"
Like they say in the song, and it applies to almost all of us.

"you can't always get what you want, but if you try some time, you just might find you get what you need"

Yep, that is true, and to expect you are always going to get what you want is sort of unrealistic. Demanding things, attention,will only turn others off and away from you.
When you grow up, you'll see, we don't always get what we want, and having childish tantrums only makes obtaining what we want more distant.
Try to do something to distract and/or diffuse this, perhaps,exercise,read,hobbies,clean,go for a nature walk,etc.
Even give meditation a try, search deep inside, open your mind to your negative behaviour and feelings, channel that to a more productive and positive direction.
I wish you luck with this.

Sometimes it can be pent up energy. When there is pent up energy it can be hard to feel calm... Sometimes it can be our body telling us we need to exercise. Some good ol jumping around (I like dancing in my room where noone can see me lol). Get the adrenaline / endorphins flowing... Then after a while of that I feel nice and calm... Good old endorphins... Bodies natural opiates...

[Greenleaves]

I don't know why I haven't grown out of having tantrums yet. Once in a while I'll have one. It's like this behaviour never completely extinguished. Low frustration tolerance...that's what I have.

It might be pent up energy. I don't know. It's really late now, 2:10 a.m. but I'm not going to sleep any time soon. I don't think I'll sleep tonight.

It's weird, I don't usually get agitated, usually I get distraught.

Strange moods.

I would try the dancing thing, except my parents are sleeping right now and I wouldn't want to wake them.

I think I'm going to try some hamster therapy. Petting Buttertart might calm me.

Thanks for the suggestions. If I'm still agitated tomorrow, I'll definitely try them.

I feel like throwing tantrums sometimes too... Pent up energy. Do you have a walkman / earphones? I can't jump around too loudly either 'cause the floor creaks... But I can really stretch my muscles and swing my arms around and stuff... You have been doing lots of sleeping, eh? The body gets cranky with that after a while... Needs to move around... But too much sleep and I just feel sleepy and iritable. You are on holiday at the moment, eh? I find that lack of external structure means I sleep a lot and then feel really depressed and tired and anxious and cranky too...

[Greenleaves]

I have an MP3 player, but I don't think it's been recharged.

I think the excessive sleeping is definitely messing with my moods. I did better today, I woke up at 11 a.m. What I really need to do is find something to do during the day. My job hunt has stalled and hasn't been very successful, so now I'm thinking of volunteer work. I mean, I should get some experience and help people if I'm going to be sitting on my butt all day anyways right?

Volounteer work can be a great thing to do! I've spent some time working for he RSPCA and for riding for the disabled and I enjoyed it very much. It looks terrific on your CV too :-)

Looking for a job can be a bit disheartening... I've never looked for one, but I've heard... As part of your degree do you get to do work placement? I just wonder 'cause we have this btech degree which involves one year of lab placement to make it more likely that people will get work at the end. The work is volountary... But it is worthwhile to do that to get experience and to meet contacts and stuff.

Yeah.... Even a couple days a week. Enjoy your holiday too... But it can help the body (and ones mood) to have a bit of structure.

i think, IMO, the best sollution to feeling angry, uneasy, frustrated etc is just to talk about what it is thats making you feel that way, even if it means writing it down on A4 paper, then ripping it up afterwards, or even just sitting at a computer and typin it usually helps, even if you delete it straight after. nobody needs to see what you type, thats just if you decide you want them to. i find singin helps me, as it does others who have posted.

but if you feel these tantrums continue, and you find yourself getting increasingly angry, councilling is a great lifeline, as i well know.

there are many options out there, i sometimes do all of them, singing and councilling are the best for me as you can really vent some frustrations, if you listen to power ballads, real emotional songs, and just sing at the top of your voice and fill your voice with your emotions, it really does help. singing is a wonderful way to release it, i am currently trying to sing proffesional so i do hold a strong opinion of it.

try these out, at least a few times, just to see what it does, and with the writing, you can go as deep into your emotions as you dare, and ripping it up resembles you tearing through your anger, upset and frustrations, therefore freeing you of it.

but theres always the other possibility of talkin on here, as im sure you do do already, im a great listener if you want to private message, and im sure i can offer advice and opinions too.

hope you feel better soon, and like i said, im here if you want to pm me, anytime.

[9874]

Hey Greenleaves, I hear you loud and clear! I sometimes feel this way too. Anxious, agitated, jumpy, nervous, irritable. Losing it. Not having a grip on myself. Distracting myself doesn't do the trick. What does really help to calm me is accessing my emotions. Bringing them into awareness. It helps to write it out, and you can do so here. We are here for you. What is it that you want and are not getting? It's not about whether you will get it or not. You would like validation for what it is you are wanting and not getting, right? So let us know what it is, and I will try to be present for you. Best of luck!
It also helps me to take a short nap, but if you're saying you've been sleeping a lot I'm not sure you need more sleep.
I've found that when I get worked up emotionally I feel exhausted and I crave a nap. Because a nap brings me back down to a state of calm.

[Zen888]

Buttertart Therapy all the way Greenleaves

[Greenleaves]

I like your writing idea Simon. I just don't know if it would work for me because I like to know that someone real has read what I've written.

Good luck with the professional singing. I'm sure you have a wonderful voice.

[Greenleaves]

Thanks for listening 9874. Lots of times it helps just to know someone is listening to me.

[9874]

I'm listening Greenleaves---------

So what is it you want and are not getting.....?
I know that at times I just want to be heard. Without being dismissed, minimized, poked fun of. So we are here for you in that capacity.
Take care!

[Naina]

Hi Greenleaves!
Try your best to get something you want and then leave it on luck. Also if it starts u teasing try to ignore it. It is really difficult but it works...try it

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